Why do men reject me even though I don’t show any signs of interest?

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Random men would go out of their way to show me that they are not attracted to me by body language, avoiding eye contact, giving short dry answers when I’m trying to make polite small talk, flashing their wedding ring or just mentioning their girlfriend etc. but act open and warm with other women. I never flirt with anyone and I’m not a pushy person so why do men think it’s necessary to push it in my face that they are not interested? Those same men would suddenly want to make conversation with me as soon as they see me talking to some other random person (they might even don’t know themselves). Am I that ugly?

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

This is not so much rejection as uninterested. It could be a few things: You are strikingly attractive and they are intimidated by it; OR you are projecting some aspect of your personality that give us the wave-off. (Lots of women do this and don’t realize it, I think). Most likely though, you are misreading it. It may not be so much YOU aren’t attracting their attention as the other women ARE. It’s something they are doing you are not. Most women can shut a man down or encourage his contact quite easily and with very subtle gestures and body language.

In my single days I would say I was successful meeting women in person since I paid attention to body language and it’s not hard to detect the little queues that women project if they are or are not interested.

Pohjolan · Accepted Answer

No to be rejected you have to make a move first.

They are just not pursuing you at that time which could be anything from them being busy to you having bad breath.

Also you have more or less entered the dating scene post MeToo so you will get less undesirable approaches than your predecessors but also less desirable ones.

laly520 · Accepted Answer

or maybe its the impression u be giving em when u interact with guys
maybe it comes off as being desperate or clingy altho u aren't trying to be like that
I assume ur social skills r the issue in here n the way u communicate, from whats written in post it keeps repeating with u only which is a great indicator that u r the actual problem

I dont know how u look like or how u talk to em so all I said isn't certain but an assumption till u give more context n details

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Maybe you have a flirty personality and you don’t know it lol. So they’re just responding to that cuz it gives that impression even if it’s not your intent. I def react the same as them if I feel like I’m not interested or am taken if it seems someone is flirting or coming off too strong.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow! I thought I was the only one that has experience this!!!
It’s happened to me several times and I also don’t try to grab any attention or ever show interest.

I've realized it’s not a me problem, it’s a HIM problem. He does it for some reason he knows. Maybe he has a girlfriend , dating someone, and is attracted to you so can’t do anything. It’s like a mask they use or a sort of defense mechanism. Sometimes they are reserved and don’t know how to properly approach. Each person is different. Sometimes they let their guard down and their attitude changes to a more friendlier one… This is all my take on it

LiamJHayden · Answer

Guys around our age who are taken are now accustomed to their girlfriends sending tests their way. Many of those guys might assume you are that at first.

Also, again in our age group, a lot of guys simply do not know how to interact with women. Pathetic, right?

Olgamasha · Answer

I read your other messages here as well. I think these men you mention are probably cowards when they talk to a polite lady like you. They like rude people just like themselves. You probably need to look somewhere else. By the way it is their loss that they act this way. Let them have fun with boring flirty people - it is probably never going to be serious between them.

normalice · Answer

They fear a causal meeting "snowballing" into an inevitable relationship they don't want so want to kill it in the crib.

flautistnaturist · Answer

same happens to me with any woman i make eye contact with. most people these days i guess only see human interaction as opportunity to fornicate is all i can think.

slatyb · Answer

I expect this is more likely just your perception. You are looking for signs of rejection so you find them.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

No idea. Maybe you come across as someone they feel intimidated by?

JesseP1nk · Answer

I think because their girlfriends/wives dont like if their man hangout/talk with other women.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Because they're not interested in you. Why can't you accept that and stop hounding them like some desperate clingy individual?

captain_voidwalker · Answer

That dosen't sound like rejection that just sounds like general disinterest

litty736 · Answer

Happened to me too. Jokes on them because they are not my type. Was only being polite.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it is your face, can I see it? But I am not sure you are ready for one more opinion on top of everything

spartan55 · Answer

I think you are imagining most of the this.

sheikalana · Answer

Maybe is just the vibe that you give.

jahaims · Answer

You are ugly or your personality is off putting

Mikemyth561 · Answer

Hmm good question

In_Trance · Answer

This is all in your head

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