So I share a lot on here because this is my advice platform (my friends can only help me so much). I’m certain this guy is into me, we hold a lot of eye contact and speak to each other a lot. We text each other (it’s not constant) and we’re going out on Friday.
What I’ve noticed is that he pays attention to things I said weeks ago, back when I wasn’t noticing this guy too much. I knew he’s been there for a while but he kind of snuck up on me. It’s more than just attraction, I realize that I’m into him too. I play it cool, I get nervous before talking to him but then I just be myself. The more comfortable I am around him, the more he opens up about personal (family) matters going on. He talks about his anxieties and insecurities and it’s way more than just likes and dislikes or small talk. I don’t want to disclose that stuff, because he doesn’t open up to just anyone with this stuff.
There’s no red flags apparent, he’s super supportive, makes me feel safe, and he’s encouraging. I’ve NEVER had a guy around that makes me feel this way. That’s because of my dating history (something neither of us have opened up about, which will perhaps unfold later on). Of course I compliment him so he knows I’m comfortable talking to him and appreciate him for opening up too. I’m kind of awkward and shy, but I’m being myself and it seems to work.
He also hinted that he wants to give me workout tips at the gym this week too. He was going to do that last night but we ended up talking for almost an hour and the gym was closing up.
A good friend of mine told me sometimes guys like to show off when they like you to impress you. He loves to give me hugs which I find really sweet too.
So my question is-
What are some things you would talk about on a first date? I know a lot of his interests and he knows a lot of mine.
I want to open up to him just enough, but not too much, so what would be some suggestions? He does know a few things.
What I’ve noticed is that he pays attention to things I said weeks ago, back when I wasn’t noticing this guy too much. I knew he’s been there for a while but he kind of snuck up on me. It’s more than just attraction, I realize that I’m into him too. I play it cool, I get nervous before talking to him but then I just be myself. The more comfortable I am around him, the more he opens up about personal (family) matters going on. He talks about his anxieties and insecurities and it’s way more than just likes and dislikes or small talk. I don’t want to disclose that stuff, because he doesn’t open up to just anyone with this stuff.
There’s no red flags apparent, he’s super supportive, makes me feel safe, and he’s encouraging. I’ve NEVER had a guy around that makes me feel this way. That’s because of my dating history (something neither of us have opened up about, which will perhaps unfold later on). Of course I compliment him so he knows I’m comfortable talking to him and appreciate him for opening up too. I’m kind of awkward and shy, but I’m being myself and it seems to work.
He also hinted that he wants to give me workout tips at the gym this week too. He was going to do that last night but we ended up talking for almost an hour and the gym was closing up.
A good friend of mine told me sometimes guys like to show off when they like you to impress you. He loves to give me hugs which I find really sweet too.
So my question is-
What are some things you would talk about on a first date? I know a lot of his interests and he knows a lot of mine.
I want to open up to him just enough, but not too much, so what would be some suggestions? He does know a few things.
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I would be asking what his intentions are for talking to you. Falling for him and building up a relationship would be pointless if he has no intent on dating. Yes, a man can like you, find you attractive and still only offer a situationship.
That makes sense! Thanks for sharing.
No problem good luck!
Oh girl, this all sounds so promising! It really seems like he's developing deep feelings for you if he's opening up about personal stuff already. That's huge that he feels so comfortable sharing vulnerable things.
For the date, since you already know each other fairly well, I'd say go a little deeper. Ask him thoughtful questions about his dreams, values, what really matters to him in life. Show interest in understanding him on a deeper level.
You could also share more about your past - not all the gritty details necessarily, but give him insights into what shapes you. Like what you've learned from past relationships or personal experiences.
Compliment the qualities you appreciate in him, stuff that goes beyond surface level. Physical stuff is great too of course! But comments on his character mean more.
Most of all, keep the conversation fun and light. Laugh together as much as possible. Look for ways to connect on an emotional level beyond just facts. It sounds like there's really sweet chemistry - have faith and let it grow naturally!
You've got this sis! Just be your awesome self. With how well you vibe already, this date is sure to make you guys closer than ever. Keep me updated!