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27F, the longest I was with someone was a few months. I have only ever met men on dating apps, I don’t have friends or a social life. I had to use dating apps because men just don’t ever approach me. I know women get approached doing everyday things like groceries, going to the bookstore etc. I’m told I’m cute, even when I was a little skinnier I assumed that would lead to more attention. I get messages on the apps but my reality has been: good looking guys only want casual, the decent looking ones are too short for me and the meh ones have a decent personality but I’m not physically attracted to them. I have tried bumble after years of expecting guys to approach first, I have gotten a good amount of responses recently but it continues to die out early on. I just go through periods where I feel the need to take a step back and test the guys interest. Or periods where I want companionship and for a few weeks, I have no desire to talk to any guy. Some say self sabotage I say it’s a gut instinct knowing it’s doomed to fail.

So I’m really wondering why I am the unluckiest person ever. I’m 26 and never had a long term relationship. In HS, I never got asked out. I tried the dating apps in 2012, have been using them on and off since. It’s been almost a month since I stopped using them & plan to keep it that way hopefully. I always figured that because I’m chubbier, maybe that’s why I’m always single. I lost weight & am still alone. Why I use apps? I don’t have a social life (only “online friends”) and when I used to go out with people I called “friends”, I never got approached. I only get noticed by the men I would not want. When I do get noticed by men physically attractive, it always goes to shit. Only the unattractive ones are usually a bit more promising. I tell my parents my bad luck & clearly they can’t relate. My mom met her partner of 15 years in a chat room & my dad has been steady with another woman for a few years. My parents are out of shape and not college educated, I hate to sound rude. I’m thick too but try to take care of my appearance and have a decent job, degree & own my place. What more does a man want from me? I get mixed reviews on the dating apps, 50-50 for success & fail stories.