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A narcissist, on the surface, is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. They often come as the most "charming" people around you & someone who never fails to NOT mention anything good they've been doing. Narcissists are not secure people and the "self interest and excessive admiration" that shows, is usually stemming from a deep deep insecurity. They have an insatiable need of people's (collectively, never a single person) validation, to feel valued. 'Never a single person' cuz they usually cannot care about anyone particular other than themselves. A lot of times they're just BLIND to see the harm they cause to the ones they "care" about (covert nar.). Their reasonings can be anything, at any level, to justify their own selves and their actions. They can never be argued with bcz their minds are incapable of seeing their own self at the 'wrong'. They have to "win". They live to win, "reputation" is the most important thing to them. They're incapable of being vulnerable (could be cuz of a past trauma) to others. They leech out the people they're with, if you've been through that mental exhaustion. They all have pretty much the same patterns. If you've been one of their victims, you can pick out those patterns easily. Manipulations, gaslighting, not being truthful, conditioning, twisting words are just few ways. I wish you all the best on your healing journey & hopefully (not smth good), those triggers are strong enough that you never trust such person again.
(my personal view of them 👆 you may correct me/or add to this (if u want to) but be polite)