Why do men act as if women are evil for only dating men they are attracted to?

[Anonymous]

All these incels and a majority of men start to hate women for rejecting them or/and for only getting into relationships with men they are physically attracted to. Why is that such a horrible thing?
Naturally, we are wired to be with people we find attractive physically. You do not want to be in a relationship with someone that you are not attracted to at all, now would you? Would you rather a woman got into a relationship with you although she did not find you attractive whatsoever? Would you rather she was with you while actively wishing she had a man that was attractive, and also never ever having sex with you? I think not. And you would not want to be with an ugly woman, right? You want a hot young, woman, right?
When selecting a partner, women need to select someone they feel safe with, someone that can provide for them, someone strong that can protect them, someone they are physically attracted to. I mean after all, she is going to bear this mans children and then be stuck with him. If you were a woman would you want to have a child with an unattractive, feminine, skinny, weak beta male? No. Now you as a man, would you want to be in a relationship with an old, fat, ugly, short-haired woman that looks like a man and has a masculine personality? No.
So stop making women the bad people for wanting attractive men, it is in our biology, just like you wanting a hot young woman is in your biology.

[Lionman95]

Because they think of her as being evil and unfair since guys are said to be shallow if they judge a woman on her looks.
Aside from that the number of guys that are physical attractive is probably low and it has always been low because back in history never had to be attractive looking to get partner. So many guys think it´s unfair that physical attractiveness plays a major role now.
But besides that I think a reason is that many boys and guys are not prepared at all for a relationship so they either figure out at some in their life what a woman looks for or they don´t. They act this way because they are confused about life and are confronted with the idea that they live their life the wrong way and have led themselves on the way to destruction instead preparing to start a family.

[inhua]

nobody said women aren't allowed to be shallow. they just lie about it which is worse than being truthful

[RespectfulGuy]

Hey, young one, no all men are like what you described.

Yes, there are guys who disgraced the name of Man. But by and large, we're a great gender too.

Just like you girls, we choose and we marry and we provide for our families.

Look around you. The old, ugly, fat ones who are married and with kids. Both male and female alike are "normal" people who had lived life and satisfied with pursuits.

Hence the term: retire, which you probably not understand until decades later.

To conclude, thank you for brining up the 0.01% of men who are a disgrace to Man. Look around and you'll see real men who loves, cares and yes, understood life. Mix with these. And your wisdom will grow.

[inhua]

the old, ugly, fat ones are taken out of context and most marriages end up sexless and in divorce anyway

[RespectfulGuy]

@inhua that's a regret of life.

No, not 100% true.

Many marriages worldwide lasted a life time, where both man and woman became old, fat and ugly. And hey, not sex less until they are physically unable.

[inhua]

in the past that may have been the case but not anymore. divorce rates are still climbing in the west and people living in 2nd and 3rd world countries would be lucky to live past 60 if they didn't already die from famine, disease, war etc.

divorces tend to happen the most frequently when one or both partners are no longer physically attracted to one another.

for those that happen during someone's prime, if a better option is out there available to them, these days people will take it

[RespectfulGuy]

@inhua I would have to agree because of worldwide trend and statistics.

But if we merely rely on looks and material wealth as basis for a relationship, it will likely fail when we age or gets poorer.

Again, a regret that love and responsibility are treasured attributes of the past. Perhaps this is why divorce rate is on the rise, because we no longer view honesty, integrity, love and kindness as important attributes of life.

[inhua]

the thing is attraction is biological. not political. for as advanced as human beings are, we are still much closer to animals than we are to robots

sure everyone wants a good personality above all else but you can't talk your way into someone finding another person with a good personality but bad looks more desirable than someone who is the opposite

the treasured attributes of the past are a result of abandoning religion, morals, values, ethics whilst painting false narratives to demonize such

[RespectfulGuy]

@inhua we're both at the opposite ends of the age spectrum.

Your life barely starts but mine coming to an end.

I'm not going to play the number game with you. But I dare say, one day you'll realize we're a lot nore human than animals and robots.

When that day comes, take the leap of faith, not arrogance. For at the end of the day, we all goes 6 feet under.

That's where nothing matters except perhaps a name that people continues to remember, like the skin remains of a leopard carcass.

[RespectfulGuy]

*more

[inhua]

you can't simply negate the physical attraction factor when it comes to romantic relationships

everyone likes to believe they can but it just doesn't happen regardless of age. sure older couples who have seen each other at their best will remain loyal till death do they apart but outside of that, most couples who begin meeting each other at their best or close to their best

[RespectfulGuy]

@inhua I did not say physical attraction is not important.

I'm saying in the real world, circumstances humbled people, brining out the real person should the person face reality.

For example, most people wants to be rich, work less, earn more, retire early

But the real world is, soup kitchen exists and people are queuing up for food.

Why?

That's reality of life.

And yes, looks brings two person together. But it's love that forms the permanent bond.

[inhua]

the last step which is love can not be reached if the first step that is looks can not be passed. I'd say most people are stuck in this phase. it's like trying to log onto a computer without knowing what the password is

the point being there's nothing wrong with something that's naturally occurring. it's the denial and gaslighting which makes it hard to take such claims seriously

[RespectfulGuy]

@inhua while I have to agree with you, there still exist arranged marriages in this age and time.

And TBH, many such marriages endured a lifetime.

[Anonymous]

You're making all kinds of false assumptions here hun. Most guys don't really care who most women date. But if you don't want to date a a guy then you need to leave that guy the f*** alone! And there's the rub. Most of your gender can't. Even though she doesn't want to date him she still wants his interest, his eyes on her. So she flirts with him and leads him on and wants him to go away when she's had her fill. You wouldn't like this being done to you. So don't do it to guys.

Also these guys are not your emotional tampon. You don't get to look down on these guys, then after Chad f***s you and kick you to the curb, come crying back to these guys to console you. You get what you give in life. Sorry hun, that's just the way it is. Get over yourself.

[Asker]

I have never led a man on. I am not attractive myself, but I am not bitter about it. I just accept the situation for the way it is.
I'm a virgin saving myself for marriage, and although I'd like a Chad I would be ok with a normie too, as long as I found him attractive and he found me attractive.

[inhua]

no one thinks women are evil for dating attractive men unlike women who think men are evil for dating attractive women who are often labeled as creeps, predators etc.

women being attracted to attractive men is natural yet they constantly lie about caring for personality more than looks when they don't

[Asker]

Not true, men have been shallow throughout all history and that is just biology. Men always pick the young beautiful women, and women always pick the attractive men.

I do not think they are lying about personality. Looks are important yes, but personality is what decided whether they will stay or not, making personality the most important.

Men are only creeps and predatorsif they actively try to date teenagers when they are adults themselves. Men are not creeps or predators if they want young hot women in their 20's though.

[inhua]

men don't deny being shallow, not to the degree women deny this. every time a guy gets turned down by multiple women within 3 seconds, there's always this automatic assumption it must've been his personality that sucked (even though you can't determine anything from 3 seconds) and therefore when he asks for advice on improving his looks, it gets dismissed and his results don't improve

how are you claiming men act as if women are evil for their preferences yet turn around and say men are evil creeps/predators for their preferences? nobody says this when women have specific types of men in mind

[Asker]

Ok, well if women deny being shallow and you know that they are shallow, stop being pressed about it. You know the truth anyway, women do not want to hurt anyones feelings it seems.

I never said that, unless they are looking for teens. Kids should be protected from creeps.

[rigmarole]

The more important question is why do you want to be liked so bad by men you are not attracted to? Fix your head. Stop seeking attention from guys you have no interest in. So what is people you are not interested in don't like you.

[rigmarole]

I mean you're admitting you don't like them, you're calling them names like incel, you're stating that they should give you money and shit like that just because you're female. Quite frankly pretty much any guy is going to think you're a dumb bitch regardless of how big, strong, attractive, or wealthy they are. You're a low life. You've earned the hate. Take responsibility for it and sleep in the bed you've made for yourself.

[Asker]

I don't want people I am not attracted to to be attracted to me. When did I say that?

[rigmarole]

You just wrote a 272 word complaint about men hating you as if they shouldn't. Thus the opposite would be them liking you for your perceived desired behavior. You want them to like you while you shit on them. You're a mentally unstable narcissist.

[Asker]

NO men hate me, it is just what I have observed them do to other women. No man has ever had feelings for me.
If a woman rejects a man she should not be hated for it. How is she the bad person for rejecting someone? I see a bunch of men start to hate women if they get rejected, specifically the woman that rejected them.
Obviosuly you are one of those men, and you are making a bunch of assumptions about me that are not true. I have never rejcted someone, been in a relationship yet alone had any guy have feelings for me.
If someone is a mentally unstable narcissist, it is you.

[Asker]

*I've never been in a relationship and never had anyone like me*

[rigmarole]

Hahah you're so full of shit.

[Asker]

Yeah right, you do not have to believe me but God knows I am speaking the truth

[rigmarole]

You should stop worshiping Satan.

[Chayce]

Because it’s easier to cry online & be a victim instead of fixing your problems. Even the ugliest men out there with girlfriends would have to have a golden personality. But incels are weird people in general.

[inhua]

those ugly men out there have loads of money

women don't care about personality if the man doesn't pass the looks test first but money can override that

there's nothing wrong with that but the constant lies and denial is why they receive more problems whereas men tell the truth they care about looks first before personality

[Chayce]

That’s not entirely true. Maybe if the girl was high value herself then yeah maybe money would be a factor, but if she isn’t you don’t have to be the richest or strongest or tallest guy to pull a good looking girl.

[inhua]

a good looking girl is subjective. a tall, rich, strong man is objective depending on who he's being compared to

for example Chris Hemsworth is a HVM in the eyes of many women but he found Elsa Pataky to be a good looking girl whereas most men would find her okay

[Chayce]

But Elsa Pataky is not only a good looking woman, she’s a millionaire.

[inhua]

Chris has a higher net worth than Elsa and is more famous and more attractive amongst men than Elsa is amongst women

Elsa's desirability amongst men wouldn't change if she were broke or lost 6 inches in height. Chris's desirability would drop if he were broke and lost 6 inches in height

[BourbonAndBacon]

I don't think women's preferences mean a whole lot. Half the women I dated said they usually don't date a guy like me. I have a mirror and I know what they mean.

[Nik1hil]

Because women are Only attracted to 10% of men..

So 10% men are sleeping with 90% women and rest aren't getting anything

[Anonymous]

It's not a bad thing. Everyone should date the best partners they can.

But that's not the main thing modern women are criticized for.

[BrightBubblyKat]

They’re jealous