Why are women who date younger men so frowned upon?

Question

When men dating younger women are praised.

Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

As a younger man, I find it highly suspicious. I think this whole "cougar" thing is predatory, and it's not treated with the same level of urgency as creepy old men who date younger women.

There's are many cases of sexual assualt that young boys in school suffer from by female teachers that often go unreported. There are older female relatives that say/do creepy things or make certain passes at younger boys that don't often get checked at all. Long as these things don't get addressed, there's no point of even bringing it up.

Also, younger men are more busy building their life than they are worried about relationships, which is why we are more casual. Committing at a young age for men is a huge, considering that you are taking time, effort and energy away from your goals that you should be fulfilling before you even get in a relationship. I don't think a woman shoyld guide you in that path as a man because if she gives it to you, she can take it away from you. I think that as a man you need to earn everything in life through hard work and discipline, before you even decide to get into a long-term relationship, and an older woman simply isn't going to be as likely to wait that long for it to happen.

TallAnon · Accepted Answer

Anything not standard is frowned upon.

HelpMe06 · Accepted Answer

The world is full of people who like to talk, gossip and judge. I think judgement can come from anything we do, there will always be someone who doesn’t agree. This can go for dating older or younger no matter the gender. Society likes to put pressure and create false notions of what is acceptable and not acceptable, “right” and “wrong”. So that’s why people should follow whatever makes them happy. As long as you’re not breaking any laws obviously and both parties are of a legal age then people need to learn to back off!

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

It's because people think that the older person is taking advantage of the younger partner, even if they're both adults. My virtual partner is older than me and people assume straight away that they're doing something to me. When in fact they're doing no harm and I've been in a healthy relationship with them.

Summeroflove · Answer

Because people get jealous and want to control someone’s life.

Why do they care? It’s not their relationship.

Women who date older men are also looked down on by some. You can’t win with judgmental people.

So long as it’s with the right intent. You love who you love. Don’t even worry about it

Avicenna · Answer

Have you been living under a Rock lately? As someone who occasionally dates much younger women, I can tell you the reverse is more likely to be true.

Guy13 · Answer

All they care about at 20 are learning tricks. Been there and done that. Don’t disappoint. Mine was nurse and quite good with hospital equipment. She could have surely been an engineer.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because of how men are portrayed in society , A Girl is supposed to look up to her man to feel safe and secure and for him to be a protector and a provider and to be a leader to her and the kids , she is supposed to be drawn to his masculine energy an his wisdom , when a girl goes for a younger guy she is looked down upon because she is choosing a guy that society dwells upon , basically saying she is the leader and she is babysitting a younger guy , Most girls that choose younger guys are looked at as being desperate for latching onto a younger guy. To me it’s a bunch of garbage , age doesn’t really play a factor when it comes to me liking a girl I am attracted to , it’s the chemistry and connection that matters , whether she is younger or older than me , I am not going to hate a girl because she is older
Than me and I am not going to hate a girl cuz she is younger than me , I have dated younger girls that were more mature than girls my age or Oder so again that shit to me is garbage , People
That hold age as a deciding factor, are only limiting themselves to someone that could be absolutely amazing to them , Now don’t get me wrong , if she is underage then yea I won’t cross that line , I like to think I am wise enough to not go that route , but I dated girls that were like 25 and I had amazing chemistry and connection with them , so to me that’s all that matters , I am not going to walk up to an attractive girl that caught my eye and say How old are you? How fucking silly would that be lol if the topic of age came up later in the conversation and I find out she is younger or older than me , I am not going to hate her all of a sudden , that is silly to me

Paulalove98 · Answer

Because they don’t think it should be that way around, they think it should be the opposite which is the man being older than the woman to protect her, take care of her, and for the fact of science biologically “she can bare healthier children” now this isn’t all men who want a younger women it’s just some preferences, some people in general want to date within their age range that’s just a fact, if you go out to a store, park, or restaurant you’ll see couples that are the same age, it’s not as common much in real life but there are age gaps still with people, just live your life and fuck what they say. I don’t judge as long as nobody is hurting anyone but tbh I don’t see how someone who’s like 20 or 25 could be with a person who’s 40 or 60 now that’s a bit much…

Enaya · Answer

Well, it's not frowned upon where I am from, it's quite allowed. Individually, I wouldn't go for a younger man though. I prefer older. I know a couple where the woman is much older and while it looks like a happy relationship, it also looks complicated as she is getting older and moving to another phase of life while he's still young and seems to want different things. That's a risk people run in any relationship. Whether the man is older or the woman, it is probably best not to have a huge age different so that you don't grow apart because one of you ages much faster than another. That's my approach.

Berethor · Answer

Cougars? men get old, women get replaced trope, an old woman can't give a child to a man.

Dargil · Answer

Here's my belief about this. I have dated considerably younger and considerably older. The "frowned upon" is the acts and attitudes of younger women. Ageist bigotry. They think they are better than their seniors because of their firmer boobs, sleeker bodies and airbrushed faces. They think that those unearned assets entitle them to the best men. They are jealous when a more seasoned woman supplants them; that it instills fear self-doubt that those seasoned women have secret advantages that younger hard bodies do not counterbalance. And they do. They think they deserve the best men and are mystified when a 50 year old woman captivates us. So they can keep on frowning while men keep on smiling.

SaltyBeaches · Answer

They're no more frowned upon than men who date younger women. The latter is just more common, because women are more attracted to the qualities in men that increase with age and maturity, whereas men are more attracted to the qualities in women that come with youth and decrease with age.

Heterosketero · Answer

I think it has to do with experience. The common perception might be that an older woman with a younger man is taking advantage of him, or people may wonder why she is not married at her age. This of course, is proposterous and a double standard as older men date younger all the time. I dated someone older once and she was by far the most eloquent partner I had, someone to introduce to the family. Persinally reccomend any younger guy wanting to entertsin a realionship with an older woman to do so. They are old enough to know what they are doing, wise enoughbto not hurt you too bad if it doesn't work out.

CubsterShura · Answer

Because there is a higher chance she is not being a reproductive tool in the relationship and that angers people women whose sense of femininity relied on men honoring them for their fertility and men who always wanted control over their women's bodies.

Gibbons44 · Answer

Probably because they are manipulative.

It isn't that an older, more independent person isn't appealing to a younger one used to being dependent and still looking for her place in the world (which is daunting when done alone or without someonewho has figured it out and done it already),

It is that, for older females, the fact she probably won't give birth to his children, makes her just occupy his time greedily. An older man with a younger woman doesn't pose that problem since she can easilymother his child and he can support her, himself and any children of theirs/his as a family.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I think this is something women perpetuate more than men. I personally don't care what age a woman dates. I just don't want to hear her complain about it if dating far outside her age bracket doesn't work out. Statistically speak any gap larger than 9 years in either direction the success rate drops way off.

I once had a woman 20 years. My senior ask me out. I wasn't interested, but a woman I knew got mad about it. She said kind of angrily "she's way too old for you". And I was like, "I'm not dating her, but she allowed to ask who she likes". I just didn't get why she got mad about it. And there was NOTHING between us so I KNOW it wasn't jealousy. At least not over me.

So as I said this seems to be an issue that WOMEN perpetuate.

Pegases · Answer

Because its predatory. Just like it's predatory when an older man dates an extremely young woman. But in my experience, it isn't frowned upon for a woman to date an older man in the way it is in the reverse situation. I think of the back lash Leonardo Dicaprio got, and how seldom is that society's response in the reverse.

Levin · Answer

That's not true.

A girl at work fucks loads of teenagers. She's in her 40s. Wouldn't have surprised me if some were 16 and 17 given she said some 'lied about her age'. She was telling me how she was dating some 19 year old, and to test her I said, 'I'm gonna fuck some 19 year olds'. She was disgusted, without a hint of irony or self reflection.

The double standards and lack of responsibility for women's actions are real.

MrCommodore · Answer

Are they really? Didn't realise that, I quite often find older women attractive.

AlainD · Answer

Sexism that's why, it's horrible, people need to stop caring about other people's preferences, it's non of their business who you want to sleep with, look at the french president, his wife could be his mom but I don't see anything wrong with that, if they love each other that's all that matters.

Exterminatore · Answer

Are they? I don’t frown up it. If they can get younger guys good for them! My wife is 5 years younger than me. If I were not married I’d exclusively date girls who were about 10 years younger than me because I know I can get them. Why should anyone not take the best deal they can get in anything, including dating?

Texaskid1 · Answer

Hmmm... is this something you are into? What's going on in there?

Likes2drive · Answer

Not this older man, I usually like younger women, because they like to be more active and do things , travel and go biking or hiking, don’t get tired very easily. It’s usually temporary when older women have younger men since younger women are still fertile, but older women may not be for much longer if at all so it’s usually for sex. So that’s why you don’t see it as often but to each their own, every should do want they want and have fun if they aren’t hurting anyone

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't think they're judged, it's just people will do what they want, I'd learned to ignore people because I always date younger women.

TrueConfection · Answer

I thought it was the other way around. I hear men called pedos or cradle robbers for having younger gfs and women with younger guys seem to get a wink of approval.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I don't frown upon it. I encourage it. But there are haters everywhere.

Heolurt · Answer

Since when? It's the opposite. When I was 13 and I reported a classmates mom for raping me, I was called gay by a female cop and told to stop whining from a male cop, in fact if boys don't complain to the right people nothing ever happens to the female abuser and when she does end up in trouble people always call the kid stupid for tattling.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the narcissistic men.. think that their PEDO PREDATOR SELF-ASS deserves younger women instead. And not the other way around.  And a cougar represents overused unmarried P—SY.

inhua · Answer

older women get labeled cougars and milfs. older men get labeled creeps and predators. it's pretty obvious which relationship gets frowned upon more.

Mangospacho · Answer

I wouldn’t hate on women who get with younger guys. Like you said, guys get compliments for getting with younger women - I wouldn’t say they’re praised. It gets creepy when a 65 year old guy gets with a 25 year old women, to be honest.

Anemone978 · Answer

Who cares date who you want do what you please.. dont worry about other people..

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Muhammad marrying Aisha (peace and blessings upon Them) is praised? I doubt many would praise that. Many people frown on me when I dated older women. Love is love is love is love is love. I reckon sexism is a thing.

Lliam · Answer

I don't know. I don't see how it's anyone else's business.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

There's an entire section on PornHub dedicated to it, so they can't be that frowned upon!

SpokenTruth · Answer

It's not women who date younger men that is frowned upon, it's men that date younger women that is frowned upon and that is easily provable too.

chicosuave · Answer

i think i had sex with a 50 year old a couple of years ago.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

They aren't. No one gives the slightest fuck

LiamJHayden · Answer

No idea, but I usually date older and the phenomenon has torpedoed a few decent relationships I've had.

SunnyRS · Answer

They should not be, there is nothing wrong in that according to me.  But in some places they are reason being it's not the societal structure I guess.

backdoorman · Answer

I feel like it's actually the opposite. Cougars are judged less harshly than dirty old men.

UncleBilll · Answer

I find the opposite.. when I date a younger girl I get labled as a rapist.. for girls she's a cougar

JohnK123 · Answer

Lmao I don’t mind - I’d rather have an older lady with me (older than me at least) than an immature one

Alex8736 · Answer

age is just a number but it all comes down to maturity level, sense of humor and can have intelligent conversation

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Probably jealousy from older men claiming that they're robbing the legal cradle. I say go get that young meat!

OddBeMe · Answer

Because you’re witch whores who will burn in witch hell.

Manab · Answer

Men too get heat in dating younger women, people hate others for all sorts of reasons. If both like each other, nothing matters.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I haven't seen anything like that happen, personally.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Any young man that goes for older woman is sick.

rosemilk · Answer

because society is sick

riverrat3 · Answer

other ladies are jealous, the older guys are too

sattiie2607 · Answer

That's the society build up and it's got used to that. I don't feel it's bad though

robocop666 · Answer

I would date JLO, Salma Heyek or Shania Twain no problem.

Nuthouse · Answer

I think it’s because of society has always seen it as man older woman younger

loveslongnails · Answer

How much younger are we talking about?

zagor · Answer

Uh, what makes you think they are?

sheenagwapa · Answer

gender bias

Guanfei · Answer

Lol, that's exactly the opposite.

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