Why would men reject a hot girl?

Question

OK so I'm in my 30's and can't get a boyfriend. Getting rejected by males seems to be a thing for me. The better looking the guy is-- the more apt that if we met online, he'd try to run away within the first five minutes. The only guys who will sort of be 'semi nice' to me are very ugly or fat or weird guys, and even they treat me like crap. I'm very sweet kind friendly outgoing...sometimes during a date I have to entertain the guy as he's just sitting there like an idiot saying nothing.

I just chatted with a guy on the phone...who I was going to meet up with...when I Talk to people they liek to say "i can't hear you" which isn't true...because I speak loud and fine but they just say it not sure why. once they begin saying it really it means "i have no respect for you so prepare for more mistreatment." so he began saying that, and was very quiet sounding like a weirdo, and had NO personality. He said "uhhh well I think I'm just going to hang out with my group of friends, hope you're not disappointed." again not sure why he would say that...it's almost as if if I sound confident and awesome guys just reject me. Again he had never met me but seemed very desperate to meet online...sometiems males reject me because I'm really beautiful and it seems like an ego trip. But again males make me feel as if something's wrong with me... but I'm gorgeous sweet kind nice and down to earth...why all the mistreatment and rejection?

tehe weird thing is...im used to rejection...males treat me like a weirdo or freak...as if something is wrong wtih me... very few act like "omg" shockedb/c I'm hot but again...why would men keep rejecting a beautiful kind nice girl and for what reason? I'm super hot and gorgeous...i would think being with such a gorgeous girl for men would be likea heaven or something but it isn't apparently...i can't get a boyfriend because no guy wants me and everyone just wants to abuse the crap out of me and nothing else. THey however will respect other women even if the women are mean b*tchy evil...they love every other woman and literally just abuse me...why? or reject me. I've had one guy yellling as he rejected me"you have POWER over MEN"! and was running away. I've had guys run away from me after calling me "hot' and even once a guy was invited back to my place and we were going then be just bailed...wtf? that was WEIRD... he even said during the date "youre like...really hot and amazing"... so why reject a hot and amazing girl and insult her for no reason? and no there is nothing I said or did or anything that happened...yes this on guy seemed to not want to go to perkins as we were there or pay maybe so he bailed but still...i know it wasn't the money...its just weird it makes no sense?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I had the same issue too. I wasn't drop dead gorgeous hot, but I am cute and sweet looking. I am very respectful and kind and patient. I still am highly educated and very considerate. But I couldn't get a decent guy. I can now after many years, point out some of my reasons and maybe they apply to you as well.
1- As a person with a low functioning thyroid, I was usually overwhelmed and exhausted from just regular tasks. That left me without any spirit and enthusiasm and confidence, and very frustrated and depressed. Not a good place to be when trying to socialize. I didn't even have many female friends. The few I had also had thyroid and depression issues like me. How many female friends do you have? Do you have any physical or emotional health problems like me?
2- I was trying to get with the wrong crowd. I just didn't fit in. Many many people were beneath me in IQ and strength. And THEY knew it. But I didn't. It hurt my confidence trying so hard to fit in. But they felt intimidated by me. Some couldn't even believe I could like them! Very sad. I didn't realize nor accept, because of my low confidence, the pattern that my few connecting moments were actually with outstanding people. I know that now, and have many such friends. Moving to a much more upscale area by pure chance, proved that even though I could hardly believe my eyes at first. Also, many of the more commonplace people felt jealous of me and wasted no time in putting me down and making life horrible for me. So move, or change your circle of friends.
Not feeling confident about myself, naturally I rejected some really good cases, because I was afraid I wouldn't be able to compete and keep them. I felt more in my comfort zone and could connect with people far worse than myself. Guys could feel that way about you too.
3- By nature, I am an introvert. And that did not work in my favor.
4- Being an extremely serious and busy student, I missed the prime time of best relationships, which was around 16 to early twenties. The best cases go fast and early you know. I was left picking among the leftovers, and they were leftovers for some reason naturally. So I hardly had any good options.
5- yes, I did run into some as*holes that felt good treating me like shit. I don't know. Maybe they did that to anyone who showed interest in them, and I just happened to be one of those who picked thebecause I wasn't confident about myself. Of course, being stupid jerks, they wouldn't be able to recognize my true...

kiki631 · Accepted Answer

Firstly, ignore the trolls who are insulting you here. They are similar to the guys who reject you (insecure guys). The things you are saying trigger the insecure trolls, and I will tell you why. Guys who aren't all that have a history of being rejected, picked on, marginalized, by the pretty girls they dream of being with. Then, sometimes they get one only to lose her because she realizes she can do better. For those saying its your age, horseshit. The most googled porn query this past decade has been milf. Those guys are just trying to knock you down a notch because you realize you're beautiful. There is an epidemic of the bitter guy these days. They want to turn the tables on pretty girls and treat them like crud as revenge of sorts for the girls in the past who have turned them down. I understand it because it happens to me too. there's absolutely nothing wrong with realizing you're attractive either, you have a pair of eyes and a mirror. Don't try to date guys who are beneath your league, it will only make them leery and stress them out -- they will wonder if you just plan on using them, and then they will be scared you will leave for better. Many of them in a relationship will try to neg you and break you down to ruin your confidence and make you THINK you can't do any better. Find someone on your level who isn't insecure. Unfortunately most men are insecure af. Well, most people are... but thats another story and the character limit here won't facilitate that. It sucks, but, yes, beautiful ladies get all sorts of negative attention from insecure men, and women... they are treated as objects of suspicion. They also think beautiful females have special privileges and resent them for that too. They think they have it so easy... not really. I hope this helps. Again ignore the insecure assholes who have said bitter things to you here, and good luck.

justaskin8888 · Accepted Answer

well, I read your post and I know exactly the problem. please note, I do not intend to offend, but to offer you an opportunity to escape your misery.

The first issue I see, is that you are extremely insecure. It is possible to be good-looking AND insecure. insecurity in yourself is what I am pointing to--not your looks. I think you already know this deep down inside, and its time you dealt with it, seriously. Take some time to figure out why you feel as you do.

The second point is that you are overcompensating in a number of ways that does strike the unbiased observer as overbearing. you seem a bit too take-charge, and a little forceful... like, "Hey, hey mister, come here, I'm hot. isn't this what you like, come here and be with me! Now!"

I'll bet in the phone convo you described you were doing most of the talking--and a lot. Sometimes, its good to just be silent for a while to let a guy collect his thoughts and respond to the last thing that you said.

final point. it would seem that with all of this you could be tense or on edge? these kinds of emotions flow to the people in your immediate space. so if you are tense and insecure trying to prove to guys that you are OK, this translates easily. I think you need to take some time b4 persuing anything to just realize you're OK. My gut tells me that there is a bad man in your past, that's done something to crack your self image--like maybe abuse. Something that makes you feel like damaged goods on the inside. I think its time to face the thing (whatever it is) that makes you feel ugly inside. Because no matter how thin you get, or how pretty you make yourself, nothing can hide the feeling of ugly on the inside.

wishing you well. good luck.

GoodBoy24 · Accepted Answer

I think the problem is is that your coming off as weird and they are going right back at you with them being weird towards you and me it will be pretty hard to take a gorgeous woman like yourself so seriously cuz to the guys they feel like you have lots of options and their like what are the chances of me getting this woman especially when I'm just 1 out of 100's of options. Let me tell u something about us guys we want to feel needed in a woman's life cuz that's been evolution so to them they are not feeling special/needed but yet you want that guy to give u what u want. In addition these guys are questioning during the date or online like does she need me in her life or again am I just another option. You have to show them that you need them just like every other woman. Their r not paying attention on the date cuz they are not happy thinking am I just another option and also these guys are thinking I'm giving up on this woman cuz I obviously deep down I can't have you and don't want to take you seriously cuz I will get hurt.. guys egos are so fragile that a rejection from a gorgeous woman will make them struggle to get that hard earned confidence and self esteem back... To me a gorgeous woman like yourself should not be waiting on them to make a move and you with your looks should have lots of confidence but also these guys could be tryin to act cool that they now have the confidence to pursue other women cuz ur on a date with them.. so guys are using u for their benefit so they go after other women cuz they feel they can get more yeses than no's and besides u can't rely on us guys to pursue you cuz with online dating it has destroyed the original way of courting and dating.. also the guys won't court you cuz they feel the dating game is unfair to them and they try to make dating easier for themselves well anyways I hope you find that guy that your looking for!!!

JonnyBG · Accepted Answer

I read your question, which was one thing. Then I read your updates and the way you reacted to people. And I can instantly see the problem. I'm assuming you can't see it yourself or else you wouldn't be here.

But I'm more sure you don't want to see it, seeing as you call people sick, stupid, brain dead, psycho's, freaks, weaklings. Telling them to shoot themselves, need help or shove their head down a toilet when they point it out.

What I'm even more shocked to find out is that this isn't your first question like this. In fact, there's a few stemming over a year ago. Where you pose the same "problem" and have the same attitude. And might I add, also point out your supposedly good looks several times but refuse to show a single one of your "50.000" pictures.

You are you own problem, and I simply lack the life experience to comprehend how to handle such a thing. I'm trying to applaud to your reason here, assuming all of your past questions on the same matter were true. How can you not see a pattern? In total that must have been 30 guys, but none of them want to be in a relationship with you . But you seem to put the blame on all of them. By that standard, I would be wrong not to want a relationship with you?

stealth50k · Answer

People when they are insecure try to talk themselves out of asking someone out if they are too far out of their league. They will say in their mind they are sluts if they are too hot or that they will cheat on them most likely when its not true mostly. Anyone can be a slut and anyone can cheat. The guys that lack confidence like overweight guys usually do this behavior. People feel insecure when they are around someone they are attracted to but don't want to ask them out due to fear of rejection. All has to do with fear of rejection. People get scared and intimidated by a good looking person. They feel they are not worthy enough or that they think you have some boyfriend. If your trying to act single here are some tips.

Never talk on a cell phone when your out on the prowl as it means you could be talking to a boyfriend. If your trying to attract someone don't be in a group of girls. Its more pressure on the guy to ask you out and most guys wouldn't want to pay for all your friends if he just wants you. Don't text infront of the guy you like. It looks like your taken if you do.

That should help.

Anonymous · Answer

Its hard to make any comment on you specifcally because I dont really have all the information.

But generally speaking you have problems with a few people the problem is them if you have problems with a lot of people, the problem is you.

Here are some reasons why i wouldn't date, ask or would be put or or skeptical of a beautiful lady.

I might not feel good enough.

If they tried to extract any amount of resources from me I would assume they were a freeloading cock tease.

If I knew you had never had a partner I would assume you were a train wreck or not willing to make a commitment, so at best my interest would be sexual.

I might be a little bit uncomfortable dating a model or sex worker due to issues of jealousy and or just generally not wanting to share.

I would not expect to have anything in common with someone who had a career in modelling and I am probably predjudice against someone like that assuming them to be shallow, superficial and not having much between their ears.

I would assume a model to be high maintaince and by that i mean coin rather than attention anyone who had the coin to do that could have someone younger and just as hot and in anycase they aren't going to be interested in someone who doesn't put out.

You dont get to pick the package a person comes in, looks are nice to have but you dont need to look good to satisfy inside or outside of the bedroom.

Sorry this isn't particularly well thought out i just kinda bashed out the answer.

MrJune · Answer

I can't tell you what the others aren't telling you. I don't mean to be offensive, nor do I mean to be a troll.

You seem to really think you're very attractive, now I'm not saying you aren't but there is no way for anyone here to prove or disapprove of your claims or the others.

You may not notice this, but you could have a problem with your personality that is not noticeable to you, and they may see it. Easier to see a problem with others than yourself.

None of this is meant to offend, just meant to inform. Also me myself, I would reject a hot girl based on her personality. Looks aren't everything for me.

HardAppleCider · Answer

I don't believe you when you say your'e attractive.

Even if you are, reading your question and updates makes me question your personality.

Even if you're not a bitch and you are hot... no nice way to say this... you're in your'e 30's. Men in their 30's that are attractive tend to land women in their early to mid twenties. That's just the way it goes. It's people in your position that try to make "older man with younger woman" a social taboo (this taboo never sticks, and for good reasons).

I'm sorry. This is just the way of things.

TheDigitalSaint · Answer

You're 33 years old. That's at the age where your looks are on the decline, even if you did start out as an attractive girl. Guys generally prefer women in their early 20's and feel that women who are in their mid-thirties are more desperate and willing to tolerate more. As there are no pictures on your profile, there's no way to judge to see if your looks are what you claim.

Furthermore, the hottest guys are going to be dating younger women, as they have more options. You seem frustrated with your choices, but that is largely a condition of your age. There's not really much you can do about it except be more forgiving about what men are left.

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

Sorry that you feel this way but trust me when I tell you it has nothing to do with you. There are a lot of insecure men who feel bad about themselves. They maybe unemployed, school, and just not really interested or in a relationship. The chances of you meeting a guy and having instant chemistry with them is something that doesn't happen with just meeting oneday. It may take you with getting to know 5 guys and then maybe the 6 guy will be someone you may really be interested in and he is feeling you also. I have the same problem as you. It seems that the unattractive guys who are attracted to me, I am not interested in but the attracted guys want you to chase them and I am just not clicking or the chemistry is not there.

Anonymous · Answer

Either you're ugly and you're in denial, or you are 'super hot' like you say and you are just nothing but a conceited bitch. And judging from your post, you are a conceited bitch. Maybe you're nothing but a conceited ugly bitch. If not though, you should probably learn that looks aren't everything, and now that you're old you can't just get by on your looks. And I am willing to bet (if you are hot like you say) you are the type of person who used your looks to get ahead in life. And now that you're old, they are fading and you'll actually have to learn to have a personality and skills in life. Good luck with that.

Anonymous · Answer

This is not to offend you just to point out observations, if you are just looking for people to tell you how wonderful you are and how all men are crazy this isn't the place to try and build your ego. After reading what I could of your question and all your responses to answers you didn't like I have to say it's your personality. You don't have a very good one especially for someone in their 30's. Your immature and men that are of an appropriate age for you wouldn't want to be with someone like you. I'm not "hot" not ugly but not "HOT" but I have no problem finding and keeping men. So it is definitely your personality

scooogy · Answer

Let's just say I couldn't make it to the end of your question. I just had dinner, and I don't wanna throw up now... Fucking Mother Mary holy shit... Could you GOD DAMN please stop praising yourself? I fuckin hate - i mean HATE - girls who reject guys for nothing, but as soon as the tables turn, it's this apocalyptic mood, like "oh my gosh, aww why did he rejected me *whiny stuff following*" and I just stay off, say nothing and try to think what I could do better. But I'd catch a fish by hand sooner than a girl would HONESTLY (no bullshit answer) tell me why she rejected me. And then I'm fine with it.

loveisbeautiful · Answer

First I need to know, do you really want my advice? Because if you're just going to call

me names and make feel bad about myself, because I don't tell you what you want to

hear. Then I'm not going to give any advice, but if you truly want my advice and or help,

I will be more then glad to do that for you. I like helping people and I want everybody

to find love and if that's want you want. Then I will help you, just let me know!?

semifastrunner · Answer

Sorry, but people are going to keep flaming you with insults till you post a picture. You can always sensor your face. Then people could tell if you are "hot" and "down to earth."

Where are you at when you are meeting these guys? Most guys online are weirdo with confidence issues and might be intimidated by you. What is the dream guy that you are hoping to meet?

Anonymous · Answer

Are you trying too hard?

I hate it when women make the first move, specially if it's very unsubtle and sex-oriented. Frankly, this kind of makes me feel threatened!

The other thing, I keep off from too pretty girls, on the assumption that they'd be high mainentance anyway.

handsomejackk · Answer

When someone is very beautiful, they generally don't feel the need to scream it from the rooftops.  If it's not your looks it's definitely your personality. I could barely read half your question.

Hal2002 · Answer

Your in your 30's? Sure you are, 13 more like it. Were you born a girl, or did you decide to become one?

saragee27 · Answer

Just the fact that you bragged for so long about how "hot" you are could be your problem...

Moloch · Answer

Either you're not as attractive as you say you are, or your personality sucks.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe there's something off putting with your personality. I don't know you so I can't say. But if you're as gorgeous as you say, men wouldn't all be running from you unless you were seriously messed up somehow.

Hooo2018 · Answer

Some guys will reject hot girls because they panic or they thing she's not serious.
In the Internet. May think that a fake account.

But be always reject. That may be some thing unappealing in your personality

Sid922 · Answer

Her age mentions 41 in profile and she writes 30+. In other questions of her you can find that she has rejected offers of sex by men by complaining that it is offending for a woman if the person is asking for sex. And here she says she can't get laid.

MackToday · Answer

A strange story I don't know. Having never met you it's hard to say.

Why would men reject a hot girl?

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