I’m tired of dating in my 30s and realizing being single maybe BEST?

[cth2188]

Ghosting
Playing mind games
Lies
Cat fishing
Manipulation
Being fake advantage of by someone

What’s the point of dating nowadays it seems no one wants to build anything meaningful anymore just do hook up sex

Updates

+1 y

Looking out in the dating world now , I’m not missing anything or losing anything.. I don’t care about finding the one or just give me friends and positivity.. it’s sad , but dating and this culture has become too over sexualized

[lightbulb27]

ok. your choice, I've seen girls find husband at 36/37 and start family, even older get married, serious relationships. That 36yr old woman had at least one other serious boyfriend that didn't work out. I've known of guys seriously looking that can't find, tthey are all over this site... but you have to look over those who aren't serious.

Sadly, it may be environments and it may be party... you, what you attract, what you respond to, environment. You'll never catch a great white in lake michigan as they say.

You have to sift through a lot of junk in some environments, that's unfortunate. Our culture is really screwed up. Look somewhere else, completely change where you go and what you do.

[cth2188]

It’s not about environmental factors I don’t care to date anymore due to the dating climate. Dating is garbage nowadays and how people date - you can thank modern dating for that and an over sexualized society. I don’t want any dealings with dating of today.

[cth2188]

I don’t online dating I’m sorry

[cth2188]

by the way I don’t date men - I date women

[cth2188]

Yeah over seas and I agree society is messed up why I’m not interested in dating anymore

[lightbulb27]

I don't blame you, I bailed out of dating for a while and went back. it's your life. things change as you get older...

[cth2188]

I’ve been single 7 years dating declined back since the mid 2000s and hasn’t gotten better since

[cth2188]

I’m not interested in dating anymore

[lightbulb27]

Ok. I found dating to be learning about myself. And possibly finding a partner. Without the other person then hope you have good deep friendships to challenge you.

[cth2188]

Don’t get me started with friends can people be genuine and not about getting in bed with me first - I don’t do friends with benefits or casual sex

[cth2188]

That’s a challenge

[cth2188]

Not for me for others once again society too over sexualized

[lightbulb27]

I don’t know your world. I’ve never had a same sex person pull that. Have to expect opposite sex sometimes. No idea your reality

[cth2188]

People can’t be friends unless sex is involved - so I interact people In private groups

[cth2188]

I don’t have to worry about that

[cth2188]

Meeting people online - never works out

[lightbulb27]

time to move, change cultures. go to church.

[cth2188]

No I’m not moving , no I’m not changing cultures, and no I’m not religious

[crossdressingrihno]

Yeah unfortunately most of the guys these days are either going to be over sexualized or they're going to be worried of getting into a relationship and losing all their money and hard work that said I guess don't try to look for love but if you stumble across someone who p your interested in you should still go for it

[cth2188]

Yes don’t date men

[crossdressingrihno]

I'm not saying don't date men

I'm just saying at current time it will be more difficult to find a man that is worth dating but if you're looking for a relationship time is something you need to put in anyways

[cth2188]

I’m telling you I don’t date men because I’m lesbian

[crossdressingrihno]

Oh never mind then

[crossdressingrihno]

I'm sorry XD

[Berethor]

Yea maybe it better to stay single nowadays.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SillyRabbitRomanceIsForKids

[GingerGuy]

Then stay single. I agree and I do. Happy with my life otherwise, don't NEED someone. If they happen to come along, great. Not "looking" anymore though.

[cth2188]

Same

[scott04sa22]

sometimes dating is not for everyone. i want my own family too but i dont think its gonna happen with me plus i don't drive and i don't have lots of money either :(

[cth2188]

I’m good being single no bs, no drama , no lies, no heart ache -

[cth2188]

No negativity or toxicity

[cth2188]

It sucks you’re being rejected by money status and car.. seemingly all people focus on is materialistic things

[scott04sa22]

you'll make more money too while single and don't have to share it

[cth2188]

Yep or don’t have to share your bed or life you have freedom when you are single - no marriage or divorce or cheating

[cth2188]

I financially take care of myself

[scott04sa22]

yes... i always get rejected from the one who i helped, liked and crushed on.

[cth2188]

It sucks and hurts bad

[cth2188]

Good people get messed over

[scott04sa22]

thats very true. sometimes good people have more troubles finding love. my ex crazy girlfriend possibly find her crazy match a few months ago.

[cth2188]

Maybe we should all be crazy

[scott04sa22]

My ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend they’re actually very crazy in their mind

[cth2188]

That’s crazy dating is crazy nowadays

[scott04sa22]

The problem is not us it’s mostly people

[cth2188]

Right

[Iron_Man]

I understand you completely we’ve talked before about this

[cth2188]

Yeah I’m done Iron Man

[Iron_Man]

I’m sorry to hear that

[Iron_Man]

What if you start out with casual dating and just enjoy the moment

[cth2188]

Causal dating means sex nowadays- no one wants to build a causal relationship for coffee, hang out , etc just sex and I don’t do online dating

[Iron_Man]

Don’t give it up and if they stick around then maybe you have a keeper

[cth2188]

I am done been single 7 years and don’t regret being single

[Iron_Man]

That’s pretty tough for sure

[cth2188]

Dating has changed since I’ve last been out here

[Iron_Man]

Yes that’s for sure

[cth2188]

No break my friend threw the towel on

[cth2188]

In “ this is it

[Iron_Man]

I understand that but everybody says that I’ll bet you in the next seven years you’ll have another opportunity

[cth2188]

Lol I wouldn’t count on it not in this day and time not with dating I pass

[Iron_Man]

Ok sorry 😞

[cth2188]

Yep I don’t online date - I don’t meet anyone anymore anywhere dating is scary and you don’t know who you are talking too anymore

[Iron_Man]

Right I hear you

[ChiTown33]

If you're in a negative state of mind yes it's probably best you be alone for a while. Who knows, you might actually find you enjoy it more.

[cth2188]

I’ve been single 7 years it’s not a negative mindset it just what it is - reality of dating nowadays and I don’t care for it

[driven159]

Yes its the way the world is now at least being single you only answer to yourself

[20yearsolder]

Sounds like a good idea,

[cth2188]

I am there coming to realization now

[UniquelyBasic]

That sucks

[cth2188]

It maybe for the best with he current dating climate

[cth2188]

The “ and how dating is ; I’m not losing anything

[DragonDraggin]

Why didn't you settle down younger

[cth2188]

I chose not to dating was garbage back then

[cth2188]

No one has time for dating out here and the bs I’m content being single

[Jltakk]

At least you had dates. Counts for something

[cth2188]

I never had dates

[cth2188]

I’ve been single most of my life excusing my 1 girlfriend

[YourToy69]

Good question!