What are your insecurities?

Question

I was born with birthmarks which are not genetic, but instead developed in pregnancy and not inheritable , my mother was in stress and something got messed up during pregnancy.

So, my future children, won’t have it, but I do. Which I don’t mind and actually I feel happy about because they have defined and developed my confidence.

In childhood, I was always stopped on streets, and asked “Wow, are your eyes always like these?”

“I have never seen eyes like these”

“How interesting.”
“How exotic”

“How mysterious”

So on and on…

My mom always told me “If I ever lose you, I’ll always find you, because you have the eyes like nobody else. You are one in a million type of girl.” These words always cheered me up and made me feel confident in who I was.

Later on with puberty and sun, very fade grayish-bluish discoloration appeared on my temples too.

That one was unexpected, so while it doesn’t portray any danger to health, I had to learn how to live with those birthmarks when I was in a very sensitive age of 15-16.

I made a point to not hide them, I always wore ponytails and when people asked

“Hey, I think you’ve got something on your forehead”

I would say

“Oh, yes, I know. I like it. “

I learned to change my insecurities into my signature.

I was even modeling for a while.

I have stepped over my insecurities and made it a point to be so certain in who I am, that I’d make my personality far more shining than any insecurities I had.

My mom helped me a lot - Because she raised me to be very confident in who I am.

As a result, I have dated some very handsome or high quality men and nobody has ever mentioned my birthmarks. Or nobody has ever said I was in any way different.

Sometimes I even forget I have birthmarks.

Updates

1 mo

For the idiots, I am not in the photo obviously!!!

I add Google photos to my questions pretty often, yet some geniuses jump out saying this is not me in the picture. I know?

Why should I post my pictures in the questions…

Mr_twoface · Accepted Answer

I may not have any physicial insecurity from birth but in general we all have some sort if insecutrity, it's a universal part of the human condition. We know we should raise our hand in class, but are afraid we’ll sound stupid. We pine silently for our crush, but keep our distance so they don’t laugh in our face. We want to voice our idea in the meeting, but can’t find the words—until we hear someone else say them first.

I have so many of those insecurity perks and in time some new have come and others have gone. I feel more confident in some aspects than what I used to do before marriage. Yet in other areas, I fail miserably. But its a learning progress and whenever I fail, I try to find my strenght to do it better next time.

Although I don't have physical insecurity, before marriage, I was insecure of the shape of my belly and the size of my persian nose. Those insecurities doesn't bother me anymore ;)

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I could definitely do with a smaller nose, lmao You can catch it at a couple points in this. Makes for a horrific profile😂

funnybabe · Accepted Answer

Oh, I have so many physical insecurities. Where should I start? I hate having small eyes and my chin is so crooked. I hate the fact that I am short (161 cm) and I am insecure about my thin hair. I also used to hate my teeth, but now I am wearing braces and I love how my smile changed.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I hate how I look so much. I hate everything about my looks, they're my biggest insecurities, but also I feel insecure because I'm an introvert and I'm shy so talking irl is a problem for me, I feel so nervous and it's hard to get the words out. >_<;;

Account · Answer

Physical? I have none. There are times I forget even that I am a human.

NathanDavis · Answer

I had them when I was younger... not anymore

and basically... I was entirely insecure and uncertain about everything in my mind, lol... as if I were trapped in a shell, and I was, but I did work on it for so many years

aceleon · Answer

not liking soccer/football or cars like most guys do.

might seem stupid but it caused me to not have many friends in my childhood and nowadays still robs me off of my friends, think like this, how easy being friends with people you share no interests?

also robbed me off of my father too, he was a soccer/football fan and a car addict and appearantly the matches were more important than the son he tried to have for 6 year.

AaronKrieger · Answer

My teeth, as they're messed up due to never getting braces growing up. Fortunately they are not too bad to the point it'd turn people off, but they are noticeable enough.

JacobJordan · Answer

Hmmm my height for a while was a big one. I grew faster than most kids so I ended up being thin and tall so I hunched to seem shorter. Aside from that I don't really have any took a few years to realize their was nothing wrong with me and the people that didn't like me were the problem. Realized that told them to kick rocks turned out I was right

DJB72 · Answer

I gave up caring what other people think of me years ago. These days I don't want to offend my wife or my son. Everyone else can go spin on a cactus

Steelcore5280 · Answer

My facial imperfections like the weird dot on my nose and my eczema are the worst for me. I've tried to change them and can't do it.

Another thing I have that isn't really an insecurity but just a thing is that I'm 5'9 and not over 6'0. It's not really an insecurity or anything, but something I think about since women overwhelmingly prefer men over 6'0 and a lot of us under 5'11 are in trouble when it comes to dating.

Nikki1989 · Answer

None anymore. Any I had were dead and buried 15 or more years ago.

AlexEfron · Answer

You hyped me with your description of eyes and no picture. Not fair. Show us your eyes.

I don't have any physical insecurities. I've always been insecure about knowledge. I hate to be ignorant. I want to know everything and never be deemed incompetent

Dongie · Answer

I always felt not as good as the average person and way below smart and popular groups. Until about 31 then something changed. Maybe reached full adulthood, probably, then the upper status was nothing but bullshit.

MsBrie · Answer

I have a few insecurities I was anxious and still anxious about My marriage but I get support from Him and Friends I am still in contact with.

Iron_Man · Answer

Nothing really, but I’m starting to get sunspots on my forehead on the side. I don’t like it at all I can kind of pick it off but I heard if you use hydrogen peroxide, it helps

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Sorry but I'm not insecure at all I am who I am and I'm ok with it

Squatting_Slav · Answer

In riddled with insecurities, but i own them, and they define who I am

Still-alive · Answer

My biggest one wold be a fear of abandonment. its something im working on.

JHAYES317 · Answer

First of all…high quality men? Really? Men aren’t cars… Second of all, most of my insecurities are health related, so my body failing me in some way is the main one…

Anonymous · Answer

What I see when I look in the mirror isn't what others see.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Personal insecurities describe the negative ways you view yourself — and perhaps believe others do, too. You may dislike your appearance or lifestyle, question your identity, or constantly compare yourself to others.

Stacy0706 · Answer

I use to with my height at 6ft. I’m insecure reading out load. I sound like an 8 year old learning how to read.

Nifrayu · Answer

I'm still a bit insecure about being circumcised. Other the that I don't have any physical insecurities.

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