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During my internship I was assigned to a Group of students. Since I’m not pretty and most of them were male I was pretty much ignored the entire time while everyone talked normally to the hot girls.

There was only one handsome guy who paid me attention and tried to be nice and tried to find ways to talk to me alone. He talked a lot about himself, his family and his interests and career prospects and I felt like he tried to impress me.

Now I’m wondering why would the hottest guy of the group be the only one who approached me and tried to get to know me while all the others tried to get with the hot girls. He seemed genuinely nice but I’m afraid he considered me just an easy target since he could easily Date Models or did he just pity me because no one paid me attention?

28F, only thing I know for certain is I have anxiety & my self esteem could be better. But, nothing too terrible that makes me incapable of finding a LTR. I’ve been on and off dating apps for years, I don’t get how they don’t work for me as it’s known women have it easier & people tell me I’m attractive (not just family/friends). I have to use the apps bc I never get approached in person, I get the matches but in the end it just doesn’t work out. The last time I saw someone I was 23 & that only lasted for a few months. It felt like settling & I’ve become even pickier now. I don’t really have that much of a sex drive but that isn’t something a guy can sense right off the bat so I don’t think that’s it. It’s like I wonder if I’m ready to date but ffs I’m almost 30 that’s odd if I’m not. I met up with someone for the first time in almost 2 years last week & I didn’t even stay for the whole time, I left after maybe 15 min bc I wasn’t feeling it (even though chatting went well on the app), I had a long day, wanted to leave before the drinks arrived since I didn’t want him to get charged & most of all I was worried he was gay (by his voice). I usually video chat before but moving fwd that’s non-negotiable. Oddly enough I still don’t think it’s my fault for being single this long, yes I’ve tried counseling/medication & it was a bust. Can an almost 30 yr old woman date while being anxious, insecure, reserved & close to being maybe on the asexual spectrum?