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I just recently lost my job. I was making $65k which is unusual for my area and especially because I don't have a degree.

It has been one thing after another since I have lived here. I have been here most of my life.

I am 27, almost 28, and I never had a real girlfriend. I have been struggling to make friends here for many years. My mental health is in the shits.

It is incredibly difficult to meet friends and women here.

The mental health services suck here. I was just released from the hospital a few weeks ago, and there is a year-long wait list for therapy.

I am in Knoxville, TN by the way. It sucks. Depressing as hell.

Came across this woman while looking at one of Kevin Samuel's video. Listed below was her comment for the video.

"I have a high value man and I just listen and do everything I can for him. He takes care of me and my daughters better than their father ever did. I am 37 and he helps me with everything so I will do all in my power to show my appreciation. I never called in to Kevin's show to ask any questions. I grew up with my man and him taking in me and my children was a blessing."

My initial thinking was this.

If you grew up with the man who is now your husband and knew him since childhood, why is it you ended up having kids with another man instead of just marrying this guy and having his biological children.

So I asked her this and her reply back to me was this.

"because I wasn't around him daily. We lived in two different cities that were close but still far enough to only see him summers at the Boys and Girls Club we attended. He wasn't the only guy in the city (lol). I also grew up with My Ex Husband (my daughters father). We're all the same age. I was able to spend more time with my daughters father because he was more assertive and went after me.

My husband now was a bit more shy and was also dating someone else. He wasn't my type He was just a nice friend. His relationship didn't work and my marriage ended. We remained friends and hung out on dates. He was always a gentlemen. One day we had too many drinks and now we've been married 7 years. He said he always knew I was supposed to be his wife. We still to this day are friends first."

Now let's say you were this guy in this exact situation with a 37 year old woman with a little girl that is not biologically yours. Your wife appreciates and loves you but you still have to see her ex-husband from time to time when he comes to visit the kids. Would you be ok being in a relationship like this?

The sister has made it abundantly clear over the years that she doesn't want to be in touch with me. I wouldn't be friend requesting her or anything. But in any case, she said very clearly that me dating my ex was a bad idea. I didn't listen, and sure enough it was a shit show. She ended up in my suggested friends list on Insta and I was thinking about just sending her a message to tell her she was right.

I'm not sure if that's a good idea though.