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We All Seem to Have This Fear of Failure Yet Never Get Further By Saying 'No'

Right, not really aiming for a full on heart pour-out but here goes.

We've all been in a situation at some point in our lives that we've not enjoyed; whether it was a dead-end job, taking a back-seat in a relevant but heated discussion or a miserable relationship. Why did we stick it out for so long? Did we eventually leave or did we carry on being unhappy? Are we still there and not getting the most out of our lives?

I've not had the worst life so far - I mean, I'm approaching 24, I've got a good career, a roof over my head, loving family and friends and my life s

eems pretty much right on course for where I wanted to be. That's not to say I haven't always had it cushy because I haven't. Let's get some perspective here; I dropped out of college because I had straight U's, I lost my nan, a close cousin, a close friend, dad and my great aunt in the space of 3 years, I had a series of abusive relationships - my most recent being the worst - and I bought a house with that guy, too. Doesn't read like the pleasure trip you were expecting, right?

Where I am right now in life, is because I took risks. Okay, it took a long time to actually step back out of the situation and be able to say 'Hang on, what's going on? Am I doing what's best for me/us/the situation?', but I managed to do it... sometimes. I was once a chronic worrier. Right, I still worry often and it's usually when I'm reminded of something that the panic kicks in; i.e. at the moment, it's when I hear from my ex about something regarding the house we joint own. Counselling taught me that worrying has no benefits and you know what? It doesn't. Think of the last time you worried... What were you actually worried about? Failure? Rejection? The unknown? It's Schroedinger's Cat to the absolute max; how do you know if that cat is alive or dead if you don't open the box? What's the worst that can happen?

In today's world, we're driven by a number of things; love, money, success, happiness. We're kind of over-looking the last one though. We're battling for more money, to be successful and trying to gain peace in the world but we're forgetting to be happy. And that's not just in general, it's in ourselves. If you're in a relationship and you're miserable, why are you still in it? If you're being controlled, couldn't you be with someone who doesn't have you under their thumb and loves you for you? If you're stressed in your job and are constantly daydreaming of being on holiday or somewhere else, why haven't you resigned? Get interviews and go; what's the worst that happens? They say no.

It's my least favourite phrase but it's so true; life i

s too short. Life is too short to live with 'what if's or 'I wish I had's... but it's the longest thing you'll ever do. You've got one shot at life so make it what you want it to be. Take a gamble, take a risk, make a mistake and learn from it. Sometimes making a mistake and risking something/everything, can take you to the best place. As I mentioned, I've been in a series of abusive relationships and I'd fooled myself through them all that I was happy with them; even bought a house with one thinking it was what I wanted. Truth was that yes, I wanted a house, but I didn't want it with him. I'd had a crush on a guy for over 10 years and he got back in contact recently when my last relationship started to snag... I took the risk and replied even though I was with my ex at the time... You can only assume what's to come, but how will I know if I don't grab the metaphorical bull by the horns, and find out?

We All Seem to Have This Fear of Failure Yet Never Get Further By Saying 'No'
We All Seem to Have This Fear of Failure Yet Never Get Further By Saying 'No'
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