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So, this might be a long explanation, I'll try to summarize it.
My first love and I dated when I was younger, and split up due to his inability to keep me as a priority, among other things, such as developing feelings for a woman who drove one of our best friends to attempt suicide, and choosing her over me. (She was highly manipulative). For several years after, we kept attempting to be friends, and we'd go periods of time without talking, as I stated, due to his inability to treat me the way I know I deserve. However, I keep coming back to him. We have a lot of history.
I talk to him a lot about some stuff going on in my life, but he never asks me about it. He never asks how I'm doing, and generally doesn't contribute to the conversation very much. I always am the one to reach out, etc.
So about 2 nights ago, he told me he'd been going through short periods of feeling a little bit down. He didn't cover much on the topic, and I told him it's fairly normal for people our age to feel like that, and asked what was causing it. He didn't really give me any answers, and I let it slide.
This morning, we were chatting and he was obviously in a bad mood. I asked what was wrong, and he went on this huge tantrum, saying that I should've asked him yesterday (when, ironically, I did.) And that I should've learned, and I quote, "from HIS mistakes on how to be a better friend". And when I told him he was being a hypocrite, given he never asks how I'm doing and its unfair for him to expect me to be a fantastic friend, he proceeded to ask if I can ever accept blame, anything to make him look bad, etc. We basically had a huge fight about this, with him dragging a ton of other things into it.

So, as the title states, is this friendship toxic? I give and give, but never seem to get, and it kinda drains me sometimes. I feel like if it wasn't for our almost decade of history, I wouldn't give him the time of day. If I cut him out of my life, again, though, I feel like I'd miss him.