Are your insecurities physical or mental?

[MementoMori777]

By this I mean are they on your physical appearance or personality? And why?

[Sonorous]

I think that maybe everyone experiences both mental and physical insecurities, which will become more apparent in specific environments. The internet or being in large crowds, for example, can amplify these insecurities. I say this because it seems unlikely, or at least not very common, for a person to have no insecurities while functioning normally.

Insecurity often arises when we recognize potential or actual shortcomings in ourselves. We observe how others benefit from certain attributes, which sparks our desire for them.

This desire isn't inherently negative; instead, it serves as a useful feeling/survival tool! It only becomes bad when a person struggles to manage their insecurities well & end up channeling them into something destructive or not social approved of.

[MementoMori777]

Maybe but some people deal with it more than others when for some it's rarely and others it's constant

[Sonorous]

I agree with that. Some people struggle with more intense feelings. However, I still believe that we all have them. Many might just better at managing or hiding them. Or they might not know themselves enough to understand what they're insecure about. It may just be very apparent to people around them & especially to level headed people they might disagree with.

Example: someone I've interacted with did not understand that the reason why they were offended at how scientific I am about topics is because they don't like "feeling wrong." For me, I'm innocently inquiring about things & challenging all perspectives involved (especially my own) to gain a more accurate understanding of truths of our reality. But for them, I'm disagreeing & doubting them which is "treating them like they're stupid."

I'm a very nice & non hostile person when unprovoked so I know for a fact that this would be linked to their insecurities. They're just unknowingly projecting them onto me because they're bad at managing & accepting them.

[MementoMori777]

I don't doubt it but because we can all struggle with insecurity but I do believe that maybe mood can help with it, I've noticed depression can make you feel insecure

[Sonorous]

Yeah, I definitely believe it can. I've experienced it. And especially since we are creatures that use surface level cues to signify deeper health & competence, other things help as well. For instance, always feeling less insecure when I'm able to:

- Workout (to look muscular ofc, which signifies physical competence)
- Eat healthily (to look & feel better)
- Properly groom my beard (to have a beard accentuate my jaws while not being a neckbeard)
- Keep me & my surrounding clean

However, as someone who looked the best when I was feeling my worst, stress levels, environment & how we think matters the most in my opinion. Now that I can protect my ears better from sound (I have hyperacusis), I'm not as stressed as I was before. So I don't wanna die as much. Ofc, I'm gonna still struggle with trying to enjoy this cruel ass world though 🧎‍♂️ especially since we humans can be such unempathetic pieces of shit

[MementoMori777]

Lmao I agree lol

[Sonorous]

oh yeah & my hairline. I'm part black so if I don't make sure my shit is good, Ima be lookin real homeless

[MementoMori777]

Lmao

[Wonderingguyy]

Both, but mostly mental. I have crazy nightmares that are quite embarrassing if I’m sleeping over at someone’s house or if I have someone over.

[MementoMori777]

You never thought on some medication for that, if it exists

[Wonderingguyy]

Yeah I don’t like taking anything though, but I’m in therapy and that’s helping quite a bit.

[MementoMori777]

Well that's good, hope it goes away bro

[Wonderingguyy]

Thanks 🙂

[WhereIsMyMind]

Yes like many people I have some insecurities physically and mentally, more so the latter. I often feel anxious and overthink what I've just said as soon as I've said it, I get intrusive thoughts that people don't like me and worry that they find me weird or question my decisions. It's strange, in some ways I really don't care what people think but in others my mind won't shut up about it.

[MementoMori777]

What you are describing sounds more like over thinking than it is insecurities, you said you don't care so it's intrusive thoughts that you just want to avoid when you get them, correct? 🤔

[WhereIsMyMind]

Yeah, I think it is over thinking. I take medication for the anxiety but I do still get it to some degree. I'm definitely better than I used to be, but if I forget to take my medication I start to feel increasingly on edge. It's probably counterproductive in a way, but I don't see a way of stopping it now.

[MementoMori777]

Yea if you were insecure I think you'd notice it cause you'd have a low self esteem on whatever you are insecure about depending on what it is and no matter how you are told otherwise, you'd deny it, how does your counterproductive effect your life tho? Do you act on the intrusive thoughts?

[Miah05]

I don't really have any.

Like when i was playing basketball for my college.

I was insecure because i was too skinny and got easily pushed around, but now i don't play unless it's a pick up game it don't matter, because they can't compete with me.

But yeah that was it

[MementoMori777]

Well being secure is a good thing, it brings a lot of peace lol

[Miah05]

Pretty much.

[Anonymous]

Both. I have schizophrenia which has made me feel like a freak to have the mental illness even though it's controlled with medicine. Physically I'm insecure because I am fat so I have insecurities with my weight though I'm doing something about it and trying to lose weight.

[MementoMori777]

Well that's good you've decided to do something about it, I hope you reach your goals

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks!

[A_Bell]

I don't have any mental insecurities. I am not really sure how that would manifest.

Physically, I obsess over every flaw, especially bad poster from slouching because I'm so tall. I'm ok with my height, and in fact it is confidence building, but it's hard to find pants that fit or one piece swimsuits or jumpsuits and the like.

Now, after having two kids and a third on the way, my abs aren't the abs of my athlete days.

[sheenagwapa]

both because i'm i secure of my intelligence. I don't know many times i feel stupidbut i also find it sooo funny. when i was in college i went to a doctor because i thought i'ma man or hybrid. i look back and would tell myself dang how the hell i have thought of that

[es_annie]

I have experiences on both but it’s more on the physical side for me

[MementoMori777]

Well Annie I hope you manage to overcome them 🙂💯

[midnightmoon05]

I have a great personality. I am 5ft. But I am not bother by.

[Lionman95]

Mainly physical it´s all rooted in the way I look.

[LostandFound__x]

Definitely mental. Not insecure about my appearance hardly.

[Reem12345reem]

they relate to each other , one caused the other

[Anonymous]

I think my biggest insecurities have to do with my body because I wish I was a little skinner

[Tessafowler03]

Mental. My physical features are hot

[MementoMori777]

Well now I'm just curious, what is it? 😶👀

[FenixG45]

Damn right!

[PrettyCrumblBb]

None. Don't have any insecurities.

[MementoMori777]

That's good crumble 🤣

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yup 👍

[PrettyCrumblBb]

What about u?

[MementoMori777]

Not really no 🤔

[PrettyCrumblBb]

That's good memento 🤣

[MementoMori777]

Thank you crumble 😂

[provokeesmokee]

I got a bit of both.

[MementoMori777]

What are they 🤔

[Anonymous]

It's always about the software..

[sheikalana]

Physical.

[Jmmmfi4]

Definitely both