Why are women hated on for dating younger men?

[WowwGirl]

After all, any girl can get someone older..

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I've said on here before that I prefer to date younger men. Guys my age can't keep up with me or my lifestyle.
Guys my age want to drink coffee and watch birds😂. They aren't in their sexual prime anymore.
No, thank you

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+1 y

All the females seem to find it okay 🌺👍😀

[dustybiker]

I came with 🍿 for the male responses, but what the heck.
Some woman reach their prime later. Where they finally embrace themselves and their beauty, leaving the jealous hatred they received in high school behind, tossing out all that emotional baggage that held them back. They are more adventurous and feel better about themselves because of their newly created position and experience. This shows through in the way they interact with all people. This can be attractive to younger men. In that case, if free. Why the hell not? Is that intimidating to some woman? Especially young woman? Definitely. Course this is just one given example or many that could cause an older woman to hook up with a younger man and be hated for it.

[WowwGirl]

He's in his 20's I'm in my 30's it's a good time. Plus this way we will die around the same time because women live longer

[WowwGirl]

Thank you 🌺

[hi_it_is_me123]

Because they are many incesure stupid people who are jealous.
I agree with you. My boyfriend is almost 3 years younger than me. I like his energy, bubbly personality etc.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I also dont understand people who call you or women cougar for dating younger men. By this logic majority of men are male cougars since many date younger women

[WowwGirl]

Lol beautifully put thank you.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Yes lol and thanks for the like

[WowwGirl]

Anytime

[MysteriousDarkness]

@hi_it_is_me123
Only women depending on age can be called cougsrs.

[hi_it_is_me123]

What does that mean? Depening on age?

[hi_it_is_me123]

Depending*

[t-8900]

Hun you're perfectly normal band not a cougar. I don't really consider a woman a cigar till they hit the big 4 chasing guys but realistically a woman with an age gap inside of 6 years isn't a cougar to me

[hi_it_is_me123]

By this logic majority of men are cougars? Cougars are women who date male golddiggers so far i know

[t-8900]

not always. They're usually in their upper 30's and 40's. And there's just a stigma to women who get involved with younger men when they are "past their prime". Men will date women at pretty much any age range. My girlfriend is much younger than I am and the gap between us is bigger. I dont see a problem with it. I respect her and dont take advantage of her and she knows it. For men dating younger women I just think you have to have the right mindset. You need to realize they aren't always going to have the same level of mental discipline and you will also need to realize that you shouldn't be too hard on them in some situations. Respect them, love them, treat them well and I see no issue with an older man dating a woman half his age. That's just my perspective on it. Patience is key.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Why should i realize this? If they have a problem with younger girls due to different mature level, then they can fucking date a woman their age. This is so stupid as f. This is why many people date someone at their age. How young you mean? Any older man who date Girls under 25 have no righ to complain about the immaturity of young girls. I mean wtf do they expect? The brain development continues till the age of 24-25 which affect your maturity, personality etc. This is why young people have unstable personality due to not finished brain development. To be honest it is disgusting when a guy dates a girl who could be his daughter. So i dont care about the age gap as long as both are over 23-25

[t-8900]

that makes no sense because you're dating a teenager right now. Just because you are close in age as you say his brain "isn't fully developed yet". Men's brains dont until they reach 25 years old.

[t-8900]

there are couples 20 years apart that make it work. And you are projecting your feelings same as what the poster said. As I stated before it's women who are so gung-ho on this issue, not men. We aren't judgmental like that. there are people at every age range with mental disorders.

[hi_it_is_me123]

No this why the divorce rate is high among people who marry young and people with a bigger age gap. In my experience many women with way older men regret the marriage after they get older since they realize they dont really have much in common. Young people do not really know what they want. However dating someone your age make you grow up together with this person. This means both of you can adapt to eachother.

My boyfriend is going to be 20 in few days. I became 22 12 days ago.

[hi_it_is_me123]

You are the one that judge women for dating way younger men and insult them by name calling them as cougars

[t-8900]

then why on earth would you have even suggested the possibility of being a cougar? Also the reason for divorce is simply no fault divorce laws. As I said the person I am with is younger but at the same time she's mature in areas that I am not mature in. You can't really bring it down to a numbers game. If we did then a man would be a fool to take his chances with any woman in general. There are women in their 50's that mentally never progressed beyond high school and there are women that are 20 that have the maturity of someone twice their age. It depends on upbringing at the end of the day. I had to raise myself for much of my life and I'm sure I would be judged for being a "child at heart". My girlfriend even says I have an innocence about me and she's not the first. I dont want to lose that about myself because I think it's a pure part of me that many have forsaken in themselves. Call it naive if you wish.

[t-8900]

who are you talking to? Have you even looked at my post on this?

[t-8900]

we literally both got the most helpful opinion so there you go. go read it

[hi_it_is_me123]

Your age affect your maturity and personality. This is a scientific fact. 18 years can't be mature as someone who is 28. Yes there may be exceptions. But as i said women's brain continue till the age of 23-25. I also said that i dont care about age gap if both are over 23-25. So i dont care if 24 years old woman date a 50 years old man

[t-8900]

then you should be pushing for laws that people can't sign up for the military until 25 because by this logic the majority of people that protect you on a daily basis aren't mature enough to hold an assault rifle and grenades or enforce the laws. Yet so many of them do that job.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Why do women always get insulted as cougars or golddiggers. I am done with it. If a woman date a much older guy people call her golddigger but if she dates a younger guy she gets called cougar.

[hi_it_is_me123]

"then you should be pushing for laws that people can't sign up for the military until 25 because by this logic the majority of people that protect you on a daily basis aren't mature enough to hold an assault rifle and grenades or enforce the laws. Yet so many of them do that job." It is not compulsory in america so far i know. I agree with you. Sending 18 years old to war zone is disgusting. It would be clever to get professional soldiers

[t-8900]

i actually didn't know being called a "cougar" was an insult tbh. I was told the term and just thought it was a way to refer to a woman's sexual preferences in the same way as sexual orientation or something. If I've offended you over it I'm sorry that's not my intent and I honestly see absolutely nothing wrong with a woman dating guys way younger than her so long as it's legal and consensual. gold diggers are a different story. If you are just dating a man for his wealth and nothing else you're a piece of shit, end of story. Same with the reverse. You manipulate someone into caring for you when really you dont give a damn about them. That's the difference.

[hi_it_is_me123]

It does not have to be 25. But it should be 21+ at least. People in america can drink at 21 for example

[t-8900]

yes but they can still cast their vote and go to war at 18. And we give a drivers license to actual children. That's a huge responsibility placed in their hands.

[hi_it_is_me123]

@t-8900 i agree with your last post. Thank you for your nice words. I thought you uses the word 'cougar' as insult. So i am sorry. In my experience people use it as insult.

[t-8900]

you and me constantly bash heads and come to an understanding later. I think you jumped to conclusions a lot in our conversations. I assure you there are things I am and things I am not. A hypocrite is not one of them. I believe in honor and integrity even if the rest of the world loses those values. If I have to stand alone in what I feel is right then so be it.

[hi_it_is_me123]

"yes but they can still cast their vote and go to war at 18. And we give a drivers license to actual children. That's a huge responsibility placed in their hands." You need to get license to drive. I personally think people should vote at 21+. To be honest kid's or teenagers political beliefs/views are what their parents and teachers are. In your 20s you start critically thinking. In my country you can vote at 16. I vote the parties what my teachers prefere lool but they told their political views indirectly

[hi_it_is_me123]

Voted** i was pressured to vote and so i end up voting political parties what my teachers prefere

[hi_it_is_me123]

Llol it was a funny experience to vote at 16

[t-8900]

yeah thats why the DNC is pushing for kids to vote at 16 here and because of that they've mentioned lowering the age of consent. I do think 18 is the cut off to be a consenting adult. Most nations around the world feel this way too. Her parents know about me, they're okay with us talking. I haven't done anything sexual with her yet, we're waiting for marriage to take that step. So I feel I'm okay dating her and doing it the right way. I'd feel differently if we had just jumped in the sack. I've talked to other girls on here and to clarify I'm actually courting her and will be around her family for that process. that's the difference with me. Honor and integrity are key to being a good person in this world.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Wait how young is she? If she is 18+ and her parents are ok with it, then i think i am ok since her parents can interfere themself in their daughter's relationship when something is wrong. So if they know you well and have eye on you then it is ok

[t-8900]

I had my political awakening at 19, everyone is different. I always question things. My grandfather prided himself on having a grandson who always wanted to understand "why". In his death room confessions out of 5 children and 13 grandchildren he mentioned almost me the entire time. And he was so happy that I wanted to understand why the world was the way it was. Maybe I'm just an unusual person but I think it's best to always ask questions and continue progressing mentally be seeking out new viewpoints. When I was younger a purposefully went out to experience different cultures. Black America, Muslim America, Evangelical America, South Country America. I learned a deep appreciation for all these different cultures.

[t-8900]

she's turning 19

[hi_it_is_me123]

I also start critically thinking at 19 but i needed time to understand everything better. I mean i start critizising my former religion for example. I needed many years till i understand it good enough. Same with my political beliefs. You can start at 19 but you usually need many months/years to understand it good enough

[t-8900]

to put things into perspective a little bit we both want a Christian union. Both of us really hate the idea of divorce and we both want children and raise them in the Church. I actually am the vulnerable one in this relationship. I'm moving to her city, I have no family to speak of, she does. And I am converting to her faith and attending her Church most likely though I am Catholic and she is Presbyterian. I am trying to see if we can meet in the middle on this and attend a Lutheran Church.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Interesting

[t-8900]

some men are willing to put themselves out there to find someone truly special :)

[ohshee]

Well don't put me in that mix I don't hate anyone because she's made sugar bear when I was younger I went out with older women and I absolutely loved it and I would do it again in a heartbeat and fuck anybody else who doesn't like what you do who are they anyway this is your life not theirs come to go fuck themselves lol sorry but that's the way I feel about it aren't you tired of people getting into other people's business or your business I have one person in my life who tries to get into my business and that's my sister and you know what she can do the same thing that I just said and I'm sure she knows that right now she still tries

[WowwGirl]

Thank you sir

[ohshee]

STEVE PLEASE I mean thank you for being polite kind and respectful that you can call me Steve

[ohshee]

And you're welcome.

[WowwGirl]

Thank you Steve

[ohshee]

Thank you for the question as a matter of fact thank you for all your questions I like them all

[WowwGirl]

That's very kind of you

[t-8900]

Might want to ask the jealous women who project on those ladies because I can promise you we men don't care. If you can get it then get it girls. More power too you boo boo
Live your best life

[t-8900]

update: that's not true. I can keep up and probably exceed what you can dish out in the bedroom. XD

[Cotton555]

Women are hated bcz well even if times have changed.. some people think UK.. it's good to date men older than u and all. I don't get it but they just prefer it.

I think it's mostly bcz most of the younger women want to date older men or those of their age... UK.. some people can be bitchy (not the word to use but that I s how it is) and might want the man but a woman who is older than him might be dating them and since they can't get him they say snide comments on something to get under your nerves...

[WowwGirl]

Thanks girl

[Cotton555]

NP ;)

[Finchie40]

Jealousy , my ex was older than me and older guys that wanted to fuck her would make comments and be jealous that she was with me , it’s just like how younger guys get jealous of younger girls going for older men , but all in all people get jealous over a lot of things, why it’s best just to ignore them and realize they mean nothing, the only person that matters is you and your partner , If you are happy that’s all that matters , there will always be people that are negative and jealous of others that don’t agree with your choices , so best thing to do is just walk away from them and don’t listen to their nonsense , and surround yourself with people that are on your side and not against you , Bottomline when you are in a relationship with someone , it’s you and your partner VS. The World , cuz no one else should matter

[Finchie40]

LOL at your update and I agree and disagree with what you said about older guys not being able to keep up with you but it’s the older out of shape guys that probably can’t keep up with you lol but I have to back myself considering I know I could keep up with you lol Bottom line everyone has their own preferences on what they like and age has never really been a deciding factor for me unless she is under legal age of course , but whether she is older or younger than me , age is not a deciding factor for me , It’s the chemistry and connection that matters and the attraction.

[loveslongnails]

Wowgirl... please stop saying hated "ON". It's a silly fad that's going on.
Your question reads just fine saying " Why are women HATED for dating younger men".
Just trying to preserve what little is left of our language, thank you.

[msc545]

good point

[WowwGirl]

I'm not anal enough to care sorry

[msc545]

ALSO, stop saying "waiting on" instead of "waiting for".

[loveslongnails]

Sure you are :)

[TwinkleLily5]

They are not hated on, love who you love but it does look kind of weird when an older person is in a relationship with a younger person man or woman. One reason is because the person looks like they could be the other persons parent.

[WowwGirl]

Any gap even 5-10 years is frowned upon

[WowwGirl]

I get what you mean

[TwinkleLily5]

👍👍

[RolandCuthbert]

I don't hate. If they can catch them. . . I hope they get their rocks off.

I can't see their relationships being any more or less shallow than any other.

[WowwGirl]

Thanks dear 🤗

[WowwGirl]

Are you a cougar 😂?

[RolandCuthbert]

Well you already know my fiancee is younger than me. This after being married to a woman who was six years older.

Life is weird.

[WowwGirl]

No your doing great. 💛

[WowwGirl]

But it is weird yes

[WowwGirl]

Usually top tier guess date older when they are young.

[WowwGirl]

Guys

[Wester1967]

My grandma did the baby trap on my grandfather. She was 28 and he was 21. It was very predatory.


Then grandpa ran away because he was too young to take on that responsibility. Grandma knew too. She just wanted what she wanted. Then—- she forbid my dad seeing my grandpa for 50 years. It obliterated our family psychologically.


My dad never had a good male role model.
We were consumed by the gynocracy

[dustybiker]

I’m guessing that was the extremely boiled down version of the full truth… minus a lot of facts. But okay. : )

[Wester1967]

Keep guessing

[Horror_lover92]

Lol my friends calls me a young cougar for liking this 19 yr old. Tbh I thought he was at least 21 or 22. The way he acts and his aura wasn't expecting for him to be that young. I never understood why though, I mean they congratulate older men for getting some young girl but it seems the opposite when a older woman finds a young man.

[WowwGirl]

It's not fair man you're right men don't get hated on if anything they get respect for it

[humpbackjack]

Your seeing things the way you’re wanting to because I see a lot of people hating on men the same if not more but because it’s your situation you’re more focused on the haters in your situation also there’s plenty of people that think it’s great or really don’t care. We tend to focus on the negative comments instead of the positive maybe because the idiots that hate are the loudest or because they say hateful shit but I see a lot more people saying good for you or that they don’t care either way so focus on them and ignore the ones talking out of jealousy

[WowwGirl]

@humpbackjack Maybe I've never been a guy who dated a younger woman

[randobrodo]

Are you dating this 19 year old or just crushing?

[420Rachel]

PERSONALLY I like older men, but if I see a young buck that strikes my fancy, I'll go for it. 👀 Ain't nothing wrong with that lol!

[WowwGirl]

Thank you

[user1516]

If we’re talking about an Aaron Taylor-Johnson and sam Taylor-Johnson situation, then yes it deserves to be disliked. (Do some research on it y'all) but if a woman fro example is 25 and dates a guy who’s about 22 then i think it’s okay as long as he’s legal and can already legally drink. But if you met the guy when he was 12 and you were like 30 & choose to wait until he’s legal to date him then I’d probably judge you. It’s called grooming.

[WowwGirl]

I don't even know who that is 🤨

[user1516]

You should definitely do some research on that couple!

[user1516]

It’s really creepy

[WowwGirl]

And nobody's talking about pedophilia. This is a legal example

[user1516]

I know, I shared my opinion on the question. I gave a few examples to help anyone out. It wasn’t meant for anybody, I wasn’t pointing any fingers. I’m sorry if you took it to offense ma’am.

[WowwGirl]

No not at all

[WowwGirl]

Thank you for commenting 😀

[user1516]

No problem. and one last thing, it is refectory okay to date someone who’s of age no matter the age gap.

[user1516]

Perfectly *

[WowwGirl]

Thank you

[ilyess0]

I wouldn't really call it hatred but it's just too rare to feel normal. cause you know usually it's the opposite . and u're 32 years old. im pretty sure a 32 years old guy can still perform

[WowwGirl]

Not to the level I'd like

[ilyess0]

Unlucky for them

[WowwGirl]

It's a sad thing

[ilyess0]

Wish u luck finding a young man who can satisfy u. Cause u sound freaky

[WowwGirl]

Oh I have but thank you

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I have no idea. I mean different strokes for different folks, people should be allowed to date whoever is a legal consenting adult. I’m currently in a relationship with a woman older than me by 3 years but I’ve been open to dating women older than me in the past. I personally hate immaturity which is commonly found among younger women.


I don’t understand why there is hatred for older women. If something isn’t for you, cool just let others who enjoy that … well ENJOY.

[Avicenna]

Hated on by whom? Looks to me like they’re cheered on when they do it.
the older people get, the more favorable the ratio of women to men, so the less likely anyone’s going to see a problem with older women dating younger men.

my guess is that it’s women who are judgmental about this

[WowwGirl]

Older men too

[WowwGirl]

Anyone can get someone their age dude

[Avicenna]

I've never seen older guys complain about it.

Ones my age can’t have kids anymore

[WowwGirl]

Ones my age usually have too many

[Avicenna]

I sympathize completely- I wouldn’t date a single mom again, even if she wanted to have more kids.

But what’s the main problem with the guy having them from your perspective- that he’s paying child support or that the kids visit sometimes?

[Avicenna]

By “ones my age”, I meant women , not men

[WowwGirl]

That I've went out of my way not to have them so I'd rather not take on anouthers.

[Avicenna]

You wouldn’t be taking in someone else’s kids unless they live with him most or all of the time, which is very uncommon.

[WowwGirl]

Just rather experience it together the first time

[Avicenna]

It’s not bad if he’s had some experience as a parent- trust me on this

[Avicenna]

32 year old men drink coffee and watch birds? LMAO... I don't do that at my age...

[BluishGaze]

I'm not sure "hated" is the right word. It seems socially acceptable to ridicule older women, but I don't know about flat-out hatred. You mean by other women?

I still find certain older women attractive and wouldn't mind settling down with one if I could. Though I would set a limit to how old. Like maybe 10 years apart, maximum.

[Novacane]

I think its due to the fact that for a long time men were judged for dating younger women since people consider it as grooming, and now people are trying to break the double standard and start holding women accountable as well because many people would turn their heads when older women dated younger.

[syxdeep2]

I don't think age means anything and it is immature for people to hate on it honestly.
If it is legal then everyone just is jealous :D.

I think people's sexual prime is BS though. Older men can be just as good in bed if they take care of themselves (exercise and eat well or are healthy) and be better sexually with experience. I can be just as turned on as I was when I was a teenager. It just depends on the female I am dating and their experience also.

[litty]

Hate is a strong word.

The wider the age the more people can't understand why a couple is together other than reasons like money..

Some would say age gap love is frowned upon but it's even worse for older men dating younger women. Some think it's because they are perverts or that it's wrong because it's like kissing your dad.

[WowwGirl]

It's not worse men are considered pimps

[litty]

It's sounds like you are saying pimps as a good thing.

The question, who really cares?

To onlookers, people might think the older person got quite the catch so good for them.

To parents of the younger person, they would be upset that their child is dating someone 20+ years older. It's not what they had in mind for their kid's future, especially if they were expecting grandkids one day.

Though I wasn't really considering your age of 32, I consider that to be pretty young. If you wanted to date people in their 18 to 20s I don't see most people making a big deal out of it. It just depends on what you are looking for.

18 to 20s is considered more more the fun experimental phase. While people in their 30s can tend to look more for stability and settling down as they already have a career and some sort of wealth.

But you never know who you might meet. I know if I was in my 30s or 40s I'd be working out and having sex everyday.

[WowwGirl]

Never know

[Andres77]

Jealousy... that's most of it.

With regards to ur update: Ahem... if I wasn't married I'd wear you out.

[WowwGirl]

Will never know no thanks to you

[Andres77]

You could petition my wife and pay the user fee and maybe you'll find out...😉

[Pj1981]

I don't think guys hate on cougars and the only reason I think women do is due to jealousy but I can't be sure

[WowwGirl]

No one can

[humpbackjack]

Being a man that has always been with older women I think it’s pretty much the same as far as people trying to hate cause I see a lot of people hating on men that date younger women just the same as people hating on women for dating younger men and it’s all about the same thing jealousy. It’s easier to hate on somebody for something than it is to admit your jealous. Seriously just mind your own business

[Twalli]

Several reasons
Historically people tried to have as many children as possible. As soon as women started menstruating it was ready for them to get married. In contrast, men can impregnate a woman at any age.
Women used to be property. When a man decided to marry her, he essentially bought her from her father (dowry). Younger women are usually more attractive and older men can gather more material wealth.

[Twalli]

Update: I don't have a problem with it. My girlfriend is 5.5 years older than me

[WowwGirl]

Good for you