Why are some people judgmental over someone preferring to date a younger woman?

[Shiningtempest]

I am asking this question because I am confused why some GaG users are judgmental when I express my preference for dating woman in her mid-20s over 30 & above. Holding everything else equal, I'd rather be a bachelor than date a woman in her 30s & above.

[Kelley1]

Obviously it is because they are envious of younger women and they don't like competing with younger when they know they know younger women are more desirable. Therefore, they are hoping to shame men into choosing them over the more desirable younger women.

These women had their chances when they were young and beautiful. Instead they wasted there most valuable years with the Chads and Tyrones, and now that the old hides want men and younger women to pay for their mistakes.

Assuming that you are attractive enough to date younger women unless they are big girls, don't be a fool and let others dictate your life.

[katiesmuff]

Because there are many busy bodies here who just can't seem to mind their own business and keep their noses out of everyone else's business

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Mostly, it’s men who think their value raises with age, while women’s declines.

Give me two men - 25 and 45 year old, both same personalities and nice maturity levels and most women would want to sleep with a 25 year old.

Or she might just marry someone older for his status and money and then have children with men who are younger…

That’s why - Men should stop being shallow about not dating women their own age.

Because it’s a tale as old as time that women love sleeping with young virile men too.

So, you either marry someone who loves you for who you are or you risk fathering a younger guys seed.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Especially now that more and more women are becoming financially stable and independent, I can see them going for younger rather than older guys.

Because they no longer need a man’s money or status, so they can finally f**k with whoever they want - which is most likely - a younger fertile virile, hot blooded male.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s to say - if you are a man who is an ageist and cares much more about woman’s looks and age rather than her personality.

Would be heartbreaking to be an old guy and your young girlfriend to trade you for someone her age… And to add on top of tragedy, even make you believe the child is yours…

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, some girls are attracted to the taboo of young and old, I am too, but the taboo gets less taboo as you start practicing it and it gets old soon and in the end a young woman wants a young man, who can match her on a physical level.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s silly to believe otherwise - you are lying yourself :P

[Chthou95]

Look at from a man's point of view. See women during their 20's want to have their fun and want party n fool around with chad. The 20 year old men who would be good long term partners are invisible to these women. So these men if they do the work have been building their value and working becoming a high value man. By the time they reach 30, they're financially very stable, in shape/fit, have status and have good social skills and confidence. They can now date any girl they want since they worked hard for that success. Now the 20 year old women who were partying and fooling around with the chads are 30 now and looking to settle down now. Now those invisible men they were ignoring are now on their radar. They want these men to wife them up and have kids with as well. But these men dont want them any more. There are younger women who see these men and are interested. Remember, these men are the ones with the options now (if they did the work) and can choose who to date or marry. Why should they choose you when you gave your best years away to chads who had their way with you when they can have a younger woman who's also more fertile n more attractive?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Chthou95 well firstly, I haven’t given my years away to some jobs I was engaged, and it did not work out. However, the woman are all the same in 20s, they all want to have fun, almost all of them, to think that they are interested in anything else but your money is there 20 early 20s it is stupid. So you can of course choose whoever you want to choose but also you’ll have some consequences for that…

[Chthou95]

Good for you. Im proud of you for using your brain. But a lot of women follow that strategy im going to have my fun in my 20s and then settle with a good man in my 30s. They rely on hoping or thinking those good men will be okay with that. a lot of men catch on and dont want ti be the man getting leftovers

[Avicenna]

Women are great in their 30s- you should try it sometime

[Shiningtempest]

@Avicenna I'll pass because I only prefer dating a woman in her mid-20s.

[WhiteSteve]

Ok, so…. if we’re having “real talk” for a minute…. I think aging is a very triggering concept for people, particularly women, because society hammers them with the idea that their social worth is in their beauty, which of course starts running from us after a certain age. I think the ultimate nightmare for a lot of women is being in a relationship and being “traded in” for a younger woman once she reaches a certain age.

Then we see certain men seemingly become more desirable to women with age, not necessarily looks-based, but just their whole overall deal, sometimes with comfortable money involved, and that signals to men that we still have a shot after whatever age…. and THOSE guys are often dating that much younger woman.

I honestly think that that’s a HUGE subconscious worry/trigger for many, many women, and I say that with no shade.

So usually, being dumb humans, we don’t respond rationally, we freak and we lash out and we finger-point and we ostracize. We try to create all these societal “rules” in order to collectively frown upon and rally against things that make us uncomfortable. We basically try to bully the whole idea out of existence.

Its also fair to say that, historically, we’ve seen plenty of examples of manipulative behavior coming from the older party, so there’s some reasonable objections to be made sometimes, as well. If a guy is 50 and his girlfriend is 22…. yeah, I’m probably going to have some questions about that dynamic. Might be all fine, it’s possible, but I’m guessing more times than not, something unhealthy is going on with one or both of them on or beneath the surface.

All told, it’s kind of like it’s 50/50 “mind your fucking business” and “maybe we should take a closer look at the dynamics of this relationship so we know everyone involved is going to be ok.”

[smne35]

Jealous! I'm kidding not listen. Don't matter age if you're attracted to a old dude or young guys attracted to a older woman. So what we like what we like. Don't be bothered bye. Anybody saying anything you both are mature enough and open enough and honest with each other enough to handle the situation. Just live your life. Pay attention to what anybody say about who you're with over your age. Gives a damn long as you're happy and he's happy. That's all that matters. Don't live your life for nobody else so what they think. If your life for you, what makes you happy what you like? Damn anybody else think or say who's walking in your shoes? You are do what makes you happy? Do you feel it's right? It is your life You only got one to live as you see fit. You know the world only moves in one direction and it's forward ain't no do-overs so live your life be happy and content okay, don't feel any other way but on cloud 9, for those who don't know cloud 9 is the highest level of happiness contentness for you that you can be on naturally call it! Nirvana call it Shangri-La wherever you find. Peace, contentment, happiness is cloud 9. You can be what you want to be

[molonski2]

You want to see the looks I get in Australia bro , ohh if looks could kill , virtually always from. women , mostly ugly overweight women working in Aldi or Coles.

I just smile and say " Now you have a wonderful. day " answer " Grunt " .

Why? I have no idea , it's been so many years , I'm past worrying about it , it's just how it is , I know I'm fortunate , and the fact it makes them. angry , why would I care?
Here , not so much , only a couple of people , again I don't care , no one is forced to do anything , people who know me , they know what I'm like.

[ShadezMcgee]

Because a lot of them view it as an age gap in terms of experiences and maturity. That the woman is being groomed by the older man in those cases which is why you see some of the women on here lose their shit when this topic comes up when they also ignore the fact that these women are also over 18 and if they are independent like they claim, can make their own decisions and will have to learn to grow.

[RolandCuthbert]

People are judgmental period. I think the issue with dating younger folks is that age difference is not the problem. It is the age of the younger person. After a person becomes an adult, I don't care how big the age difference is. I am 15 years older than my girlfriend. And it works fine. But she is already 36. I can't speak to the flak about criticism. Folks will find things to criticize you even if you were Mother Teresa. Just ignore them.

[HighValue]

It is often the promiscuous women that have a bad past and don't like it if you go for someone with less of a past. They often also don't like biology and statistics that show after 35, women have less than 1% chance of having a healthy kid, where as men at 55 are still better off than women at 35.

[NathanDavis]

yeah, you will remain a bachelor...

[DextroShade]

It's typically older women who wasted their best years on the cock carousel and are mad that the high-value men in their age group won't take them seriously. Misandrist feminists and simps will also pile on as well but a man who has enough wealth and status to get a younger girl doesn't give a damn about what any of these people think.

[4ngelic]

no one has a problem with you prefering 25yos over 30 yos. 25 isn't a creepy preference especially at 28. the problem people have is if your like oh i prefer 24 yos cos 30yo women have hit the wall and are nasty or stuff like that

[catsmemoir]

Dude.. You're 28. There is NOTHING weird about you dating a 25 year old. It would honestly look weirder if you were dating a woman in her 30s.

[zagor]

So are you going to switch women when they hit 30?

[TheUniqueOne96]

Men aren't allowed to have standards without some stupid, fancy buzzword being used to shame them for it.

[jshm2]

They aren't.

Incels and femcels feel you should be "picking" them instead, is all.

[rachel776]

my boyfriend is 15 years old and no one has ever bothered him about it

[ItsShay]

Is it safe to assume that you meant he’s 15 years old (er)?

[laly520]

if she is young enough to be his daughter or granddaughter then yes it would be hella creepy giving predator vibes

[Pohjolan]

When rich and famous men are dating its the expected norm.

So when women complain about it they don't see said men as having a enough high value for it.

Also jealousy.

[VanillaBomb]

They are stupid and have prejudices. Some kind of bias

[IMPRESIVE]

this is why i always tell young guys to get yours while you can, cause once you get old, it will be much harder

[OddBeMe]

Because you deserve it. And we like Judging soooo much.

[californianjoe]

Because some women don't like to drink broccoli soup

[exitseven]

If she is younger than your daughter it is creepy

[ImalwaysrightOK]

No it's not and I don't have a daughter.

[MrShaun]

She said she was 18!

[RavVid]

Entirely reasonable.