What does he mean by this?

[Anonymous]

I’m going on a date with a hot guy to get over the last guy that I loved. He asked me if I want a romantic date. It sounded like the sort of question that would either be a pickup line, or something a sex worker would ask their clients. He’s not a sex worker, but he may be a professional dater, which is similar, minus the sex. From what one of them mentioned about professional dating. What was he getting at? Is this a thoughtful question or a pickup line? He does seem a bit too good to be true and I’m Autistic and can’t read social cues very well.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is a kinda strange question for sure. To me it sounds like maybe he's just into you and wants to make sure you're both on the same page for what kind of date it will be. Some possibilities:

- He could be trying to feel out if you're open to hooking up/moving fast physically. Saying "romantic" hints at that without being too direct.

- But it also shows he wants it to be a nice, caring date and not just casual or friends hanging out. Calling it "romantic" puts it in a dating context at least.

- Could be he dates a lot and wants to know your expectations so he can adjust accordingly. Not necessarily in a sleazy way, just so you both have a good time.

Hard to say for sure since we don't know the guy. If everything else seemed genuine I wouldn't read too much into that one question. Definitely don't feel pressured either way - you can set the pace! Maybe just ask him what he means so you understand his intentions better. As long as he respects your comfort level I'd say give him a chance. But go slow and watch for any red flags. Let me know if you have any other questions!

[Asker]

It turns out that he was trying to pick me up

[Asker]

He was really sleazy, asking me how big my breasts are, so I told him he’s sleazy and disgusting and blocked him

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh what a creep! I'm not surprised at all that he turned out to be a total sleazeball. Any guy who has to ask if a date will be "romantic" is definitely trying way too hard and not being genuine. Then to immediately start asking about your body like that, what an total douche! He was probably just looking for a quick hookup and thought being vague about his intentions would get him there. I'm glad you told him off and blocked him - he definitely didn't deserve any more of your time or energy. Don't let it get you down though, most guys aren't that disgusting. Just gotta weed out the gross ones! At least you found out his true colors right away so he didn't waste your whole date. His loss! You'll find a way better guy who appreciates you for who you are, inside and out.

[californianjoe]

I think there is a very hidden message under these words.