You're not single because you're ugly, You're single because of your lack of confidence and picky-ness. Agree or disagree?

[JustinTheGreat]

I see a lot of people (especially on this website) say things like "Aw boo-hoo I'm sad and single because i'm UGLY. nobody will ever love me. boo-hoo :("

I don't think being ugly completely stops you from being in a relationship. I've seen some UGLY ass people who are in perfectly happy relationships. I don't mean to judge people on appearance but it's true...
I've also seen people who are completely average looking with good looking partners.

So anytime someone complains about how "nobody will ever like them" because they "aren't attractive'
i think its a load of bullshit. Your insecurities and lack of confidence is truly what stops you from being in a relationship. And I know being insecure isn't exactly easy to fix, but there are ways to gain confidence.
Plus 90% of the time people complain about their looks, they're not even ugly... like wtf are you talking about? You look fine.

also, a lot of people who complain about being single are way too picky... You want your partner to look like a model and have the perfect personality. Which isn't going to happen. You can't reject everyone who wants you for small reasons and then wonder why you're still single. Sometimes you need to give people a chance.

Am I wrong?

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+1 y

by the way this isn't towards people who chose to be single. I'm specificallyyyy talking about people who cry and blame their ugliness on why they're single

[curiousnorway]

The reasons you mentioned may the the reasons for some people. Being too picky or being insecure makes it more difficult to find a partner. I've seen a lot of average and less nice looking people having good partners. I've also seen many who dates someone "outside of their league" appearance wise. It's common in some cultures where personalities and values are more valued than looks alone. It really depends on where you lives and which culture/value people around you've.

Looks are beneficial in some cases, but that doesn't mean you're guaranteed a partner. Sometimes personalities matter much more. Not everyone thinks both looks and personality are equal important.

[truthbeknown]

Yes and no. Being confident and more open to options will increase your chances, but no matter how you act, you can't make someone be attracted to you or want to date you. Just because someone is a super great person with tons of confidence and willing to date me doesn't mean they are automatically entitled to date me or I am obligated to date them. I still have to find them attractive too.

[HOAAH]

no, WHEN I WAS SINGLE (emphasis on that, since I have been in a relationship for almost 10 years), I CHOSE to be single because I was not READY for a relationship and had not found the one either.

[JustinTheGreat]

Well i was specifically was talking about the people who cry about and dislike being single.
But I think choosing to be a single is completely fine

[Gotcha_Writer10]

Dude you just posted a thing about how you can't find a girl because your fat and ugly and all that crap. You really are a troll.

[JustinTheGreat]

I think you're thinking of someone else lol
I never posted that. I'm engaged

[Gotcha_Writer10]

I realize that lol I sent it to the wrong person who repeated what you said lol sorry dude!

[JustinTheGreat]

that's okay!

[Ellie-V]

I’m single because I like it this way ☺️ No complaints over here 👍🏾

[JustinTheGreat]

Well that's great too!

[ShadowofRegret]

I certainly agree, I do not mean to boast, but I have only heard compliments regarding my own appearance, yet it is not as if I am buried in swimsuit models, I only say this to show that looks really do not have sa much to do with it as some think.

It is their mentality and attitude that they are somehow irredeemable and are a lost cause that brings down their chances.

[ShadowofRegret]

*Have as much

[MlleCake]

Not to mention that many of these people have spent their whole lives in their rooms paying video games, and don't know how to socialize.

[alice55]

In general people who are single are because their personality aren't attractive. Nobody is attracted to their personality so they don't have a partner.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

I'm ugly AF and I've been swimmin' in bitches my whole life.

[Rangers]

I'm single because I can't even make friends in real life, let alone date people. I've been stood up 5 times and rejected 3 times in the past few months, so not through a lack of effort.

[SirRexington]

I disagree. There are plenty of reasons that someone may be single.

[Steve_Case]

Absolutely correct. I often have said that self confidence is the single most attractive trait a person can have. It will over power looks almost every time.

[Liam_Hayden]

I'm about as average as they come and I can get a date pretty much whenever I want, so yeah, the negativity becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[LtJackass]

Nah mate. I'm single because I have a crippling flaw that makes it impossible for me to sexually satisfy women.

[CT_CD]

An ugly guy acting confident and hitting on women is just sexual harassment and a #metoo

[tearout]

no some people are single cause they are ugly END OF STORY

[Lance1965]

I agree that is the problem at least 50% of the time.

[ChiPaPa]

I've never been picky. I am ugly AF.

[EDWINDUNDEE999]

l dont think so