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*FOLLOW UP QUESTION*

Link to convo for context: https://imgur.com/a/o7txuuW

We spoke for maybe 2 weeks back in December on Hinge, I thought it was fine until out of the blue his convo disappears & I assume he unmatched. Last week, I get a notification he liked my prompt & decided to match with him yesterday b/c I was curious to hear his stance, as to why he unmatched the first time around. Now he sends this message shortly after & seems like he deleted his account that first time. So if you “enjoyed” talking with me, why didn’t you take the initiative to keep the convo going outside of the app if you knew you were going to delete it? I remember him mentioning he wasn’t on social media & I wasn’t comfortable with sharing my #…still I feel like there could’ve been more effort if you actually care.

Here’s the gist. I’ve been dating someone for about 2 months, things have been alright but the other night we said I love you to each other, I initiated that but wasn’t expecting a reply of the same.
I have feelings for this person clearly but want to make sure that there’s nothing I should be worried about. So I did some digging (I’ve been hurt too many times in the past to not first dig around and see what’s up.).
First thing I find is their dating profile on the site we met is still active. Ok…not promising…
But then I found a profile of them and another person together like a joint profile explaining they were looking to hook up with a third and to contact them if interested.
The other thing I’ve noticed is, my significant other never asks me about my personal life or family, everything is surface. I’ve also noticed they do what I call parroting our conversations. So if I say something they say almost the identical thing back to me or will just ask me the same question I just asked them while trying to get to know them.
Break up or stay. What should I do?

29F & I’ve known a few people throughout my life that just hate doing things alone. Whether it’d be those people that jump from one relationship to the next or those people that just need some kind of company when it comes to doing everyday things (getting lunch, going shopping etc). I’m not sure if I just feel this frustration for those kinds of people because I wonder how they’re capable of just jumping into new relationships so easily, some kind of jealousy? At the same time, I wouldn’t feel happy with myself if I just disliked my own company that much & constantly needed someone there to fill that void, whether it’s romantic or platonic company. I’m very much a loner & have been single for pretty much my whole life, I feel like I’m at the point where I’m so used to it that a man will REALLY need to knock off my socks in order for me to consider dating him. In other words, I’ve done everything on my own including living alone etc, will adding a man to my life be that beneficial? This isn’t meant to sound feminist, I feel like I also question these kinds of codependent people because my mom may be one of them, yes she’s independent but even she’s admitted that she hates doing things alone. Thoughts? And when I say they’re *weak*, I’m talking specifically about this aspect of their life & not overall.