Over 30 and single. Am I screwed in dating?

silvermoon84
I was a virgin throughout my twenties because I wanted to wait until I was in a committed relationship before having sex. I lost it to a man who I thought I was going to marry but he dumped me for someone else shortly after. I was in the military for five years but didn’t really meet men outside of the military, and most of the ones I did meet where only after one thing. I would like to have children but I could be happy without them as well however I do want to fall in love and get married, which I understand there’s no time limit on marriage but it gets harder. My picture is accurate and I have never gotten any complaints about my looks, but I find that if I ever mention my age and the desire for marriage to single men my age I’ve gotten very bitter reactions from them, such as “well you’re past your prime so you’re only good for one thing” and “you should have thought about that 10 years ago”. It’s heartbreaking to me.

With that being said, I know about all of the ugly preconceptions regarding single ladies my age: baggage, spent her prime years being a skank, developed no personality, used goods, etc. I’m child free, never married, when I wasn’t on post I volunteered in church events so I wasn’t out part being promiscuous. I’m not bitter, jaded or rushing to have a kid. My father left when I was two so I want to make sure I’m with the right partner before having kids. I’m just a little sad because it seems like so many guys just assume there’s something wrong with me because I’m single when I really just didn’t find the right partner and I always seem to get that attitude from men my own age, not the older or younger men. Is it really too late for me? I don’t want a big family just maybe one or two kids and a husband.
Over 30 and single. Am I screwed in dating?
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