What could be the reason for a long attractive woman who gets along with almost everyone, to be single all her life?

[Anonymous]

I don't get approached by guys I like, just ugly creepy men. I get stared at all the time, but no one I would like to pursue me. They just stare or shy away.

[Saramad_Hill]

Creepy men have nothing to lose, so they just go for anything they can with a shotgun approach trying to get someone to reciprocate.

I'm not sure why you're single if you're "attractive," as you say. But as someone who doesn't flirt or approach women I think are pretty, usually there's something going through my mind.

• You're probably taken. I mean, you're so pretty it would be impossible for you to be single, so I don't make a move.
• I know you're single, but you're so pretty I'm too intimidated to do anything, so I don't make a move.
• I know you're single and you've given me "the look." I tell myself "well I'm just imagining things. She's out of my league anyway." So I don't make a move.

[Asker]

Even people that knows I am single seems to stay away. I am soft spoken and laugh a lot. I am not overbearing at all.

[Saramad_Hill]

That's odd. Because while beauty is intimidating to some people, eventually you think you'd run into one who doesn't quite want to run away. Some folks are bold, after all.

Without really knowing you, I'm not sure what advice to give. Do you have any common hobbies with the people you'd be interested in?

Because being soft spoken and laughing can also be a problem as well.

If I glance at the "hot popular chick" from a distance, I'm already feeling inadequate compared to her.
If I see she's laughing and sweet, then I'll think she's *even further* out of my league.

I know not everyone thinks the same way as I do, but there's always a way to explain it even if I'm not exactly hitting the nail on the head here.

So, if there's anyone you're currently interested in, you're going to need to wave at them or smile, and probably even say Hello. You need to give off the air of "It's okay to talk to me."

Or you can continue to wait for a more dominant man who isn't scared to strike up a conversation with you.

[HateyouxD]

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