Why @Apope16's "Confessions of a Ladies Man" series has to stop

[Anonymous]

I've read most of @Apope16 's "Confessions of a Ladies Man" series and I'm sick and tired of it, here's why.

Who is @Apope16?

Clearly, this is someone who considers themselves to be attractive, in good shape, caring, understanding and, like he points out every time he uses this title, a "Ladies' Man". Basically the perfect partner. At the same time, @Apope16 considers women to be vulnerable and clingy (see this post: Confessions of a Ladies Man pt. 2: What I've Learned About Women)

I don't know about you, but I'd never date a man who shares the following two views, which are direct quotes from this post (Confessions of a Ladies Man pt. 2: What I've Learned About Women):

Women are just as horny and sexual as men are. Women sometimes just want to be fucked.

Don't try to understand women. They don't even understand themselves!

What is he trying to do on G@G?

@Apope16 has a history of writing provocative posts and so far, nobody quite knows why he does this, what agenda he's trying to push or what his motives are.

He addressed gaining a "large female following" in this post: Confessions of a Ladies Man: More followers despite controversy

I believe @Apope16 when he says that he gained more female than male followers, but I don't understand why.

@Apope16's problematic mansplaining

If you're not familiar with the "Confessions of a Ladies Man" series, this single user's views on women are summarised best in these posts:

Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to Squirt from Your Yoni

Why Women Shouldn't Be Self Conscious About How Tight Their Vagina Is

Confessions of a Ladies Man: Why I love a Girlfriend's "Time of the Month" (Period)

She may feel bloated and unpretty. She may feel unsexy because her vagina is dripping blood. She may feel undesirable, gross, and unlovable.

That's right. A man talking about women's bodies and their sexuality. Also, @Apope16 loves to fatshame women and frequently mentions how basic practices in relationships "make her wet" despite not having a female body himself.

All bodies are beautiful. Period.

He also loves to promote the notion that he used to be a Beta male (Confessions of a Ladies Man: What I Learned During Years of Being a Male Bestie) that transformed himself into an Alpha male, all while being a feminist.

I like to think that feminist men know their boundaries. Talking about the female body like it's your own is one of those boundaries to me. It's not okay to act like you know it all when you've never had a "blood dripping vagina". No woman would ever phrase it that way too, it's incredibly degrading and weird.

Stop mansplaining periods if you don't menstruate yourself.

@Apope16's view of what it takes to get a girl to fall in love with you

Just 6 years after losing his virginity, @Apope16 isn't thinking about settling down just yet.

He outlined it very nicely in this post: Confessions of a Ladies Man: 3 Things that Will Make Her Fall in Love by 2 Months

1. Cook together

She won't just be wet. She will be falling in love with that glass of wine.

2. Share your clothes with the girl

Go for a walk with her by giving her a t-shirt of yours to wear outside.

Is it just me or is he describing this like he's talking about a dog?

3. Cuddle after sex

Hold her by cupping her breasts or her butt. Get her used to her presence.

What does "get her used to her presence" even mean?

@Apope16 loves to fatshame

I've been taught not to judge other people based on their appearance. I would never comment on another person's physical or mental disability, and I'd never tell someone to lose weight either. It's different if someone comes to your for advice, but unsolicited or evil spirited advice is always painful!

As long as your doctor doesn't tell you to lose weight, people on G@G shouldn't either.

About 67% of USA women are obese or overweight. Any advice for athletically fit guys looking to date?

I didn't even get into half of the takes @Apope16 has written, but I'd say I've seen enough to tell you not to take dating advice from a guy who doesn't know women as well as he thinks he does. The way he talks down to women is horrible.

[ShadezMcgee]

If you are going to do a hit piece or piece of criticism towards the guy, at least have the stones to not use the anon function and use your actual username to give you more credibility. Better yet, you can block the guy to not have his stuff pop in your feed if you feel that strongly about it.

I have seen his posts and don't have a strong opinion positive or negative. Just another dude who posts questions that will obviously get provocative and trigger people who have a strong connection to what he talks about. A lot of what I am seeing in your take here sounds like personal gripes about him because his views on women if you disagree with them or if they are off completely were enough to get an emotional response from you.

Instead of doing a piece like this, which really didn't help your cause and in a way make you line up with exactly what he has said in certain articles, why not actually do a take that promotes women on the points he has made with reasons as to why he was wrong about it?

[myTake Owner]

I posted this anonymously to not be messaged by users complaining about my post - I used to get a lot of these messages in the past, it's uncomfortable at the very least. Also, I didn't want @apope16 to block me.

I don't want to block @Apope16, he's never come after me personally, because I only ever post and comment anonymously.

I'm considering writing a follow up that goes into detail why he's wrong - I figured that it wouuld be best to let his posts speak for themselves to support my cause, but that was wrong.

[Apope16]

I don't block people. If you look at my mytakes the people who agree and the people who hate post freely. Actually it is YOU that blocks people. Just look at the comment by the @Anonymous guy above. WHy did you block him?

The difference between you and I is I see it as a philsophical debate with free speech. You see it as a threat because it exposes insecurities about you. It is like telling fat people that they are single because being morbidly obese and 300 pounds is not sexually attractive or worthy of passing on genes in the gene pool from a biological perspective. So all of the people who are overweight will get triggered by such a comment that is literally the recommendations of the general health and science community. heart disease is a killer in America. But because it calls a fat person out then they get triggered. The same is true of the cheap phrase. "Everyone is beautiful". No they are not. There are people in society who are physically ugly. People have standards of who they are willing to spread their legs to and that is the determining factor of who's ugly or not. Thankfully there are ways to make yourself physically attractive by being in shape and being funny or having a great personality. Or having a talent. right? But you can't accept this truth so you make cheesy statements to brown nose up to people like "everyone is beautiful". uhm. no. there is such a thing as being physically ugly looking. it exists.

[ShadezMcgee]

Understandable, but here is the magic of this as well if you don't want to block him either. Like I said in my post, these sound more like personal gripes and sifting through comments here where guys told you similar things like I did, you said you did not like the language for some of his articles and found his words and sayings horrid. You have a choice with this. And that concept is based on React or Respond, you chose the latter to do this piece. You don't have to read his posts. Just skip them when they pop up in your feed.

Example Squirting via the Yoni. I didn't even know what the fuck a Yoni was until I heard a woman dating coach and a guest she had on a podcast talked about it. I thought it was an interesting podcast and his take caught my attention because of that. Plus, if we want to get real, if you want to generate readers and curiosity, you have to use catchy titles or very well executed summaries to hook someone.

[myTake Owner]

I don't think that his takes are as good as one would assume, based on the amount of attention they get (merely because he's an Influencer).
They're poorly worded and not helpful. I'm considering blocking @Apope16 now, not because I want to censor him, but because he just won't take criticism against him seriously and will only deflect it all, which is quite unfortunate.

[myTake Owner]

So - are the titles catchy?
- some are, but most are clickbaity and cringe-worthy instead of thought provoking

are his "summaries very well executed"?
- I really wouldn't say so. At all. All of his posts are a repetition of one another in some way. This is FINE by the way, but it get's annoying over time if you never see anything new from a user.

[myTake Owner]

Ultimately, it's my choice.
This was by no means a "hit peace" against him, it was a take to voice my objections with @Apope16's content.
I don't think that he shares his views this openly in real life, so I probably would be fine with having him in my peer group, unless he shared what he has to say on G@G in the same manner as he does here.

Hope this makes sense somewhat.

[ShadezMcgee]

To comment again. By all means block him, then. There are people here who agree with what you said. Your piece here is merely your opinion, not wrong, but it doesn't mean you are right either. Criticism won't be seen eye to eye by everybody. He may not see it like you do. Same goes for others here.

Now, I never once said his summaries or titles were good when I said they have to be catchy or be well executed. Not once did I say his specifically were. I say catchy in the context as someone who has a degree in journalism and media and has studied how articles are written and knows that they generate views and revenue based on the hook. Catchy doesn't mean its it's good. It means it intrigued someone scrolling by enough with the wording to get them to see what it was about. Same with summaries. Give a brief synopsis and then leave it open ended for exploration. And your statement about it being annoying, once again, a lot of users here on GAG ask the same questions. However, influences also stay in their respective lanes that they specialize in, and our man in question is a dating and relationship one if I saw his tabs correctly. There are other influences on the site here that do just that.

I will say you reacted from points you disagreed with and referenced him specifically. By doing this you draw attention to your personal issues you have with him, but you also are putting an additional bullseye on him by shaping people's view of him when they have no idea who he may even be. If not a hit piece, I would say a rant would be more suitable terminology.

While we only know him here, anonymity allows one on the internet to voice their true thoughts. He may not do this in real life, but if he does, at least the man is congruent in his behavior.

[Daniela1982]

@Apope16 Actually you don't seem to like women at all which is obvious and you appear to be a misogynist. I might also add that you don't seem to know shit about women in general. You seem to go by what women on here say, and 1/3 of them are probably not even women so you are actually hating on men. *rolls eyes*

[BakedBeanieBabie]

I discovered his posts and I swear the man thinks he's an actual celebrity or something. All of what he writes is shallow "how to get women" dating-tip type of advice that doesn't seem genuine or even as if he has had genuine success.

In my humble opinion... if someone has to continuously INSIST how amazing they are and how good they are at "getting women" (because apparently, we're collectibles, like friggin Poggs), it's probably because you live in a fantasy world where the only way you can actually feel successful is by putting on a facade.

How this guy thinks he's "marketing his brand" on a website where you definitely don't make money by sharing your basic dating tips when it comes to women... it's like the dude literally thinks he's Kim Kardashian or something. It's weird.

[myTake Owner]

I couldn't agree more. This is exactly why I had to write this.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

I'll wait to be labeled a hater, but just to clarify before that happens:

I don't know the man. I'm not overly invested in him because of that fact. What I think people are missing from this mytake is that it's not just a hateful bashing "hit piece" as he likes to call to call it. This is a public platform, he fancies himself a "brand", which means he must be open to criticism.

To me, this mytake isn't shitting on the guy. The author is CLEARLY just pointing out the toxicity and grossness she finds in the way this grown man writes about women. I've commented publicly on many of his posts for the same reason.

It's gross and not particularly original information. It's the same regurgitated nonsense men have shared that boil women down to being less intelligent, self-absorbed, and needing a man's "guidance" to have a successful relationship.

Do I necessarily think he has bad intentions or means to be condescending? Probably not. Most men who grew up in a patriarchal society don't think they have shallow or narrow views of women. They think insisting we're emotional, incapable of understanding ourselves, and need a "leader" or "alpha" to stabilize us" isn't offensive - it's just THEIR EXPERIENCE... not at all touched by gender bias.

So, no. I don't find this critique on someone who posts publicly to be a hit piece and I think the guy is unoriginal.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you for posting your clarification. I did wonder why he considers himself to be so important that he has "haters" nowadays - and this was by no means a hit piece either. I agree with all your points, especially on the repeated recycling he exposes his posts to. It's rather bewildering.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

This post encouraged me to write my own:

"How to Get Women" posts (A Review) ↗

Not mandatory to read, but I figured I'd include it.

[123lucy]

Yeah I also hate the way some men talk about women like some kind of collectable item.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe there is some merit to what the man says. As you said, "I posted this anonymously so that @Apope16 doesn't block me and that I can still read his posts." You may violently disagree with my conclusion but. . . it seems that he has some power over you! :) :) :)

Hey, @Apope16! I don't always agree with you but, damn, man, it looks like you got this girl's attention!

[Nazgol]

So I guess you're narcissist just like him. And yes he got her attention, but not in a good way. There is nothing good about his prophecies

[Nazgol]

Nothing good about showing off & using "I" statements too much

[OlderAndWiser]

@Nazgol You and @Asker flatter the man by giving him so much attention and then you want to criticize me merely for making that observation? Are you that triggered?

[Nazgol]

No, I'm not triggered one bit. You're obviously taking his side, so I am against that and stating my opinion

[OlderAndWiser]

@Nazgol When someone uses the word "obviously," it exposes the weakness in their argument.

[Nazgol]

lol ok whatever u say 🙄🤨

[KathaKomben]

Power over her? I can’t -
Please explain that statement. She called out his disgusting opinions not because she is invested in the damn guy, she did it with all her fellow woman in mind. When she read his untasteful mytakes on his page, she felt bad for every girl that’s gonna read that written shit in the future and felt obligated to speak up.
How does the dude have power over her when she’s only critiquing his viewpoints? Then his viewpoints are the ones with the power over her?

You seem like you didn’t understand at all :)

[OlderAndWiser]

@KathaKomben She can't leave him alone. She gives him the attention he wants.

[Nazgol]

Why do we have to leave him alone? This is a site for conversation and debate and all opinions. That kinda makes u sound dumb tbh that we can't leave him alone. We have 0 interest, we are debating and trying to explain why he is wrong. Nothing to do with leaving alone or not

[Nazgol]

Lmfao

[OlderAndWiser]

@Nazgol You call him a narcissist so you should understand that you are giving him exactly what he wants.

I didn't say that you must leave him alone. You may continue to give him all of the attention that he wants. I don't really care. I suspect that he would like for you to continue.

[Andres77]

@Nazgol
Being a bully is never right.
If you don't agree just block or ignore. Don't bully. I blocked him months ago. I'm not defending him. I'm defending a blah blah from being able to express himself. What he says is irrelevant. If you don't like it ignore him. Don't bully anyone.
That's the point!

[errorgoodnameunfound]

Ya kinda do act narcissistic dude. Many so called "influencers" like you and Apope16 do. Sometimes you, him, and other influencers can be OK to talk to, but other times, its impossible. Deny that all you want, many agree, and the more you deny, the more the point is likely true. Take this blunt truth how you will.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

@Nazgol I think you have a point. Many of these so called influencers love to gang up on people. It's quite entertaining. Apope has a right to free speech but so do you. Older and "wiser" doesn't get that as showed by the last conversation where he made a scene and then blocked/ran away. Hard site to stick around on I must say, but at least a good laugh once in a blue moon. :)

[weeee]

Kind of an extreme example but Hitler also got a lot of attention back in day :p

[OlderAndWiser]

@weeee Exactly, and that's what Hitler wanted. As I said, I don't agree with everything Apope16 says, but he wants to bring attention to his views and many people are willingly obliging.

[YourFutureEx]

For real though,
"Women are just as horny and sexual as men are. Women sometimes just want to be fucked" -What's wrong with that? Aren't women humans? They should get horny if they're healthy beings.

"Don't try to understand women. They don't even understand themselves!" -eh! Just understand yourself. Don't waste your time understanding others unless you're playing poker or chess.

"Apope16 has a history of writing provocative posts" -That's basically every single successful G@G editor. You have to be provocative in order to gain more clicks and opinions on your posts. Just like you made this provocative myTake.

"She may feel bloated and unpretty. She may feel unsexy because her vagina is dripping blood. She may feel undesirable, gross, and unlovable. That's right. A man talking about women's bodies and their sexuality."-He is just being empathetic. Can't he talk about women if he's a man? Does this mean you have never visited to a male doctor, lawyer or psychologist? You're the one womansplaining here. "All bodies are beautiful. Period" -NOT. AT. ALL. Stop destroying the significance and the meaning of the word "beautiful" if everything is beautiful. Stop promoting disgusting, unhealthy & lazy lifestyle and eating habits. Stop talking away the from the hard working bodybuilders and top level athletes who try their best to set up a good example in the society. "It's not okay to act like you know it all when you've never had a "blood dripping vagina"-You don't have to experience things to know about them. I know that getting raped, murdered, extorted, humiliated are bad painful traumatic experiences even though I haven't experienced them. Also IRONICALLY, How the fuck do you know that a man would not know how it feels to be a woman without you being a man first? Contradiction at best! Okay that's it I don't want to reply to the rest. I seriously believe you're apope under a pink skin. OR just another random raging feminist who had been hurt in the past and venting out your frustration on the internet.

[Tstrbrainer]

Apope under a pink account 🤣🤣🤣🤣 .

[YourFutureEx]

Hmm GaG messed up my paras in the end
._.

[Tstrbrainer]

It's great.
Maybe.
I don't know why she's triggered instead of just blocking him

[Andres77]

@Tstrbrainer someone else asked her that. She said"then I can't read what he wrote..."
So she's not blocking him with the express purpose of causing him trouble. A self righteous bully.

[myTake Owner]

@YourFutureEx: I already evaluated that first point you made in another reply - I never said that there was anything wrong with saying that men are just as horny as women.

I feel like @Apope16 uses degrading language to describe women and their bodies. He's getting more clout than he deserves, because his advice simply isn't helpful.
I hardly think a doctor who went through years of medical training would write or say something like "She may feel bloated and unpretty. She may feel unsexy because her vagina is dripping blood. She may feel undesirable, gross, and unlovable."

[YourFutureEx]

@Tstrbrainer @Andres77 she didn't block him because
1. She is him
Or
2. She loves getting hurt by his myTakes. It's her guilty pleasure. Her secret kink.

[YourFutureEx]

@myTake Owner
Aren't you the one giving him clout? He got more clout by this myTake than he got in all of his G@G career.

He uses such language because it works. You won't get many views unless you're provocative. He sounds like someone who has been chastised all his life and then at a particular moment of his life,, he found the code and then he couldn't control expressing his emotions about this knowledge that led him to success. This is a typical behaviour. Neither would I say that his advice works nor I'd claim that it doesn't. To a certain degree, he's right on so many things but he writes it all in extreme way that makes it sound rubbish. Either you can learn from it or you can just ignore him (if you don't want to give him clout) it is that simple.

[es20490446e]

Lots of lol.

[lilyanony1]

I think but I'm not sure I added him so I could see his post but I'm very clear about my point and his posts often lead me to sounding like a man hater. Which I'm not, but his comments and the relationships I have had have left me with more than a disgusting taste in my mouth.
From the things you've highlighted what's coming across is a man trying to break down the female psyche and the female body to a man who is too scared to approach one...
But he's not going about it in a realistic or favourable way...
he's working on the premise of old tradition insecure bullies and that is by breaking a woman down.

Yes experience, hormones and life situations alter how a person reacts but there really isn't one rule that fits all.
Fat shaming for example diminishes the guys that are actually attracted to bigger women so the guys that like bigger woman if they check it they're still being made to feel odd for what they're attracted to.
Take it for what it is, nonsense.

I'm sure the men that don't agree and can think for themselves don't pay attention to what he has to say really.
Co's they're too busy loving and treating all the woman they're attracted to right.
(Notice I didn't say women)

It's not that serious. Any person you know agrees with that, isn't your tribe.

Best wishes to you.
X

[myTake Owner]

I perfectly understand your view. I used to have a rather negative view of men myself, until I looked within and realised that it was based on merely two rather brief relationships I'd had that didn't go well.

Still, I don't think that at the scope of what he's doing (putting out multiple posts a week/month about his dating life and women), a non-trained person or non-professional should be making claims about female psychology without backing them up with sources.
It's as simple as that. Not once did I see @Apope16 using science to back up his claims.

Also, I 100% agree with you that his fatshaming is a problem for men who like bigger women. Everyone has a preference and the way that he talks down to women isn't acceptable.

[lilyanony1]

Those that know better do better. Focus on that. And life will be happier. X

[Andres77]

"not once did I see (him) using science to back up his claims."
Do you use science to express your opinion?
What if another girl told him something about women and in his experience he found it to be true?
He's using another woman's opinion to make a claim.
I don't need science to share my own experience, neither does anyone else.
I don't know the guy and when I first got on GAG I saw a lot of his stuff. I've never read through one whole take of his. I didn't like/agree with it and I was tired of seeing it so I blocked him.
Just leave him/her the fuck alone. Block him, don't bully anyone.

[Rob17792]

the guy's just a fucking weirdo and a wanna be who wants to get laid but isn't

[Andres77]

@Rob17792 I'm not defending him. I didn't like what he wrote when I first joined gag months ago. What pisses me off is an anon POS bully is trying to get him kicked off simply because that arrogant bitch doesn't like what he says. it's not her call. If he's violating rules of gag then gag will kick him off.
If she doesn't like it she can ignore/block him.
She stays anonymous and won't block him with the declared intent to continue to make his experience here difficult. That's the epitome of being a bully.
THAT is what is wrong about her.
What I think needs to go is the anonymous option. So if you don't like what is said you can block it.
Not use it to bully others.

[lilyanony1]

Thanks @Rob17792. @Andres77 chill it's really not that serious. He's not nice or cool let's leave it there

[Rob17792]

@Andres77 you're right

[errorgoodnameunfound]

On one hand, I defend the right to free speech, so as annoying as he can be, I'm not comfortable with an out right ban or anything. I've been demanded before to stop writing my satire of wowgirl and others. (which gdi, was fun af) No way in hell I was going to give in. Free speech is free speech, and it has no side. On the other, his "defense" piece was... lacking. Didn't address any issues, just basically stuck up middle fingers. Yikes. Seems to me he has a bit of a troll side, which is fine, cause I do too. But I've made people like Iron_man go from despising me to finally seeing me as a funny guy not to take too seriously because I know how to troll but NOT be too egoistic with it, which is the mistake many trolls make. My goal is laughter and attention is second to that, as if I get it, it's natural and not forced, like a lot of influencers here like apope push for. Hell, there's some tidbits of truth in what he is saying, (once in a while), but the delivery is purposefully provocative, so people like me who want that truth out there are facepalming because it makes it look bad.

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

The main reason that his series should stop is because he constantly pretends that he knows what he's talking about and it could prevent him from embarrassing himself. Every time I read his myTakes, he doesn't come across as a "ladies man" to me. He comes across as someone that doesn't really understand women or even dating, but is studying different things regarding women and using this site as platform to write about what he learned. He might also be using his myTakes to gain more insight, knowledge, and ideas from people that criticize them. While not specifically a "Confession of A Ladies Man" blog, one of his Takes that got me was when he wrote about how having sex with a loose vagina feels like "putting a showerhead of warm water over a clit." Once I read that, I knew that this was a guy that had no clue what he's talking about. In fact, hell, I wouldn't be surprised if the guy was actually a virgin or, at the very least, sexually inexperienced in real life. However, he seems to have the many incels on this site fooled and they look up to him as a "ladies man." As long as they continue to support his myTakes by thumbing them up and posting their opinions, I guess he can stay being an "editor" on this site. Sometimes, but on rare occasions, he makes some good points and I try to give credit where it's due when he does.

[1truekhaleesi]

Get her used to her presence? I see my boobs and my ass every day. We are well acquainted. We grew up together. Why does he pick on heavyset women? In middle school, I looked athletic and was thin. I actually had an eating disorder. I don't feel unsexy because of my period. That's just biology at work. I don't feel unsexy because of the blood. I have endometriosis and want to yeet my uterus out a window some months.

I feel sexy and secure in my relationship because my boyfriend treats me with respect and sees me as his equal. He lets me make my own decisions. We don't get into massive fights, we have healthy disagreements. My boyfriend was so adorably shy on our first date even though we'd been friends for years. During sex, we communicate. He doesn't automatically act like he knows how to please a woman "because we're all the same."

You ever seen that subreddit called Men Writing Women. That's who he reminds me of. He just embodies it. Just because a woman squirts during sex, isn't always a good sign that you're doing good. I got pretty good at faking orgasms with an ex who was very arrogant about pleasing women and assumed we are all the same. My boyfriend communicates with me, and I can't walk straight after he's done.

[Laciandmaci]

I agree with you!!! My profile pic is an old picture 4 years ago, since then I lost weight, he saw it on a post were he was insulting heavy women, I stuck up saying they could be heavy for many reasons, mine was due to horrible depression, and surgery. Plus in the photo I look heavier as I have a natural round full face, and it was a very up close photo of me sitting, and semi-slouching. He told me straight out I need a diet I am a disgusting, fat woman. I wasn't even that fat, tbh in the photo I weighed around 150 lbs, my doctor told me I was like 15lbs over yes over but not horribly over weight. But he said I was a fat ass cow.

[KathaKomben]

I’m sorry this piece of garbage degraded you like this. He obviously is ignorant to many people and thinks of himself as a ladies men while being the complete opposite.
Don’t let that ugly words get to you! There are a lot of men who find you beautiful exactly how you are. Slim or chubby, it doesn’t matter.

You know,
my mother also gained a lot of weight due to a bad depression she had for a couple of years. It’s painful to me, because she cries now about the weight gain, even tho she shouldn’t! She made it through one of the worst hardships we humans can experience.
I know how hard it is, and i’m also extremely proud of you for fighting and staying strong, and it makes me LIVID to see such repulsive human garbage talk like that about other humans and their lifes.

But with the way he is, he will fall someday, or he will mess with the wrong person and then his big mouth and very possibly his tiny dick will be shut down and he will be hurt exactly like the people he hurt.

Much much love 💋
by the way. You look gorgeous and absolutely sweet

[Laciandmaci]

@KathaKomben Well thank you very much!!! Life is hard but I need to keep pushing, I wish you and your mom lots of good health and happiness always.

[myTake Owner]

This. This is why he has to stop the series, where he consistently fatshames women and acts like overweight or obese women are undate- and unlovable (which couldn't be further from the truth). That really broke my heart.

[Laciandmaci]

@mytakeowner thank you, and I couldn't agree more!!!

[Anpu23]

Eh, he sounds like most Pick Up Artists and their propaganda. What until a bunch of young men try and follow his advice and fall flat on their face. Really sounds like he's a red pilled feminist who realizes that he made a fool of himself and wants to put it out there. Kind of like public shaming himself. One of the great things about G@G is it's a pretty open forum. If you disagree with someone you can publish your own "mytake" and propagate your own truths. For the record I've never read any of his posts, that kind of thing (alpha/beta males) usually just bores me to tears and nothing that he's posted interests me.

[myTake Owner]

He certainly swallowed the red pill mentality while claiming to be a feminist, it's rather strange.

The Pick Up Artists point is great too, I've had the same thought a number of times now.

[Anpu23]

You see that kind of stuff all the time in the Man-O-Sphere
Its like they watch a little Honey Badgers and then... Poof... I've been in the wrong... I mean I get it. It's like you've been tricked and felt soooo superior, then someone comes along and points out all the flaws in feminism and then the natural response is anger. I was red pilled when I was 7 44 years ago so a lot if it is old hack to me. But I get it.

[hi_it_is_me123]

If a girl do the same shit as him except genders reversed guys will call her a feminazi but since he makes terrible generalizations about women it is ok for hypocritical male cunts. You all complain about feminazis making generalizatios and so you all say 'not all men' but when Apope16 does exactly the same as feminazis only genders reversed it is ok for you.. Lool some male replies are kinda funnny. They call you triggered snowflake but also get triggered by your take/question. So who are the real triggered snowflake? Some of them even make pointless arguments about you being anon. For retards here: Almost everyone is anon, it does not matter whether she shows her username or not. You won't know her real identity anyway. So why tf does it matter? I think being completely anon is good way to avoid the harrassment by incels.

[myTake Owner]

I literally just wanted to avoid getting blocked by @Apope16 and avoid getting harrassed by his "followers".

I'm not a triggered snowflake. Imagine describing an ejaculating penis as "resembling a swollen thumb which discharges pus". That wouldn't sit well with men - but @Apope16 can go right ahead and describe vaginas as "Tsunamis" and "blood dripping".
The language that he uses isn't okay, and he doesn't make valid arguments or points in his posts - he just repeats that he thinks all women are the way he sees them. It's quite bizarre.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Is it true that he identifies himself as a feminist? What? I read your replies. I am confused since he behaves like an redpill incel sometimes but the good thing about him is, that he really does not block anyone. I critizise him many time under his takes, he does not block me.

[Anonymous]

The favourite insult of many of you women he is "you don't know women as well as you think you do". Usually guys are talking from their experience about what actually works for them when getting women. Women on the other hand speak about what they think they want, which we men know is different from what they say they want. It's so strange to me that you girls seem to want to tell us that we should believe the things you say rather than believe our own eyes.

I don't think he's an expert. Sometimes he asks things which should be obvious to a guy who gets laid a lot. However, you didn't list any of these reasons. Some of your reasons are also pretty dumb.

You wouldn't date a guy who thinks that women are as sexual as men? Why not? Do women not enjoy sex just as much as men? Isn't the idea that women are not as sexual as men a patriarchal idea which leads to slut-shaming?

You think he shouldn't speak about sexual things involving vaginas at all despite having sex with women? Because you think that means he thinks that he owns them? What the hell are you talking about? You're an idiot.

[myTake Owner]

I wouldn't date a guy who thinks that women want/need to be fucked. Sex shouldn't be a necessity in my eyes.
I actually agree that women are just as sexual as men. There was nothing wrong with that.

The way @Apope16 talks about the female body is degrading. I strongly believe that he thinks he's being a good feminist when he "empowers women to have period sex", but the whole "blood dripping vagina" thing was simply too much. This is not how a 33 year old man with respect for himself and his sexual partners should talk about women's bodies in my opinion.
For example, consider this:
Instead of writing a take called "Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to Squirt from Your Yoni", how about rephrasing it to "How you can help your partner squirt" or "How to help her squirt".
"How to squirt from your yoni" sounded like a post written by a pink user to me.
It's poorly phrased, and the post is poorly worded ("Think of her vagina as a Tsunami. OKay? YOu are slowly stroking the upper wall of her vagina midway deep and caressing it toward your toward her opening.")

I hope that this makes more sense. @Apope16 is perfectly entitled to write about sex, but when he writes from a female perspective using degrading language, it's no longer okay.

[Kas19]

You think a woman telling you that you don't know much about us is an insult? 💀

Also, how can you be so close to the point yet so far? I think you're the idiot here, luv.

She's straight up telling you what she thinks and you're reiterating it differently than she said it. Which further proves you DON'T know what women want. Is it a listening issue? I know a lot of men have issues with listening. Or do you struggle with interpreting words? Or is it just from women, since like you said, you don't believe what we say anyway.

This is just embarassing at this point. You're not helping the Apope dudes case in the slightest.

[Opinion Owner]

@mytake Owner: I just think you’re too easily offended and you take it too seriously. I think he’s trying to be humorous. It is cringe when he speaks about “how to get her pussy wet” but whatever, shouldn’t be such a big deal.

[Opinion Owner]

@Kas19

It’s just funny to me when women say that because I’ve been accused of it a bunch of times, of being “toxic” or “dark” too. But I speak based on my experience. I went from being a typical nice guy getting friendzoned all the time to a point where I could get laid whenever. I know what women respond to is different to what they say they want because I know what works and what doesn’t. Like I say, you girls expect a guy not to believe his own eyes.

[myTake Owner]

@OP: I don't think @Apope16 is trying to be humerous. I genuinely believe that at least 70% of what his saying are his core values and beliefs, and that's an issue to me, because he's putting them out for the world to see and gets way more attention than he deserves.

I'm not easily offended, but trust me when I say that no woman wants her vagina to be compared to a Tsunami. It's things like these (which he does frequently) that add to the great picture that seems to scream that he doesn't understand women as well as he thinks/claims he does.

This, and because his posts are always promoted/get a lot of attention in comparison to *good* posts, is why I decided to write this. Someone had to call him out.

[myTake Owner]

@OP's reply to @kas19:
Your knowledge is based on your personal experiences.
None of my girlfriends would fall for the techniques described by @Apope16. I'm not familiar with picking up girls, so I can't say what will work and what won't - but I know that mutual respect is always a good start, which is something @Apope16 seems to lack. And that's sad!

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe. I highly doubt that he speaks this way to the women he's trying to have sex with though. His problem as I see it is that he has the mentality of a teenage fuckboy.

[myTake Owner]

@OP This is a very valid point you're making and what I referenced in my last reply - when you lack mutual respect, I personally don't believe that you can have a stable, healthy relationship.
I don't want to say something negative about losing your virginity late, but maybe this also influences how you view women and how you go about having sex. I just don't know.

Having been with a very misogynistic, antisemitic, racist and sexist guy who had a very, very similar mentality and was only in it for the sex - I know that these things will only start surfacing after the 3-6 month mark or so. If you don't agree with someone's beliefs, the relationship will always be harder. If you strongly disagree with someone's beliefs, it'll be impossible.
That's why I think that if @Apope16 may like to have a long, committed relationship in the future, he'd have to change the way he thinks about women first or get really good at filtering out anything remotely degrading from the language he's using. I hope this makes sense, it's not an insult, just my personal opinion based on my experience.

[myTake Owner]

@OP: The "teenage fuckboy" mindset would explain why he talks about sexuality and women's emotions in such a cringe worthy way.

He was a best friend to a number of girls and women according to him, but to think that he'd understand them just from that would be a leap.

Also, I never understood "Ladies Man" as "he only sleeps around", I think it means "he's popular among women and understands them", and this is why I think that at least part of this word doesn't match with the content he's putting out there on G@G.

[Opinion Owner]

I think that such guys go through phases. I was similar although much younger. For me at the beginning I was just a naive, idealistic, nice guy. I don't mean fake nice, I mean genuinely nice. Girls would say that they thought I was a great guy but there was no "spark", and we remained friends. Over time this does get very frustrating and does a lot of damage to self-esteem - nobody wants to feel completely undesirable after all.

I never really got bitter or hated women, but I did start to behave more like fuckboys because I put 2+2 together. I was being nice and getting nowhere, they were choosing fuckboys over me, if I became a fuckboy maybe they'd choose me. I did that, and they did.

So then I went through a big fuckboy phase, when I was about 18/19 - about 21/22. That's why I say he has a teenage fuckboy mentality because he has my old mentality. Clubbing every weekend, toward the end I could pull a girl from a club every night I went out. I was sex-obsessed because I wanted to get better, to the point where I didn't have to worry about no girl wanting me. I never wanted to be the "nice guy" again. I was also in my mind making up for the times when I'd see everyone else dating, having sex, having a good time, while I was alone and miserable. It wasn't that I didn't respect women, I did. I never lied to them or anything, I wasn't the manipulative type.

Eventually that gets old and boring, especially as you mature, and you start to feel like random sex is just like masturbating with someone else's body. Empty, meaningless. Then you come to the middle.

I think he's in that second phase still because he's such a late bloomer..

[myTake Owner]

Thank you for sharing your experience, I think it makes sense that @Apope16 is in that phase of his adult life right now, but obviously nobody can confirm that but him.

[Rob17792]

you're missing the point. he goes on talking about vaginal blood from women's periods something he himself doesn't have a vagina. he shouldn't be talking about menstrual blood when he's never experienced it before nor is he a trained medical gynacolagist. and in case you hadn't figured it out by now he's not getting any pussy. he wants to but he doesn't it's pretty obvious even for a blind man to see. the more he brags the more he isn't getting any

[Rob17792]

that g-spot squirting was weird when i saw that. he acts like most guys don't know what the fuck a g-spot is. and a lot of women don't squirt even when their g-spot is stimulated and masturbated. but his lack of knowledge in that area is pretty obvious

[Ryfyle]

@Kas19 I don't think Apope has a case. It's more of a thing to stir up mindless controversy.

[myTake Owner]

@Rob17792 The whole g-Spot Take was all over the place... It left me with the feeling that he actually has no idea about squirting.
I'm personally not able to squirt (tried it all, with and without a partner), so I'd never write a take about the topic, simply because I wouldn't know how to bring myself to squirt - and like you said, not all women squirt just because their g-spot is massaged. Not all women like having their g-spot stimulated too.

[myTake Owner]

@Ryfyle Probably true.

[RedSauce]

Come on, they’re funny reads. Most of the stuff he writes up is poorly worded and only really applies to a very small percentage of people; it’s not like the guy has cracked some kind of secret code or whatever - it’s just a guy that claims to have had slightly more luck with hookups than your average guy, not exactly revolutionary

[myTake Owner]

I guess that's true. I just personally think that his low opinion of women is problematic.

[myTake Owner]

Also, I'm glad that you mentioned that he writes poorly worded Takes and questions - there are so many nice, positive users here that genuinely try not to make typos all the time, whereas he doesn't seem to care.
I think it's rather disturbing for the eye LOL. I'd just love to see other users get the amount of attention he does.

[FilmGuy93]

Agreed, I think the advice he gives is probably missing the mark in a lot of ways. I have noticed a lot that men's dating advice totally ignores the benefits of being an interesting, entertaining, and uplifting person. I have never met anyone, male or female, that doesn't want to feel appreciated, valued and uplifted by the people around them.

It seems to me that that is the best dating advice anyone could give.

[myTake Owner]

This really resonated with me, everyone wants to feel loved, valued, appreciated, uplifted by others. Nothing of what the advice he's giving is aimed at making women feel GENUINELY appreciated though - most of what @Apope16 says seems to aimed at connecting with women on a superficial level - just enough to get laid.
That's not how you build a meaningful relationship though.

Thanks for sharing this.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm glad this resonated with you! I really wish men's dating advice spoke more about how nourish the soul. Men (and women) would benefit considerably from taking the time to understand what each other needs.

[HugoThe2nd]

I thought it was obvious to everyone that mister "ladies man" is actually a sore virgin and I assumed people are following him for the gag value.

[myTake Owner]

He apparently lost his virginity at 27, and the way that he talks about sex shows that he's made some experiences (or is an expert at sex without ever having had sex), but I feel like the way that he talks about women as if they're children or merely toys to play and have sex with is awful. He has a history of using degrading language and putting his view above all else.

I honestly couldn't take it anymore, it's just ridiculous that he claims to be a "Ladies' Man" at this point when he's all the things I hate in a guy. He completely disregards the fact that everyone is different and has different preferences and that not every healthy relationship consists of the kind of guy he is and the kind of woman he describes online.

[Bricealan]

Lets cut to reality here. In the first place, a real "Ladies Man'" does not have to be writing a dissertation on GAG for this kind of discussion. This guy has too much time on his hands for this kind of bullshit.

[myTake Owner]

My thought precisely. If he got laid as often as he claims he does, he'd have his hands full with those girls, LOL.

[Bricealan]

Thanks for the reply, this kind of thing on this site, sometimes discourages me from writing or answering, and especially I just ignore this kind of BS. The other readers just encourage it by responding.

[myTake Owner]

I'm not sure I agree with that - sure, he was promoted to Influencer because of the amount of intereaction he's received, but he's also been around for a while and most of the pink users don't have that much positive input for him... Hardly anyone understands the point he's making AND fully agrees with him.
But I certainly agree that he shouldn't be given this much attention.

[Bricealan]

Thanks for the additional input. I was aware of the 'influencer" status as I don't pay much attention to that. I just felt that I would not take the time to wade through everything written by the man, in order to discern what his point was with all of that input. Sometimes I write on and on also, but more to explain something asked, rather than pounding my own chest.
Thanks for you thoughts.

Bruce

[anon1903]

Somebody needed to take him down, that asshole. He's spreading all sorts of conceptions with his narrow minded solutions and because they're controversial and sexist (and make users are twice in number), he's gaining popularity.

Thanks, Honey.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you so much for posting this <3 Despite the controversy, I knew I'd hit a nerve with some fellow pink users.

[Anonymous]

While I think a bunch of his stuff is off base, your complaints seem to be mainly based on how you think the world should be, rather than how the world is.

You also started with the false premise that a ladies man is the perfect man as described by women. I don't think most people interpret it that way. A ladies man is a man who is good at generating attraction and short term dating with women. Given that this skill set is demonstrably boosted by dark triad traits, we might conclude that a lot of ladies men don't much like women -or other men- that much. As for being perfect I seem to recall he himself has noted he's almost better at being the "other man" then actually getting long term relationships with the best women

that probably has nothing to do with his views or personality however. I'd bet a fair bit that his ability to attract is well in excess of his income.

[myTake Owner]

"I'd bet a fair bit that his ability to attract is well in excess of his income." - what does this mean?

I don't understand why he explains how to make a girl fall in love with you if he's only interested in short term dating though.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure he's only interested in short term. Nevertheless, most men thats their bigger challenge - generating attraction. Lots of guys are vaguely dateable/marriageable but can't get any women interested. So while I haven't noticed his stuff being great it's why there is a big marker for pick up type advice even for guys who want long term.

As for him, I think he lacks the financial stability women in the class he hooks up with are looking for long term. It's less common for men to be able to have flings with women who wouldn't settle down with them since most men's "stability" is in excess of their "attraction". I suspect he's in that category.

[myTake Owner]

Fair point.

I've never looked at it from that perspective, but this may be true, financial stability matters in long term relationships for sure. He's mentioned not being able to find a job as easily in a number of takes.

[Nazgol]

So true. This guy reminds me of my former friends with benefits. Everytime I see his feed on the site it disgusts me and brings back the same despiteful feelings. And all along before I was trying to remember who it resembles and feels familiar to. Now I know it's him!

[myTake Owner]

I understand, sorry ou had to go through this <3

[Nazgol]

❤ thanks

[SphynxUK]

Never read any of them.
The titles are enough to put me off.

[myTake Owner]

That's why I included the titles in my post - I just wanted to show how bizarre it gets when a G@G user attempts to gain clout, attention and an audience and is quite successful with it too, but once you start disecting the content, it's rather bizarre.

It's sad to see him use the attention he gets in such a meaningless, disruptive and unpleasant way.

[Anonymous]

Must say that you mister wannabe "Ladies Man" and the absolute worst of you all the absolute self-proclaimed online dating coach (🤔🙄🤣) T Anthony... Mean have any of you doxed this piece of shit. What can I say about someone who has probably only imagined getting with a woman and if his mind can be stretched that far? Having sex with a woman... not talking about his best male butt buddy.

Something he does what women indulge in often... but pictures are worth a thousand words. Get why you feel you can relate with what women may experience and feel resentment about the actual sex act... since he has first-hand experience in what that is like.

Look, it is incredible that you were willing to go that far to know just what it is like for a woman and how often it can simply end in frustration. The simple fact that you know just what that feels like... Sure it has made you into a better lover of women.

[myTake Owner]

I'm sorry, I didn't understand your reply (the 1st paragraph was fine, the 2nd and 3rd.. not so much)

[Opinion Owner]

Don't worry about it... I barely understand it myself ATM... 😬

[Opinion Owner]

🤔New rule for myself... 🤦‍♀️Don't drink and G@G... 🤷‍♀️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

While I disagree with a lot of what he says, and I agree it can be detrimental to younger users, especially young men to get bad advice, notions about women that are more biased assumptions than truth, this is a public forum where people have the right to their opinions, even as asshat as they may be... But by creating this post, you're just giving his posts more attention. And feeding his ego at the same time. And I agree with others that you lose credibility posting as anon...