Why do men reject me?

[melissa92]

OK I've been asking this question for eons...why can't I get a boyfriend..why on earth do men reject me? I look like a gorgeous model...I'm petite, thin nice sweet...caring compassionate monogamous loyal...I'm hot sexy funny cool smart... all in all I'd say I'm the perfect woman...well not perfect but just a really good person, I don't do drugs smoke, don't really drink except sometimes...instead of men rushing to date me, they just reject me make fun of me, run away, insult me etc...people can't be around me without abusing or insulting me in some form or putting me down...u think well maybe women are jealous of pretty girls but in my case---even men are jealous of me and won't date me or be with me-- if anything men just want to dominate/abuse control and destroy me and not much else...they reject me sexually too and won't please me and are mean to me and weird...and try to get me to do things to them but won't do anything to me. Men treat me like a monster or weirdo yet I'm a nice sweet beautiful girl... this is all I experience and I'm used to it---but 30 sometimes years of utter loneliness and only abuse is getting to me...whereas I seem like the perfect girlfriend I can't get a boyfriend...and next thing I know men are dating some drug addict who steals from them and some psycho who rips their entire house apart...and they're perfectly happy with these crazy evil nutcase women and just reject me or seem to have an agenda or won't talk to me or who knows what. I've been going to dinner with a guy every weekend now-- after dinner-- he never tries to do anything else, hang out...go somewhere though he claims he wants a 'girlfriend'...after dinner he just says "OK BYE" and walks off abruptly---so weird...he even admitted I'm so pretty and articulate and smart and he's surprised I've never had a boyfriend and keeps saying.. "i don't get it" yet he really hasn't shown any interest in anything other than dinner and just runs off...i find it so odd.. I feel I have to aggressively pursue a guy to get with him and even then he'd still reject me...and then run to some psycho weird girl who steals from him...i guess I'll never meet a guy but I still find it so odd that guys instead of running to and wanting to be with a super hot girl just run away from her and reject her...

[Belgie]

You aren't helping the situation by posting this rambling rant here.

If you sincerely wanted an answer to the question, you'd have to provide more relevant information in order for people who have insight to give you an honest explanation.

A good example is in the looks department, as many others have said. You're insistent that you're gorgeous. But if that was self-delusion and you sold yourself to potential dates online that way, and then in person they saw something else... well, I could imagine that would be one reason why they'd treat you like sh*t and move on.

But that's just one example. It could be something completely different. The truth is, we just don't know given the limited information you provided in the question.

Now, maybe you don't want to post a picture here for privacy reasons, or something. But at the very least, I'd suggest you contact someone on this site who you think you could trust reasonably well, and take the discussion off line. For example, send them a pic and get them to objectively rate it. Go over what happened on a typical date, in detail, and see if there's something your missing. That sort of thing.

Of course, if you're not actually interested in an answer, and just want to rant about how men don't appreciate you... well, carry on. You're doing just fine.

[saltwater84]

Hi,

This question is now close and somehow hope the poster will find my message.
Totally feel you girl !
For a minute I thought I had written this post.
I dont know why Guys act like this , but feel you I am 32 years old and apart of one boyfriend who tried to break me in pieces , I never had anyone.
I am good looking , smart , fun to be around , I care about people I work hard , and still every Guys I meet reject me.
I just got rejected by à Guy who showed me every possible way of liking me , he is a good Man and sensitive so told him I like him. He just did not even replied anything , and told him face to face , I feel so ackward and rejected of course.
I understand , I honestly dont think I'll ever met someone.
The worst? People telling you 'you are such à good Soul and à fuckin' babe honestly , he will Come soon '
Ha-ha
Probably whe I'll be 70

And yet as you said , Guys seems to love woman stealing from them, cheating on them , unloyal, screm at them, show kno respect etc..

[Anonymous]

Pull your head out of your ass for a second and read this...

That guy that you go to dinner with every weekend should be your boyfriend and he most likely wants to be your boyfriend. He is what is referred to as "the nice guy." Women never see us because we try not to be too intrusive by doing drastic things (like putting our hands all over you on a date or asking you to be our girlfriends). We take things very slow and respectfully and won't take anything to another level unless you give us permission. By permission I mean you have to give a sign that you want the guy that is so obvious only a retard wouldn't get it. Women always expect the guy to make the first move but the nice guys they complain they can't find don't really make the first move, they (we) will only go as far as you have signaled you're willing to go. Either make the first move on the guy (he'll be relieved) or make it so obvious you want him to do it that it is impossible for him to be confused and just play stupid like he is actually making the first move.

[Anonymous]

Because you're cocky and come off as arrogant and self absorbed.

I couldn't even read your entire question because I felt like you feel like your the most amazing thing to walk this earth, which news flash, there's lots of hot women out there who aren't cocky and self-absorbed.

Plus you whine about how no one pays you any heed.

The reason they don't, is because your all about your universe and your sh*t don't stink.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, she's posted questions like this before and people have asked her to provide a picture in order to judge for themselves.

Ten bucks says she's looks like a manatee who just has so much confidence and arrogance that people wonder why a sea cow like her should even have a second glance.

[Jennsmith9982]

You're the manatee u psycho. U need serious help u crazy thing

[AngelCourage]

Umm first start trying not to overthink and over believe ur virtues... .. maybe they really dnt exist... its just hilarious to have someone praising themselves for more than half the post... get real and go get a life XD... and please do give us a pic... we would want to see ur immeasurable beauty and virtues

[Jennsmith9982]

Oh really. Someone describing their beauty isn't praising themselves. You are one sick loser who is negative and evil

[nothingtosee]

Oh, I am SO sorry to hear that!

OK with that, here are some suggestions:

You have to think of dating as a job interview, with you being the boss. In other words, you have to go into each and every date as though you are interviewing the guy for the position of YOUR boyfriend. You have to be prepared to ask specific questions. You have to know at what point the answers he's giving you won't make him the perfect candidate.

Once you think you have found a guy who meets ALL of your criteria, next is, "How is he in the bedroom?" Before you go to bed with him, ask him what he's into? What does he like to do? What turns him on? What turns him off? What are his fantasies? You want to know if he's willing to satisfy you!!! And, most importantly HOW will he satisfy you? At this point, you need to tell him what you're into. What turns you on, what turns you off, etc.

Take it from me, as someone who is in management, you HAVE to look at dating like interviewing someone who might be the perfect candidate. I hope this helps!

If you have any questions for me, feel free to send me an email at yahoo. com

[MCheetah]

You go after the most ideal/elite/attractive men and refuse to lower your standards to anything more realistic or attainable... Just like pretty much EVERY woman who claims "men always reject me." No, only the Chads reject you. And you don't consider the other 90% of guys as "counting" among those men you talk to.

[Killfest400]

Clearly, there is a problem that persists in your relations with guys. The only consistent factor in all of those relations is you. Put two and two together, and...

[amber_rubi]

Your really a model and don't get guys? I have tha same problem, but I havge never been treated badly. But they never get seroius

[socalgamehater2006]

how do men reject you when you all you have to do is welcome or deny advances? us guys are the ones that do the approaching

[soggytoast]

obviously you need a new mirror. if you were really that hot guys would be all over you.

[melissa92]

im a model and yes I am 'that hot' and that's pretty stupid to even say...lots of guys are intimidated by hot women but still it makes no sense as to why they treat me so badly...

[soggytoast]

so you think every guy out there is intimidated by you? niga please. post a pic and I'll rate you.

[38rakia38]

Yeah post a pic and let everyone judge how "hot you are".

[adur2000]

This is the grandmaster of the txalq from planet OBO. We want you back, our little piggly wiggly!

[davidtp]

first.. Thaks for share.
Belive me i understand you.
two things
1. alway focus in your quality and virtue.
2. learn to listen the advices, from people who cares about you.

[dudeman]

lets see some pics something doesn't sound right