“For she had eyes and chose me.”
― William Shakespeare, Othello
What is important to obtain a healthy , stable and long lasting relationship?
After all, looks fade with all of us in time and then all we have left is personality and character.
Hey, I'm not trying to offend the differently young folks, I absolutely find them stunning and their wrinkles are just part of their beauty !!!
Disclaimer: I'm sure not all of you agree, but I'm stuck in the middle (l bet you noticed I'm always stuck between two Ideas but I like this part of me because I tend to observe and accept both parts) ... There is always a right in the wrong right? (YingYang)
PRO LOOKS - it all starts with looks .. if it doesn't please the eye what's the point...then I think personality and character add the cement to the physical attraction ... both for male & female.In this case SOME (not all) relationships fail right at the beginning, because they fall in love with their appearance but eventually they find out that their personality actually sucks, or they're just not on the same page.
On the other hand, SOME might actually hit the jackpot and find an amazing partner that is good looking inside and out.
PRO - PERSONALITY
There are people who consider Personality and Character being the most important.
Not judging a book by it's cover.
Overall I really like the inner beauty of people, it makes them shine even more on the outside, especially after you find out that they are not just Beautiful on the outside, but also on the inside, which makes the person even MORE attractive Quote : My Boyfriend (lol)
Well, my Man is guilty of falling in love with my looks, but his theory was :
LET'S TRY TO HIT HE JACKPOT ... Got nothing to loose ...
and according to him he got lucky because he loved my personality ... but I was a little offended, because it felt like MY LOOKS where really the reason why he HIT ME UP, but again his theory was :
It was destiny ...
AND i was ready to kick his "way the cookie crumbles" ass back to realty ...
BUT THEN ... something hit me ...
I actually loved his looks too, (sh*t) and at that moment when he approached me for the first time I thought, OK let's give it a try, he's cute, if he is full of himself I will just reject him slowly ...
And after thinking about this a lot, i came up with this theory: Looks will initially grab my attention. Personality will invite me to learn more about them. Character will keep me coming back to be a part of their life and stay ...
Judge me all you want but I really liked the way he looked and HEY at least I'm being honest... this does not mean that I care too much about looks but it just grabbed my attention, this does not mean that I would not give somebody else who is less attractive a chance, I was never in seek of perfection, I just wanted to be treated good ... I love a man who is intelligent, who can make me laugh .. if that meets my criteria then looking handsome is just irrelevant.
In general it's more about health, hygiene and body language (like the way he presents himself) than his specific looks. It pretty much looks like I'm contradicting with myself but like I said, I'm somehow stuck in the middle of these two factors ...
Let's agree on one thing though:
The most compatible person for you may not always be the best looking one. However the opposite can be true as well. No person is perfect and not everyone is going to have everything that you desire, so some sacrifices need to be made in the name of love, and in order to be happy.
Have a wonderful day