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So I've had a friend for about 5 years. we've had our differences, usually we work it out.

My "friend" has been living a train wreck of a life that she's kinda forced on herself.
I usually set aside the fact that I feel like she's made a bad decision and try to help her through it.

But for starters, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend when I was 19, three months into our relationship. We've now been together for 4 years and we JUST got engaged this past weekend.
When I told this friend that I'd had sex (she'd never done it before either), she got a little "cold". All she said was is "I just don't understand why it couldn't wait for marriage." And essentially kinda made me feel bad for not waiting.
I ignored her for a few weeks, then she messaged me about HER boyfriend was cheating on her pretty blatantly. He'd go WEEKS without even sending her a TEXT. Nothing at all. And then randomly send her pictures of some half naked woman. Just to hurt said friend. So I felt bad for her, tried to talk to her, and I told her she needed out of that relationship. I tried to put it delicately, since she was "so in love." And she then SHE stopped talking to me.
Fast forward like 2 weeks and she tells me she had sex with him so he would cheat. (He didn't stop.) Well now 3 years later, I'm engaged, have a great job, just living my best life really.
3 years later for her is, she has had a baby with her cheater boyfriend. Not married or engaged, neither of them has a job, they don't even live together. Still with their parents.

When I told her I was engaged though she just couldn't be happy. Her exact words were "well me and John could be married by now, but there's just no point since we knows left we love each other".
So admittedly I snapped and replied "well that's so great that you changed your mind after you shamed me for having sex then turned around and had a baby with a guy you don't even live with."
She Left me on read and honestly I have nothing to say to her. AITA?

So in the beginning I was trying to get over someone and wasn't sure if i was ready for a relationship. I told the guy and he said we can be friends. We sexted a few times before we met. Long story short we went on a date, he would stare me in the eyes and not break eye contact which I thought was weird.. On our third date he did that as well and then would tell me he can't control himself.. that same date he told me he loved me. He told me he loved me everyday and i felt pressured to say it back because I was trying to figure out my feelings. He reassured me that he wants to be apart of my mess and wants to make it work between us.

His family were very eager for our relationship, they got me a key to their house, wanted me to wear comfy clothes, talked about how they would have a small space for my clothes one day etc. Then on my birthday we had sex and i lost my virginity to him. We did other things prior to that. In the beginning he put effort into the relationship, got me a care package, we both met each others families. We video called most of the time. It felt like I was pulling teeth with him. Granted he worked a lot and had to help his family. There would be times where he didn't work and he didn't come see me. There seemed to be a lot of secrets with his job and his mom. He ended up breaking up with me because he wasn't willing to compromise over something small