I am almost 30 years old. Am I finished when it comes to dating?

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I am about to hit the wall, and my biological clock is almost up. I don't know what to do now. Should I just get a mail-order bride?

I've tried dating, but no woman wants me. I have heard the "you just haven't found the right one yet..." or the "you need to work on yourself..." or the "you need to look at yourself and try harder..." Etc.

I've heard all the cliche lines 1000 times, and I made so many improvements in my life and still no success. Should I try mail-order brides?

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

Okay, stop watching chick-flicks. Men do not have biological clocks. You can father children clear up to the day you die, even if you make it to a 110.

That also tells me you acting like a woman when it comes to dating. Being nice and kind of all over the place. Men are not like that. Many goofy female dating coach has spread that myth that men need to act like women.

Dating is a numbers game. If the girl didn't like you, then move on. It's not about perfecting yourself. Having a good job, good bod, and attitude goes a long way. Learn to be witty with jokes and comebacks. Women love men with a sense of humor and can tell jokes.

Get off the dating apps. They don't help you. Get out and meet people. Ask women out and be ready for some rejection. All women have boyfriend or husband until they get woed by the next guy. Just don't take married women seriously. If she gets discovered, she can claim you took advantage of her, to cover her rear. That can send you to prison.

It's really that easy. Just look as good as you can. Stay with women around your league, and do all of which I just told you.

chocolatesinpockets · Accepted Answer

Also a man here at 28, totally great point you make, and cheerfully, I'm only being single and I'm almost 30. I think I've always known I don't really, really want marriage after all. I seem to enjoy single bachelor life far too much, realistically, I do. Nothing against women or men or anyone in between, I've just grown to, love my own ego. Lol. But I give to charity and have volunteered to various causes. I do my best enough and keep on being good humans everyone. After all it could always be worse. Easy to say, but I say it could always, be worse. So let's be merry all.

I think for myself at least, I've actually grown very content at 28 happily wanting my singleness, instead of 26 wanting a girlfriend or Wife. And at 30 I'm hopeful to have even more Savings than I do now. Life is bliss for the bachelor 👀😊 and I am one. Enjoyably y'all, 😋

JessicaEarl · Accepted Answer

Well mail order brides is not good for anyone involved.
Make sure you try dating like a 30 year old and not a 20 year old. You need to have your life together now. A strong career, certain skills adults need to live life autonomically. You need to make sure you’re not still going after kids in college that just want another drink

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

You can but I really wouldn't. There's no telling who she might be or where she comes from, plus you should want a woman who want to marry you don't you think? It just wouldn't feel authentic in a way.

Joshyjay95 · Answer

Actually your game is about to start. Most women will try their bestt to settle with a guy at your age.

Remember tho that they are "settling" so make sure they have something to offer in return.

Most of them spend their young and best years of their lives giving it too hotter guys who couldn't care less about them. Now they their not as hot and they don't have much to offer so they settle down. Know your worth. Play the field in your 30's... only settle if she's worth it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

lol I thought about that once. no idea. I think you can do well going to areas where women are desperate and finding love and bringing her home. Philippines is an example, some European countries, etc. but not mail order, meet them, go meet them and their family and decide to marry or not.

I got married at 5x, so no, you haven't even got warmed up yet:)

women can make you feel pathetic. I'd bet $ the problem is you think you are pathetic so they treat you that way. The opportunity is you need to learn and grow to be your best man so you attract women.

Billyakaswifty · Answer

I've only been in a few short term relationships in my life.. never really found “the one”. I always felt insecure that no one wants me so i completely gave up trying. I also gave up hope in todays dating scene.. and didn't really want to date because of it.
I’m 29 now and started going to a local nutrition shop for shakes, and there was a few attractive women that worked there. Still i wasn't looking for anything, expecting much or trying to flirt or talk. Im the quiet type until i know you. But anyways i heard through the grapevine from friends that go there that they were asking who i was. So i played it calm and collective for awhile and outta nowhere im now dating a 39 year old from that shop and blown away every day that i found someone with every quality i was always looking for..

Never give up hope. Its never too late. Put all your negative thoughts and insecurities aside and just go with the flow of life. This shit will hit you out of no where!

Anonymous · Answer

Youngster, you are not 'finished when it comes to dating' you are just starting to come into your prime, men do not 'Hit the wall' and you could still be fathering kids well in to later life (see George Clooney, he's 60 and raising his 4-year-old twins Ella and Alexander.)

Just keep trying (Not too hard a needy guy puts women off) but if women suddenly start taking interest and they are around it is they who are looking to settle and love usually has nothing to do with it.

I'd suggest that you check out Strong Successful Male on YouTube, you may pick up a few pointers,

Steamnir · Answer

You say that while u r a man?  how about woman who will go through menopause at 50 🤦🏻‍♀️.  well i have the same problem, so u aren't alone, dont be sad hehehe

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A good starting point is to try identifying places that your interactions with women have gone wrong in the past. Focus on becoming an emotionally healthy person. That way, women will find you refreshing and nourishing to be around.

Alexa41991 · Answer

You're not finished, just wait and enjoy life and you'll see that the person for you is going to arrive.

NadiaChepiski · Answer

30 is young, I know guys in their 40's who are still dating and falling in love.

EmmaMary · Answer

Did you never learn anything about human biology? Your biological clock Never stops.

genericname85 · Answer

you're never "finished". my granny found a new boyfriend 2 years after my gramps had died. she was in her 70s at that time. so you can certainly find someone in your 30s.

DermalPunch · Answer

Oh yes. Have you picked out your casket yet?

erandal · Answer

Nope. I didn’t meet my husband until I was 30. Keep going and stop stressing.

BJP21 · Answer

Girls and Guys alike in their 30s are much more mature. Its a bit of a challenge finding someone who hasn't been taken in the same age group or hasn't been, dare I say damaged.

annabananna · Answer

You are a man you can have kids for a LONG time. You still have time to meet someone. Don’t order anything from the mail just yet.

Sixgun77 · Answer

You're good, it just hasn't happened yet. Keep looking, plenty of people are dating and getting married in their 30s and 40s.

Anonymous · Answer

did you try finding someone less attractive than you maybe poor or less educated, maybe your going for the top 10% of women who dont want you>

bamesjond0069 · Answer

You're silly. Everyone knows this doesn't apply to men.

Habuzaka · Answer

Nah man. I am 30 right now and find myself dating this Japanese hottie a total 12 out of 10. Never give up. She is out there.

nolabels · Answer

I married at 34.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Don't give up yet.

Anonymous · Answer

What? You are just getting started.

RandomGuy1032 · Answer

No you shouldn't do that...

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