Girls- Do boyfriends deny attend family parties with you and you attend alone with your family?

[Anonymous]

For example there’s a family party every other month all year plus holidays like Thanksgiving, Easter, Christmas, is it normal for your boyfriend deny go with you and you just attend alone?
do girls dump guys if he denies and just look for other boyfriend that agrees attend with her and her family?

[Anonymous]

This really depends on your personal values. If you’re someone who it doesn’t matter to you whether or not he attends, then his presence wouldn’t be a big deal for you. However if you’re a family-oriented person, you want someone who is on the same page. Even if they aren’t big on family time, they’d still make the appearance because it’s important to you. So to date someone who doesn’t share that core value, I imagine a lot of arguments, or settling because he won’t come and having to explain that to your family all the time.

[Asker]

I would feel like I’m single and it would basically look like I have no boyfriend as he doesn’t attend.

I never had a boyfriend nor someone meet my family so I fear wen I do get a boyfriend he’ll deny attend holidays or parties with my family

[Opinion Owner]

Awe, you really shouldn’t have that expectation in your mind. There’s no good reason to think it.

[Asker]

I don’t want my first boyfriend to deny attend family parties with me 😔 then I would need dump him and search for a boyfriend again. Whole point of a boyfriend is meet family.

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn’t say the whole point of a boyfriend is to meet the family. Sure you should share that core value, but the focus of your relationship is between you and him growing as a couple and doing life together in all aspects, not just family gatherings. If you’re worried about wasting time on a man who won’t meet your family, try understanding his values from the beginning, and knowing what he wants with you.

[avery58]

We can find a way to be fair for both families. We can spend some time with my family, then his during a holiday or some holidays with my family and some with his. I'm not a psycho that wants all of his attention, and never let's him spend important dates with his parents.

[Asker]

Lucky it’s my dream have a first boyfriend and have a guy attend family parties with me. My whole life I show up alone and all my family have a partner. I fear wen I do get a boyfriend he’ll deny attend family parties 😔😞

[avery58]

If he's a good partner he'll find a way to share holidays with you, if he doesn't want to spend any single holiday or special event with you kick him to the curb

[slatyb]

Why doesn't he want to go with you? This is pretty basic.

[Asker]

I’ve never had a boyfriend before. Never had a guy that meets my family. I’m scared wen I do get a boyfriend he’ll deny attend family parties. My whole family bring a boyfriend girlfriend and I’m the only person alone.

[slatyb]

So you aren't dating, this is just hypothetical?

[Asker]

One guy I dated denied meet family and used me for sex. He deny spend chritmas any holiday with me

[petitedollbabee]

If my partner refused to attend family events and gatherings with me, we wouldn’t date for long. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be a part of my family?

[Asker]

Why I would feel like I’m single if a guy doesn’t attend with me and denies.

I’ve never had a boyfriend , and I fear wen I do get a boyfriend , he’ll deny attend family parties with me. 😞

I’m 26 , the one guy I dated used me for sex and he would deny meet family

[sheikalana]

See, he's just your boyfriend not your Husband. There's no obligation for him to be present at those events if he doesn't want to.