Search Results: personality vs good looks

First let me say that I am not good looking at all. So I could very well become the guy I am describing below.

I have seen many girls that in the past only dated the hottest guys around. Then they eventually marry and have children with a guy that I think "Him?". It is like they exchanged James Bond for Donald Duck. All of the standards they had for guys suddenly do not apply anymore.

I perfectly understand that looks aren't everything and that it's the inside that counts. But so often the contrast between the new guy vs the past good looking guys seems so drastic that I am almost convinced that it's done because they know they can keep the less good looking guy. And who says that a good looking guy does not have a great personality as well?

I would love it if someone could explain.

For starters men basically only care about looks and personality for the most part and their standards for looks aren't even that high. A man is willing to commit get with an average girl who makes minimum wage and he finds attractive even if he makes like 5-6x her salary.

As long as she is a lovely person, and is attractive to him at least. In fact, men who are in better place in life consistently throughout history have dated down and loved a woman who had nothing to offer him but her looks and personality. We see this even with celebrities today like Henry Caville.

[Women often think men only care about looks but they fail to realize personality is also important. Hence, why less men are checking out in relationship these days and marriage. Being pretty shell, and giving out great sex is not enough to keep a man girls;we aren't that easy.]

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Women who despite media and women claiming personality is most important often have other criteria that must be added with the personality for a man to be given a chance at dating them.

For a lot of women you either need meet all their physical criteria to be given a chance which often includes being tall, athletic body and good looking to be given a chance with them and have a good personality (this may not be needed for some girl) if you lack money and/or status.

However, women are willing to lower on looks if you bring money and/or social status.

In short a personality alone and being decent looking will never get you the girl as a man. However, being very good looking with a personality (optional) will get you the girl or if you aren't a girl physical ideal then a LOT of money and/or status.

So aren't women more shallow of the two genders since to them you either need to be insanely hot and/or bring materialistic things to the table to be given a chance with them?