There's no right or wrong answer with this. There's advantages and disadvantages to being single and being as a part of a couple.
But I'll just say this - the more years a person spends living alone, the more they form patterns, preferences, and tend to get set in their ways. There's no one to compromise for (and compromise is no fun) but it's like a muscle that isn't exercised. It becomes harder to adapt to others, the more time goes by. Independence and self-reliance is great. But it does have some drawbacks as well. Older people do tend to have firmer options on all sorts of things, and rigidity of thinking is noticeable.
Physically, you're in your prime in your 20s (all people are), and you have the most energy you'll ever have, just by a factor of age. So it's a nice time to get together with people. (In addition to the psychological mentioned above.) I'm not sure about using the word "wasted", as it's a bit harsh, but it's better for you to use it on yourself, than others to make such a judgement.
My personal advice to you, and anyone in their 20s, is yes, date. Meet people. Don't go into it being so serious that you take all the fun out of it. Just look at it as a time to meet people. Have genuine curiosity about them, and they will pick up on that. You don't have to have any more of an agenda than that. It also puts less pressure on them (especially guys; they hate relationship pressure), and if you don't want casual sex, be absolutely upfront about that so you don't waste your or their time, but just try to have realistic expectations. Particularly today, guys think women's expectations are totally out of whack. But most girls don't want some guy who just wants sex and to put in little effort for anything real. So weed through them, dig around, have standards, but also approach it as getting to know some nice people who will broaden your mind about the world.
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It has nothing to do with age, though Iâm sure youâll hear from some that youâre wasting your prime. You have to be ready, or at least open, for it to work for you.
When I was younger I went against the grain on most things. For example I never developed the taste for alcohol. Ergo I would never drink it in social situations where everyone else was and it alienated me from the group. In the grand scheme of things this isn't a big deal. I'm just saying by going against the group you make yourself suspect (maybe a snob) in their eyes.
Dating though? It's only unusual from the simple fact that most people WANT companionship. It makes me wonder if you've had some trauma in the past that is overriding your natural drive to want to date.
Whatever you feel. Personally no I don't think there is anything wrong with NOT dating (so long as it's for healthy reasons) I mean there's nothing worse than being with someone that you're just going through the motions just because society says "this is what's normal or successful". They may really love you and you're not being fair to them.
So follow your feelings. Do what's right for YOU. And be happy. Life is short.
There's no point in dating right now if it's not what you want. I don't see what the pressure is just because you're nearing 30. It's not like there's an age limit on dating. Do it when it feels right, whether that's right now or 10 years down the road or never
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If you're too old not to be dating, then I'm REALLY pushing it at 36! LOL
There is no set timeframe to be dating. Much less an age you should be "settled down," married, or even have your life in order by... contrary to what society might tell you. You said yourself you have no desire to date right?
... then why date right now?
Seriously, don't force yourself to do something just to make others happy, or follow the norms of society. Otherwise you'll wind up settling, or worse, miserable trying to find someone that isn't right for you. Dating is a headache as is. Now imagine dating if you're not in the mood to or motivated to-
Exactly. You do you, okay? Enjoy the single life :) I am. I have no urge to date right now and that's okay! No one pressures me to date, I don't feel obligated to, and if the right person comes into my life, I'll date him on my terms.
And trust me, when you're ready to date, you'll want to date and put yourself out there. And not because you're getting old, or feel pressured by your friends, family, or some other reason to do so.I will be 30 on August 31 and I have no desire of doing that. But that is up to each individual.
What are your goals?
Do you want romance? Do you want a family and kids and a husband? Do you have no interest in that and you are content with just being active with friends but you have no interest in sex, male/female chemistry and romance?
It depends on what your goal is?
If you want marriage... start pursuing that.
If you just want some male companionship from time to time and some physical action from time to time... date.
If you are content alone and prefer socializing with friends and family then do nothing and just keep things the way you are.🤷🏻ââď¸ I feel the same way. But I have legitimate reasons for not dating (pushing the boundries of what could ve considered 'homeless.').
If you have reasons then okay, if you're just being lazy though... ehh I think that might be not a great decision because of life not being eternal. Even if you aren't wasting your youthfulness, I mean life ends between 65 and 80 for most people. There are only so many months available to live, you either live them single or not single. I suppose it depends on which way you would rather live.Nothing to do with age and if you wanna date then date , if not then do not! Just do you, The world and their proper "Society" Rulebook of what people are supposed to do and not do according to whoever? The Tooth Fairy , lol Sorry I don't subscribe to that worldly rule book. Like I said Do whatever it is you feel comfortable doing! Plus It's none of your business what other people think about you ! And if friends or whoever are hooked up with someone and pestering you to do what they do, Then they are probably miserable with their choices and want you to join their BOO HOO express cause they are jealous of you!~ LOL
I would say it is never too late to start dating! Of course, at this, it might be a little more difficult than dating when you are young but it's possible. Also being a woman you won't have that much difficulty finding a significant other compared to men.
Hell no you should go dating anytime you can anytime you want hell I would date you but I was living by you LOL well I mean I would try to I don't think there's an age limit on anything in this world it's not how old you are it's how many minutes you've been alive
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You're a little old to be wondering if you should date now versus "later". If you have no interest in dating now, I wouldn't assume you're magically going to develop a desire later. However you feel about dating now, I'd consider there's a high chance that "this is it".I would say date whenever you're ready. I'm 34 years old and haven't been in a relationship in 13 years. I've always felt like I'm not ready, and that personally nobody would want to date somebody that is not financially doing well. I mean I live with my mom, sister, sisters husband, and my niece, and the youngest is 20 years old and I just feel I don't know 😐 I usually dislike talking about it. Anyways do what you like and I guess whatever makes you feel comfortable.
You're free to date or not date at any age you choose. If you're contemplating dating now, maybe that's your subconscious giving you a nudge. Or you could just be posting a random question to create interesting content for us to answer. Only you know, and everyone is different. There's no set way or rule book to follow when it comes to @beebella dating, other than what @beebella wants and likes. 👍
Women's sexual mean value (SMV) goes down with age because of increasing age, declining fertility and competition (everyday a girl turns 18). Whereas a man's value increases because of experience, income, and status within society. Normally marriages are when both values intersect.
Date when you're ready don't make someone else's life miserable because you really don't want to go out with them and when you do date date with a purpose make sure you're both even yoked and on the same page
Well, do what you are comfortable with. If you don't have the desire to date I see nothing wrong with sitting on the sidelines for now. Any particular reason why you don't want to date or you just don't have any inclination towards it?
Don't date if you don't want to. What good will it lead to?
Why should being in a relationship be the most important thing?
You date when you feel ready for it.
Maybe you meet someone when you least expect it.You can put yourself out there, but if it doesn't happen naturally I don't think it's worth the trouble.
It depends on whether you want to have children. If so, time is of the essence. If not, there is no pressure, although be aware that dating is easier for women than it is for men in their 20s but more difficult for women than men at some point in their 30s.
I know people are being nice, but the answer really is A.
The longer you wait, the more problems you may start to experience with your body, and the less attractive you will appear to men in comparison to younger women.
This is the honest fact of the matter, upheld by countless accounts of older single women.I wouldn't say your wasting your good years but you are wasting your baby making years (if you want any babies) but dating at any age is fine. There is no rush to find love
Depends on if you like the idea if scrambling to find an 11th hour relationship in order to have kids and are comfortable with potentially ending up alone and childless.
If you want until you're in your thirties it mean choosing among losers or men with a record of failed relationships.- u
Thatâs what happens when youâre bisexual youâre just so confused you donât have any desire to date and youâre tired of living that life of sleeping around and you want something meaningful but you donât know which side to pick. No real man is going to be married to you and you are out sleeping around with the same sex believe me. You may not like this post but you need a wake up call and Iâm the guy for it
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