Reasons why a gorgeous girl would stay single?

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wow lots of answers! thanks everyone <3

[btbc92]

In my personal experience, it's because a lot of men today don't want what I wanted. Always talk about how cute I am and that nonsense that I don't even care about. Back then, I wanted a life partner, a marriage partner. But they wanted sex and to get into my pants. Why should I participate in modern dating when I hate it? There are many reasons why such a person is single. Many of times got told:

1. Too Boring
2. Too Different
3. Too weird
4. They assume I'm crazy
5. They assume I think I'm better than somebody
6. They assume nobody likes me anyway
7. They think I'm crazy for being single for so long
8. They think I'm religious
9. Or that I'm not really interested. Now I'm officially not.

It's not just from secular men, it's from so-called religious guys too. Nobody bothers to talk to me. And even if I bother to talk to them, once some people try to get to know me. They run. And then even mock me, bully me, and even try to get other people to go against me. If they found out I'm not 'cool', they don't want anything to do with me. Not that I was trying to impress anybody anyway. Then they only approach me when I dress 'nice'. Or they find out I have other talents and try to be my 'friend. Any other times they pretend I don't exist. I get too many fake people. I grew tired of it. I needed a deep meaningful relationship. And all they wanted was some sick crap from porn and R and even xxx rated movies. I'm not about that. They know that, and they stay away from me. In turn, it makes me look bad. I cannot speak for other women. But I can only speak for myself. I chose celibacy for a reason. Not just because of all of that. But because I'm not also sick. I cannot handle all of that stress and then further damage my health on of an account of some guy because he can't get his act together and grow up. In this case, most men push women or scare them away. In turn, some sadly end up pushing other men away. I personally believe that if men start treating women better, it will show other women that they don't have to be domineering towards men. At the same time, those who do attract men need's to clean up their attitudes and be worthy of a real man. Other than that, those who love the most usually end up alone for a very long time or forever. Earthly pleasures can never compensate for a lonely heart or a lonely mind. Some of us rather die alone than to be used and get told what we desire, which is a man's heart, is too much. Some don't ask for much.

[btbc92]

All a woman wants is not money. But his heart. His full commitment and dedication for life. Men today would rather play the field and run. Taking your virginity and heart along with him.

So if many women are getting selfish, then this is why. Also if she has an intense personality or different, she will be isolated. Ever since I found out I was an INFJ, everything became clearer to me. My personality type is very rare and even rarer for males of my type. It makes a lot of sense. And now. I know what types of the MBTI I attracted in the past. On both on peer level, friendship, etc, and how it played a role in my choices. So I say for others who are going through some tough times, ignore them. Stay strong. You're doing right in being own your own. Everybody will not be able to take care of you for YOU. You know you love. And you no your not crazy. Don't let other people define who you are.

[btbc92]

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[btbc92]

And besides, even if you had it all, as they say. If that person doesn't chose you for You, that's it. Your alone. And that is just the reality many have to live with. And we suffer. By ourselves, with others assuming, judging, don't get it, or even care. It's heartbreaking, and others just eventually had enough. My aunt, heading towards 50 always wanted to marry. Have the same problem. Now that she's heading up there in age, other family members mock her. Same as others in church over the church. How others view you influences others who heed to rumors. Thus turning away perspective partners. You approach, your at fault. You don't, your at fault. There is no win. Your either fit for it, or you don't.

[btbc92]

over the years*

[Like-Me]

We are simple creatures. If we like your face and body, we're ready to commit.

[btbc92]

And I'm not interested in a guy who only want me for a pretty face. Thats fake. I've seen real love. I've seen real men. And I'm not buying that crap. By you saying that your only committed to one thing: sex. Too worldly. I shut down many, and get told off in return. Again, don't need fake for pleasure. Holding ones hands is enough for me.

[btbc92]

If he wants sex then he has to marry me, or that's it. I'm not sinning because he wants to fool around. He can find somebody else. I now have a dead mother because of sexual sin which lead her to get HPV, and she died of cancer. I'm not stupid and desperate all because a man lacks self-control. That s why I told all of them that I rather be friends first and then decide if their worth dating. I don't need somebody who believes in premarital sex and or have no desire to change. I rather end it right then and there. Not date just to find out I made a mistake, because I was lied to.

[Like-Me]

I understand why you'd think that.
But if you aren't pretty to begin with good luck getting a guy to fall in love with you.
Everything starts from physical attraction..
You think he'd have am emotional bond with you from day one?
Once a man falls in love with you, he starts spending less time thinking about fucking you and more about simple stuff like holding hands with you, but this doesn't happen on day one.
It takes love for a woman to fall in lust and it takes lust for a man to fall in love.

[btbc92]

Sorry. Still not buying it. I don't expect anybody to fall in love with me. Falling in love is fleeting. Lust is in the dust. I clearly just told you. I believe in starting out as friends first. Always have and always will. Besides. I'm celibate now. I have up years ago. As I said, I have different views. And I don't want a lustful man. Once you love a person, lust is never on your mind. I rather walk. I don't expect anything from men. I never asked to be pursued. My reasons as a child growing up were wrong. Now I stay out of it. No. Everyyhing doesn't start by physical attraction. I sense something is wrong with you, I don't care how handsome you look, I'm out.

[Like-Me]

You poor thing.
Do you even have a sex drive?

[btbc92]

I can care less how a guy view me know. Back then I was insecure girl like most. Now, I had to stand on my own two feet. I've been prepared to live alone. And if others dont like it and respect my desires, then so be it. I'm off the dating market anyway. I'm not chasing them. I'm not desperate or miserable. When I say I love somebody, I mean it. And yes. I do have a sex drive. Doesn't mean I hoe around. It's called discipline. Don't need your pity. Thanks. After all. We are all born as sexual creatures. Pretty stupid unless caused by illness not to have one.

[btbc92]

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[btbc92]

I just don't the like you do. I would have gotten married at 18 if I could. But not just to any and everybody. So I don't know where you got this idea that just because I chose not to have sex, that I don't have a sex drive. Congratulations. You've just proved why I chose to be single. Judging me to not have a sex drive. From a male no less.

[btbc92]

think like you do*

[btbc92]

That's another reason why I stopped. The ignorance. Your attitude is the reason why I refuse to date. Those same boys treated me the same way you are now. Because you take another person's personal feelings and convictions as a joke. Then when that same girls doesn't want you or break up with you, you want to get upset or you don't know why.

[Like-Me]

Jesus dude..
You carry way too much baggage.
You honestly sound like drama, a man who worked hard all day doesn't want to come back to a woman who just can't give him love and take care of him. Honestly, it sounds like he'd have to care of you.
No wonder why men don't bother with you.

"Now, I had to stand on my own two feet. I've been prepared to live alone. And if others dont like it and respect my desires, then so be it. I'm off the dating market anyway."
Oh please.. you're 25 right now, you're still young, have a family and friends but once these friends get married and your family is not there anymore, when the reality hits you that there's no one who loves you, that you don't have kids. That's when you'll realize you fucked up and it's not as easy as you thought it would be.

[btbc92]

See. This is why I don't say anything. You think it is all about me? It's not. I was never like this. I already told you I am not interested anymore. When are you going to get that throught your head? I am Christian, that's number 1
Number 2, who says I need a guy to come home and take care of me? Again, you judge me for something you don't understand. My needs are different. I already know I had problems. That is another reason why I gave up. Because so cannot be responsible for that kind of life. You think I want drama in my life? No. That is another reason again for me being single. So how dare you accuse me of being drama.

[btbc92]

You don't know what I am capable of. How can a woman take care of a man when it's supposed to be men to be the head of the household. A woman cannot be a woman if a man is not ready to be a man first. That's number 1. I know what marriage implies. And I cannot be responsible for that. If you actually paid attention to what I originally wrote, you would not be saying the things your saying. I am not going to be waiting till 30, 40 ,50 just to grow up. I desire peace in my life. I know better than to bring my baggage into somebody else's life. I gave it up to God already. This is me expressing my hurt. As well as others hurts. And you dare to call it baggage.

[btbc92]

And I told you I am sick. I also need to go to college. I had to put my life on hold to be a caretaker to a sick parent. My parents, The Lord, and family life and education is far more important than a man. Plus, I live through everything I said everyday. Everyday. If your not a loner, and you don't think differently from the world, then you don't understand. Because you never lived through it. So you judge something you don't understand.

[btbc92]

Besides I have married friends, and even was a maid of honor to one who I consider a sister. All of them got married between 18-24. Still married, and happy with kids. Most not Christian. Goes to show what you know. Nothing. I fear somebody hurting me that will God forbid lead to an unnessary divorce or my death, more than being alone.

[Like-Me]

"My parents, The Lord, and family life and education is far more important than a man."
What if that man happened to be your husband? He'd be your last priority?
If that's how you're willing to treat your lover, then good fucking riddance.
I'm glad you're alone and deservedly so.

[btbc92]

I'm not called to marriage anyway. See your not a Christian. So what you say is irrelevant. God comes 1st, Jesus comes 2nd, the husband comes the next, then the wife, and after the child.
That is the order God have made it to be. God has to be my priority. Not a man. If I can't focus on God, how can I focus and please my husband? To live my husband as he should be loved? It's impossible. Every Christian who studies the Bible, knows this. 1 Corintians 7 is very clear. It it wise for a man not to touch a woman. But because there is so much sexual immorality, let every man have his own wife, and the woman her own husband.

Also to point out. A
I chose to be a eunuch for the Lord. It is now my choice. I wouldn't dare mistreat my husband like he's a piece of crap out my backside. Why would I do such an evil thing?

[btbc92]

Maybe that's how your jealous butt thinks. I don't. So by you saying everything you just told me now, don't give me that BS you tried selling me earlier. You're the very definition of fake. Your what we call a heathen. I stand on 1 Corintians 7. Read it, memorize it, understand it. I feel sorry for any woman who gets involved with you. You'll break them.

[btbc92]

this is why so many Christians are advised not to date and marry somebody of the world.

[btbc92]

a Godly Man has to be a shepherd and learn to grow and strengthen his relationship with his wife through the Lord. a Godly woman knows that she is called to love and honor her husband no matter who he is or his background. a woman cannot lead herself. that is how many women get into trouble, and then want to blame a man for her problems. if I say I'm committed to somebody I don't back down I'm committed to them for life. but I refuse to be involved with somebody who's going to desert me at the last minute. you must like disloyal people. I don't. I take dating relationships as well as marriage far too seriously. now my heart rate is up and I already got asthma. I am done stressing myself out trying to explain things to you.

[Like-Me]

I'm not a christian but i am religious and God comes first before anyone to me as well, obviously,
But whatever..
I'm done talking.
I hope you find whatever it is that you're looking for.

[philipph]

@ btbc92 I guess i am one of these serious men out there.
Still i would only want you as a friend - not more...
Because i highly value interdependence, deep connection, friendship and being fully accepted - my impression is (from the respective conversation) that i would miss traits i desire.

To be more straight: my impression is that your religious ideas may have helped you grow - and still are holding you back to grow even more into a wonderful caring women.
I can give you some ideas so you can try to experimentially fasify my claim - if you want 😃

[btbc92]

I think I made it very clear that I am not religious. God doesn't hold people back. God helps you and mature. I already said I am celibate. It is choice like everything in this life is choice. I am not looking to be involved with anyone in this life. There is more to life than romance, sex or marriage. Some people are called to relationships. Others were not. As I said before, prior. My reasons growing up were not rational reasons. I wasn't even interested in that anyone. Open, yes. But not interested. I only seek friendship with people, and I now tell them straight that I am celibate. There is nothing wrong with being by yourself for life. Besides, I hate modern dating anyway.

[btbc92]

You have to learn to be happy own your own before you can share that happiness with somebody else. I refuse to be involved when I no longer have a desire to be with somebody. I'll just hurt the person. They deserve to be with somebody who can provide that. I can't. And I refuse. Their needs are far more important.

[btbc92]

And I'm leaving for another country hopefully in a few years. I'm not staying in the US. Over there I won't have to worry about being harassed in that way. They usually stay amongst their people especially if they can't speak English.

[btbc92]

If anybody wanted to truly know what my reasons were for being open to date. It's because I always thought as a child by 10 that that is what you do when you grow up. By 12 I realized that my reasons were. I wasn't called an old soul or wise beyond my years for nothing. I also get people jealous and envious of me. That also speaks volumes to people. But my standards were are not impossible nor unrealistic.

1. I asked for friendship first to get to know each other. They didn't want that.

2. They approached me. Not the other way around. I'm already suspicious of their behavior. And I was 100% correct. They weren't good. I'm what you call the quiet person or the goody two shoes, some mocked. So I don't bother anybody who doesn't want to bother with me. I am stay on your corner, and I will stay in my corner type of person. I don't seek trouble. Peacemaker, yes. Risk taker and go-getter, future orientated, yes. But not a trouble maker.

[btbc92]

3. I don't care about their personality. They can be less emotional. I wasn't looking for a silly or over the top guy. I don't have preferences physically. I accept whoever I'm attracted to and like. But the problem wasn't their looks or personality. It was their character and their views, values, morals, beliefs and principles that weren't aligned with mine. And not just that. They didn't respect mine.

I supposed the best way to really describe who I am is knowing what the INFJ personality types look for in a partner. But I never looked for perfect. I only looked for understanding and acceptance.

[btbc92]

I'm not the 'It' girl. Or the 'girl next door'. I'm not a feminist. But believe that every human being born on this earth have rights through God's rights. You don't need feminism to speak your mind in a respectful and honorable manner. He gave you a brain, use it. Nor stuck up or a so-called prude. I'm self disciplined and have self-control. Self-taught or autodidact in some areas. I am both outspoken and quiet. Love people but also love my personal space. I can be independent, but know when to humble myself and ask for help. I like to learn and do things for myself. And teach and nurture others. I fight your dreams no matter how impossible they are. This is who I am. I don't need a man or somebody else to validate me.

[btbc92]

All I asked of them since THEY were the ones 'claiming' to like me, YET they are complete strangers was this.

1. If I date, if's for marriage. If your not looking to marry, believe in divorce, or want a prenup. You can walk.

2. Just because I am a Christian, don't believe in forcing ones beliefs on another. But if you try to mock me, or what I believe and can't handle it, it's over.

3. Don't expect sex or sexual activities. Never going happen unless married. If you already feel and know you want to be with me then be honest. But don't expect me to wait for you for years to get married, but you can try sexual advances. I will end the relationship that's and day if it's continuous. Too prude or religious? Sayounara.

4. If you lie to me after I've been honest. We're done.

[btbc92]

5. If your into porn and have no desire to change or stop. We're never dating. Because I don't do that. All I ask is to stop if you expect to have sex with me. That is what a spouse is for. To share intimacy with. Not with your hand.

6. Especially. If you have 0 desire to change and do a 360. It's done.

That's all. Nothing more and nothing less. Simple. I didn't need somebody wanting to waste my time. Don't want to marry at least in 2 years of dating, but complaining about no sex , etc. But say they like me. That's what I mean by fake people and users. the same kind of people that get married just to divorce or because they can't wait for marriage for sex. or ruined a relationship because they want a relationship hop. so like I said many times I don't mind being alone. I am prepared for that.

[philipph]

Wow - never got such a long response on gag 😃 thanks anyway - sounds like you value many things and would like to take care of yourself

[btbc92]

The point is, I also have a hereditary disease that I have to think about that runs on my mom's side of the family rapidly. I now have to think about that as I can also get it as well. MS or multiple sclerosis is a degenerated an autoimmune disease. it breaks down your body mentally emotionally psychologically as well as physically. even if I was to get married and have children I have to think about what would happen if I get it and that affect my health. it skips me in a passes on to the children. well this guy is making judgments on something he doesn't even know about. all that would put a lot of stress on my body and my life. it's not worth it. they can leave me blind paralyzed or in a Walker like what happened to my mom, or God forbid in a wheelchair. you can be healthy one day and you can be in a wheelchair the next.

[btbc92]

but meanwhile have the audacity to tell me how I'm full of drama, and how no man wants to deal with me because I want somebody to take care of me? I'm already aware of these things since I first became an adult. I don't need to be reminded and told my face.

[btbc92]

Who wants to feel like a burden to somebody who doesn't know the meaning of responsibility? Let alone get married to somebody who may divorce or leave you because they can't handle it? People needs to seriously think about these things. This is real life. Not a fairytale you see on TV.

[philipph]

Sounds to me like you have quiet a burden to bear. How does it feel like for you to live with MS?

[btbc92]

@philipph I don't have MS. The thing is I have been tested before, and the neurologist has said that I'm good. But since again, I can still get it at any given time of my life. I have to keep up with appointments. A lot of illnesses like Fibrocystic breast disease, fibroids, diabetes, etc runs in my family too. These people are far too unrealistic. People can be healthy young and get sick a few years down the line. Life happens. What will happen if she can never have sex, etc? Is sex that important you will abandon somebody after there is a chance that they can have a normal sex drive one minute, and lose it the following day. And perhaps forever. Real love doesn't work like that. Even though marriage is all about sex, it still requires love, patience, and understanding. Something you rarely see today. That happened to my mom, and it gravely affected her marriage since she had me. Being threatened with divorce every year all because of lack of sex. Not knowing all this time she was

[btbc92]

sick and dying. With cancer no less.

[btbc92]

I'm sharing my testimony because people need's to WAKE UP. Hopefully, can help others who alone and don't know how to move on and be happy. To understand. To learn and to be informed. To not judge a person if they have no desire to get to know others. Others shouldn't have to suffer because they want to do evil. Like I told many others. My late mom didn't ask to die. But because of her sexual choices at 13, she caught HPV. The warts no less. All by her 1st boyfriend who never told her that he had sex with 5 prostitutes before her. She found out by herself after getting the symptoms. She was afraid that I too would be infected when she found out she was pregnant with me when she met my father. I too was born out of wedlock. My family is far from Christian. And I didn't grow up in a 'religious' home. My mother was backsliding for years. My dad is also not Christian. I'm not Christian for the sake of it. I'm one because that is who I was born to be. I not only lost my mom, I lost my

[btbc92]

grandfather 7 months after her death. He too died of heartbreak because he just lost his daughter. He was found dead in his apartment, and his body unrecognizable due to decay. Then this year earlier, I lost my dog. My mom's dogs of 3 siblings she told me to take care of. She didn't even make it to be 2 years. I have a lot on my plate. But I've overcame through somebody people believe don't exist. Many people would die from the experiences I've went through. Because they wouldn't be able to handle it.

[btbc92]

So at the end of the day. Whether I get with somebody or not, I still have to live my life. God blesses you to wake up and live another day. Don't waste it. My mom never lived to 45. Time is short. I'm not stopping my life when I still have a purpose and a job to do. No matter how sick I get, or whatever tragedies that I happen's I still have to live and move forward. I will see my dead loved ones one day when it is my time. But for now, it is not my time.

[Manab]

I did everything for a girl more than someone can imagine , still she wants that guy who have used her. Girls do it too. There are very few good men are out there because many good girls want to have crazy fun in life , and others got hurt in the past now don’t want to date...

[btbc92]

You have to be a lot smarter in your choices and learn when to hold back. Do not give a girl your everything until you are married and proven trustworthy. Period.

[estoydorado1]

I'm not "gorgeous" but I've had so many adults ask me why I don't have a boyfriend and they';l be like "you're so pretty", "so sweet", "so mature"... And the truth is, I had been struggling with my self esteem, my physical health, and setting some standards for my myself. I've just recently started entertaining male attention again and people will joke that I've wasted a couple years while I took that time healing myself. I was happy single too.

Honestly, what's my love life to anybody but me and my partners?
Again, I'm not gorgeous but for girls who are.. let them live and stop assuming that they're somehow unworthy, it's petty and ignorant.

[Julietta816]

I didn't read comments so I don't know if I tell you something you already heard.
Pretty girls are girls, they have crushes on other people. But this crushes probably are taken or not interested. But this girl don't want any other man. So they stay single and try to convince her crush to be with him.
Or maybe she don't want a boyfriend right now. Maybe she want to finish collage or have something else to do with her free time.
And of course, if girl is beautiful she want for her another pretty boy, so it's not like that she don't want to be single, just she didn't find a perfect man yet. ;p

[normalice]

probably the most likely reason is because confidence gives everyone the realization that they can make it alone. When you do that, your 'need' for companionship turns into a 'want.' If sexy girls could find the perfect guy for them, they'd commit in a heart beat. But they know they don't have to settle for anyone less. So they don't.

Not that everyone else has to settle for anyone less, but they feel like they 'need' to because they lack the confidence to walk away from things they don't want.

It's really all about confidence. This is why there are some hot girls who are with guys so far below them it drives every guy within a mile radius completely nuts. It's absolutely possible to be hot and not have confidence. Usually childhood trauma is responsible for that sort of thing, though. This is the sort of girl most guys leer over - hot but doesn't know it, would be the way we'd describe such a girl. We don't admit it to ourselves, but that insecurity gives us the impression that we could easily get into her pants by simply expressing how good they looked on her. And they do look good. They do..

[normalice]

oh, and the reason it drives us nuts is exactly as stated. We figure getting into her pants was easy, and the proof is in the pudding, as it were, because that guy did it. Why couldn't we have been the closest to her when her first sexual whims arose? That could have been any of us, and that's the lucky guy. Stupid whims of fate...

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Asexual
2. Loves attention from multiple men
3. Has money and thinks men want to take it away from her
4. Lesbian
5. Doesn't want children
6. Can't have children
7. She's a nun
8. Positive for AIDS
9. Parents had a horrible divorce
10. Horrible prior dating experiences

[azzntittiz]

Actually sad you threw the AIDS thing in there, that's not funny. Ironically I wondered how many people thought that of me when I went celibate for four years. They can't believe you'd be able to get easy sex and reject it being perfectly fine, shit happens.

[SarahsSummer]

A shadow of bitterness falls on all your possible reasons.

[OlderAndWiser]

@SarahsSummer I have no bitterness towards women. I think most women want to get married eventually and I don;t think it is pathological is a woman does not want to get married. Most of the reasons I can imagine are negatives because I have a positive opinion of marriage.

[itwasmelaniasfault]

I dont think he's being bitter. He threw out some ideas and i agree with most of them, except lesbian. She can be lesbian in a relationship

[Mexicoman101]

@azzntittiz I don't think he was joking about AIDS.

[Like-Me]

"Actually sad you threw the AIDS thing in there"
Who says he's trying to be funny? His list makes perfect sense.
Why would anyone ever want a relationship with someone who tested positive for AIDS?

[OlderAndWiser]

@azzntittiz I didn't include the AIDS reason as a joke! There is nothing funny about HIV/AIDS.

[Mexicoman101]

I don't understand why someone would have taken that as a joke in that context.

[CactusJuice]

@itwasmelaniasfault The majority of his reasons are negative; may have negative connotations. Most of us can easily think of 10 positive reasons why a girl might be single. Earning a graduate degree; completing an internship or residency; saving money to buy a house; paying off student loans; traveling; active duty/deployed... are a few to help balance this out.

[itwasmelaniasfault]

@CactusJuice maybe so, but still its not that big a deal and his reasons are accurate ones. But yes of course there are a lot of other reasons

[Mexicoman101]

So apparently we have to list off flattering reasons as to why people remain single like, going to school or paying ofd student loan debt. Because students never date & you can't get a date in this world with much debt to pay off.

[azzntittiz]

@Mexicoman101 I first decided to stay single because I set some goals for myself, it left from that reason and grew into others things the longer I stayed by myself, it became for reasons like watching men and thinking I should probably stay away from them longer. So yeah some people set goals and get so busy they shut people out.

[Mexicoman101]

@azzntittiz i'm just saying not everyone chooses to be single because they're trying to improve themselves, & not everyone in the process of improving themselves necessarily make themselves too busy for anything else, like dating. I don't feel like judgey of you or why you choose to be single. I'm just saying what @OlderAndWiser said appeared to be very valid because i've seen people exhibit literally all of those trairs on that list who either suffer from being single or enjoy it.

[RachelleDraws]

I'm a lesbian and I'm not single.

[OlderAndWiser]

@RachelleDraws You are 16 years old and married?

[OlderAndWiser]

I think many of you have read much more into my response than what I said and you have assumed something about my intent. I choose my words carefully and I say what I mean. If I was trying to "suggest" something more, I would have said it explicitly. If you want to know why I listed any of those reasons, ask me.

[RachelleDraws]

I have a girlfriend.

[SarahsSummer]

@OlderAndWiser All I was trying to say is that there are more than the (largely) negative reasons you have listed. Reasons like @CactusJuice has listed. Knowledge NH your responses over the years, I agree you put out thought into most of what you write that's why I was surprised to see you only come up with negative reasons for remaining single.

[curiousnorway]

11. Thinks dating/having a partner is unimportant and wants to priority on things they finds more important.
12. Aromantic, but not necessary asexual.
13. It's responsibility being married and not everyone is into that.

[Djaaay]

The question was about one woman , not women in general.

[Mexicoman101]

@SarahSummer I'm pretty sure he knows there's more to it than the (largely) negative reasons he only came up with, a lot of them were listed here, but maybe its his experience that most of the gorgeous single women in his life he's noticed or cared about Were single for those reasons. Or maybe he just felt as reasons, they were under represented in the responses so far.

[Djaaay]

@Mexicoman101. The question is only about one woman , the asker...

[Mexicoman101]

@Djaay I don't know about that. It does ask why A gorgeous woman would be single but I wouldn't extrapolate that its about only one woman, or even about the asker specifically. You're assuming she's arrogant enough to pre-suppose she's some gorgeous woman whose motives to be single are just up for us to be guessing here. Did you see them say its only about them in an answer response?

[Djaaay]

@Mexicoman101. I'm assuming she's arrogant? What? Tf you smoking? The question is about the asker herself. Your just jumping on the bandwagon like everyone else. she's single because she wants to be single , I can guarantee that one

[OlderAndWiser]

@SarahsSummer I am surprised that you think being a nun is a negative reason.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Djaaay If the question is about the asker:

1. Why does she need US to tell HER why she is single?

2. If the question is about her, she should state that explicitly.

[Djaaay]

Because its a way of the 30s single way to rub their age group in men's face arguing that us men should only take women now about that age so they can go out and slut around untill their age dictates (the settle down ) time. Its a loaded question , with an argument following.

[Mexicoman101]

Well you're a legitimate sexist, @Djaay. What the fuck?

[phantombandit]

she's a nun. Still laughing.

[Djaaay]

@Mexicoman101. Some day , you'll understand it's not being sexist understanding what's in front of you. Knowing the difference isn't being a sexist individual.

[Mexicoman101]

@Djaay alright, weirdo.

[Djaaay]

@Mexicoman101 your very immature

[Mexicoman101]

@Djaay & you're very grammatically underdeveloped.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Djaaay @Mexicoman101 Criticize each other's opinions but please don't call each other names. It violates the rules for this site.

[Mexicoman101]

@OlderAndWiser yeah, you're not wrong.

[wbhibabu]

Sex fuck

[Nyx_85]

@Djaaay Say what you want about females today but there are still more men that prefer to sleep around in their 20's and 30's (and even 40's and sometimes 50's). In fact because they assume they have more time and that nothing effects their fertility (totally not true. Science that shit. Our sexual health starts dismissing at roughly the same age group give or take a few years depending on the health of the individual) they are likely to wait longer to settle down. And they expect the girls that actually want serious relationships (which is the majority) to be ok with this and not get angry when they are lied to and crap. Then when they are finally ready to take it easy many (not all) want someone like 20 years younger because they don't want to be reminded that they aging. They say its because she is far more 'fertile' but that is scientifically false. There is about a 4% decrease on average in female fertility in their 20's vs 30's and we all these have medical advancements.

[Nyx_85]

Plus you know that the theory of being unable to conceive after a certain age (not menopause or their own health issues) comes from birth records... 300 years ago.

300 years ago.

Let that sink in.

[Nyx_85]

I don't want kids. I'm just saying.

[Nyx_85]

And I meant a 4% decrease in birth rates.

Women lose about 90% of their eggs after 30 but they still have 700,000 to work with which is more than enough to get pregnant. It's harder but not impossible. My sister had her son at 37 and she's pregnant again at 41.

[Nyx_85]

Oh and I forgot to add, sorry for all the comments (I really wish they'd let you edit!), there has actually been an increase in abortions in women in their mid 30's to 40's because they assume they won't get pregnant after that age. Until menopause it's still very possible.

[Djaaay]

@Nyx_85. I stand firmly on my exert.!!

[Nyx_85]

@Djaaay How's that going for you?

[Nyx_85]

@Djaaay Also do you know what exert means?

[Djaaay]

@Nyx_85. Well , before my wife's death , we both had 10 children together. 6 sons and 4 daughters. My new wife says she'd like to give me 2 more children. I've only been single for 32 days since 1978 . I know have 23 grandchildren and I've always since 18 , been retired financially. So i would say just great , gotta love it.

[Djaaay]

Taken **

[Djaaay]

@Nyx_85. What does it mean?

[Nyx_85]

@Djaaay Well hopefully they are healthy.

[Nyx_85]

@Djaaay. Exert: apply or bring to bear (a force, influence, or quality).
make a physical or mental effort.

I'm not sure if that's what you meant?

[Djaaay]

@Nyx_85. That's exactly what I meant !!

[Djaaay]

@Nyx_85. What I wrote doesn't describe good women. So don't feel offended if this isn't you , which I don't think it is.

[Nyx_85]

@Djaaay Oh ok. I just wasn't sure if that's the word you meant.

No offense taken.

[Djaaay]

@Nyx_85. Yes it was , but it's all good. 😊

[JadeLM20]

Or she can just be happy single and guys are afraid to approach her

[OlderAndWiser]

@JadeLM20 I think most people will say that they are happier when they are in a relationship but she may be one the minority who is happier alone.

[JadeLM20]

True :)

[Apope16]

Because she actually has a penis and she's gone MGTOW.

[jazmiine]

1. enjoy being single
2. weary about men taking advantage of them
3. weary about men who only look at their appearance
4. they are not ready
5. Beautiful but has no character
6. No one is brave enough to approach them directly
7. Looking for the right man

[P31chica]

Waiting on a guy who can touch more than her body.
She wants a guy who can touch her soul and her heart. Not just sees her beauty in appearance but sees her inner beauty.
She wants a guy whose mind is beautiful and sees her creativity as beautiful. So they can carry on conversation. She's been hurt before so she's cautious. She's looking for a diamond in the rough. She's got her mind made up. She wants to be a wife and a mom not just a girlfriend. She doesn't want her time wasted or waste some one elses

[Anonymous]

Men are monsters sent from hell to destroy us and make us insane because they are afraid of losing her, they play games.
Also spend most of the relationship trying to make you feel like the unworthy one, or keeps trying to impress you even after they've got you which is exhausting and cringy.
Many beautiful women get ugly after they settle down anyway because men makes is ugly.
When people assume that I have a man because of my looks, I always ask them if they think I'd look this hot and young for my age if I did.

[1tallglassh20]

She is comfortable with herself, in her own skin and simply hasn't met anyone who has blown her away. She may also have her sights set on another focus of her life and realizes being in a relationship doesn't validate her.

Or Maybe she just wants to do what she wants, when she wants & owe not a soul an explanation. Sometimes it's ok to be selfish!

[Dale1982]

She's thinks she's too good for people usually I find. The old up their own arse routine. Either that they're so vain they only fancy themselves and hence others of the same sex but try and act straight. Guys do it too. I see guys walking about in tight clothes, perfectly quiffed hair and dandified to hell. They got a girl in tow, both looking miserable and not talking and I know he's as bent as a fishing hook and she puts up with it coz she's so up herself she doesn't mind as long as they both look like celebs walking down the road. I try and not laugh walking past. People at pathetic these days

[Anonymous]

Lol I've been told by 20 guys that I'm really pretty and I've rejected all 5 of the guys that have had a crush on me, not because I'm just fishing for compliments and I want all eyes on me or because I want girls to be jealous of me. Simply because I'm too shy to communicate with men, especially when they're really good looking and when they have a super nice personality. I hate myself but I can't control it. I'm scared that they're gonna judge me and I always find a way to hate my most unnoticeable flaws. It sucks haha. I'm actually a really fun and goofy person but I can't show it to people other than my really close friends because anxiety.

[bwinbig_87]

Cuz she's been harassed by all the heartless womanizing assholes in life so thinks ALL men are like that. In the end the good guys that would actually appreciate her charm are thrown to the dirt and emotionally abused too. Do then she is looked at as a stuck up bitch in the end. Then people treat her like a stuck up bitch and she complains cuz she's always single... Yeah

[BCRanger10]

I can think of three reasons.

1) There are some guys who think that pretty girls are stuck up, that they're full of themselves, so they don't want to put forth the effort.

2) Maybe they are getting a lot of male attention and they want a break.

3) Some guys might see them and think "wow, she's WAY too gorgeous to be single." And then they won't approach her and ask her out. This is the one I used to fall into.

[enginozcan]

1- Bad Voice
If her sound is hard to listen and you’re struggling to talk to her, simply you can’t be with her. Communication is the number 1 thing in life and remember people communicate with talking not fucking.

2- A Total Empty Person
If a woman has no sense of humour, doesn’t understand what you’re telling, not so very smart (polite way to express idiot), doesn’t know what’s going on earth etcetc. Remember no men would want to fuck an flat, empty wall

[BrittBratt2416]

Just cause someone is gorgeous and single doesn't mean something is wrong with them. They could be single cause they just want to be single or waiting to meet someone but focusing on themselves and other things. I know that seems crazy but it's true, there's a good looking guy I work with who's single cause he just wants to be right now.

[shy_girl96]

Most people think it would be because of money, sexuality, freedom, people think they already have a boyfriend, but there are other reasons too. Sometimes its because they just really want a genuine guy and can't find him amongst the crowd. Sometimes its because they're actually super shy and sometimes its because its not important to them.

[Freya_Martin]

A "gorgeous girl" is a "girl" nevertheless. She has life of her own to decide whether to choose to be single or no. The way I see it - if she hasn't found anyone worthy, she'd be single. That's as plain & simple. After all, no one would like make random choices or experiment on oneself just because you are single, right. Cheers. 😇 💕

[Darion_K]

She wins enough money to get what she wants and doesn't need a guy to feel happy?

I mean, unless she wants a baby, then yeah, she could get a guy... or just go to a sperm bank.

Now at days, a girl doesn't really NEED a guy, but heck, sometimes is fun having a partner in crime on your adventures.

[snugasabug]

Honestly i think the pretty, sophisticated girls get a lot LESS attention. I think they are put on an 'untouchable pedestal' and men just presume they have no chance. I have known some GORGEOUS girls to never get approached. I can only put it down to this :)

[wbhibabu]

Sex fuck

[wbhibabu]

I'm a single

[NatalieOnLive]

She might not think she's gorgeous. She might have dated guys in the past that made her feel like she was unworthy and she's tired of feeling that way. Maybe she just wants to be single and enjoy that status for a bit while longer.
One of my good friends is stunning, she got out of a very toxic relationship and right now is learning how to love herself.

[Vmm90]

I don't consider myself gorgeous in the slightest but I was hurt really bad and now I never want anyone to get close to me again.

[zerozx]

My life as well. Stay strong xx

[saltysunshine]

Too busy with the hustle and bustle of life
Been hurt by too many guys to care anymore
doesn't need sex
Waiting on the right man to change her mind about being single
Maybe she just wants to take a damn break ok there's nothing wrong with being single get over it she's not interested

[Manaya669]

Are u gorgeous? And single?
... girl... u knw we get the extra attention, free stuff... nice dates - - - being pampered----- blah blah blah... but at the end of the day we still crave that special someone at night... but when that happens fuck it !!! Dress up. , be sexy , Rock it !!!

We stay single because THE SINGLE LIFE CAN BE AMAZEBALLS

[freakyzeaky]

Choose to stay or involuntarily stay single? If she chooses to, could be any number of reasons. Maybe she doesn't have the time or maybe she prefers open relationships. If she is involuntarily single, well, should be she is very picky or isn't very friendly.

[LucyG]

maybe because some guys get too nervous or afraid when they see an overly attractive woman so that they think they're gonna get rejected anyway because she's 1st probably already taken anyway or 2nd would never date a guy like them when she is that good looking. even though most of the time these women "suffer" from men thinking that

[Tomsta]

Can't find the right guy, not ready for it, only finds douches and people only interestedf in her looks, religious, arranged marridge

Also the more superficial things; thinks too much of herself and can't find someone who meets her impossibly high standards

That's just a few

[natski]

Beautiful people have issues to, maybe more so than the average person because every one assumes that because they look the way they do they automatically get asked to the dance, or already have a date or a partner when they are to shy or awkward to say otherwise

[Margillard]

It is not just you, men are loosing interest in women.
goodmenproject.com/.../

[Anonymous]

My guess is she's just waiting for the right person. Not everyone wants to sleep around or get into a relationship just for the sake of it. I'd say she's strong and capable rather than has issues, but that could also be a possibility (but then at least she's not trying to blame them on anyone else or expect anyone else to fix it). Just a yin to the yan for all of the negative comments on here.

[Nadia1994]

It's not about her wanting to stay single. Even if she wants a boyfriend, most guys would be too intimated by her looks to approach her. And if she's shy then she has no choice but to remain single.

Also, it's not necessary that every gorgeous girl would want a boyfriend. I know it's hard to believe but some people are not looking for a relationship.

[roy_ricky09]

"When you’re ugly and someone loves you, you know they love you for who you are. Beautiful people never know who they can trust"

[winterfox10]

Women are people too, they have dreams, and aspirations, and they like their freedom. Just because she has a vagina doesn’t automatically mean she’s looking for a relationship at all.

[Dural]

She's probably been taken advantage of too many times by guys just wanting to get in her pants based off her looks alone.

[Nyx_85]

Because Venus has not aligned with Mars on the day of the summer's harvest and the great Gods of Zushulux have got been given their virgin sacrifice.

Like obviously.

[Nyx_85]

*not been given

[lol20075]

Gorgeous girls tend to intimidate guys from my experience. Guys tend to think that they are taken and thus, don't try to hit on them or anything for fear of being put in their place in a very embarrassing manner.

[cinderelli]

she probably just has too much going on atm and don't have time for relationships.. or she hasn't found someone who'd make her fall in love.. or she has a bad attitude.. or she was hurt badly in the past and is scared to be in relationship again

[Prof_Don]

"No time for a relationship" = "I don't want relationship enough to make time for it"

[cinderelli]

@Prof_Don correct

[Anonymous]

She's a mess emotionally, and she knows she couldn't handle a relationship. She has trust issues, and knows better thant to trust people who will probably screw her over.
She needs time to heal and that doesn't bother her, because she wants to start a relationship when she's amotionally stable and can give something to her partner.

[sofaking]

I find, when I'm down, polar express leads you towards happiness..

[ATuairiscean]

Sounds clichéd but maybe not met right person yet.
Lifestyle choice
Commitment phobe
Past abuse
Behavioral or Mental health issues
Shyness
Asexual
Sexuality Issues
There are many probably as many as there are individuals out there

[TsundereMatrix]

These all apply to me because I’m apparently one of those “gorgeous girls”.

1. Picky
2. Insecure
3. Introvert
4. Demisexual/Asexual
5. Emotional and anxious
6. Bad dating stories told by my friends

Those are reasons why I like to stay single.

[VetamSH]

Having someone to cuddle at the end of a day

[RachelleDraws]

Many reasons:
Doesn't want a partner
She is asexual
She does have a partner, but it's a secret
Wants to wait until she's older before getting into a relationship
That's just a few, but there are much more.

[dandiecandie]

knows she has potential to be the best so she is driven by her desire to fulfill her dreams. A man would be a distraction of those dreams

[billybobbyjoey]

Simply does not want to possibly have to deal with any drama coming from a relationship.

[kitty71]

That could also apply to men. Some men do not want to deal with any drama that comes from a relationship so it just does not apply to girls.

[billybobbyjoey]

I know it can be anybody I was just giving the question an answer.

[kitty71]

I know dont worry

[Myquietsoul]

It could be by choice but it also seems like a lot of "Gorgeous girls" have horrible personalities and don't have much to add to a relationship besides looks

[MissMoe]

If she has a terrible personality or if she's a horrible person aka gorgeous only on the outside. Otherwise there should be no reason for a gorgeous girl from all aspects to be single.

[EXilerating]

She doesn't need someone, she has everyone. The attention she gets is different. Love is all the guys staring in the gym waiting to get eye contact. A guy with money may pop up to change things in this society

[Soteris]

Reason 1: Why not?

You dont always have to justify your actions and you also dont have to share the same goals as everyone else. It is completely fine to be single if you want to be regardless of how beautiful you are or how ugly you are.

[PasticheGrizzly]

People tell me I'm a pretty girl yet I don't have a boyfriend. Guys don't approach me so 🤷🏻‍♀️

[irrationally97]

You should approach them then

[loveshorro]

1. they don’t like anyone romantically
2. They aren’t interested in a relationship
3. They haven’t found the right guy
4. They don’t get approached by guys or don’t approach them

[whoischris]

What does gorgeous have to do with it? I've been through a lot of bad relationships... it's easier to stay single than experiment and get hurt by people that don't really care about you

[DaCrownlessKing]

Pretty people have their own way problems. No one cares about you as a person or how u feel. They are enticed by mostly looks. So I don't blame them for staying single. Always be with people who want more than shallow things like looks or money

[shadow1332]

A relationship isn't a requirement for some people's happiness, if you feel you don't need a relationship to be happy than why go into one. There are a lot of other reasons as to why it is like that, but I feel like most people will overlook this.

[Astoriana]

Maybe she doesn’t like dating. Maybe she has poor self image. Maybe she wants to focus on her career.

Being good looking isn’t an obligation to be in a relationship.

[Katerina_Belle]

It could be anything but my reasons are either I simply don’t want be in a relationship and prefer being single or I don’t want to settle; I want the perfect man - which takes time to find.

[red324]

This is the problem with the girls on dating sites. The person you end up with will probably be the total opposite of what you wanted as perfect.

[princiee]

She is gorgeous by look so might she wants to be gorgeous by profession as well so she avoids getting into relationship because she is sheer focused to it and might later considering getting into relationship

[princiee]

Or may be she wants to save all pleasure for his future husband

[Missy_Kissy0503]

Bad past experiences, taking a break, doesn't want to date till she's a certain age, religion, commitment issues, views all guys the same, lesbian but scared for anyone to know... etc. etc.

[chloehatespeople]

She just doesn't want a relationship. Why is that so hard to understand.

[btbc92]

Because it's too foreign for them. If your not dating and never did, then your not normal.

[Aparnam]

@btbc92 why is person not normal then?

[btbc92]

why don't you ask people that think like this? I'm only explaining from what I've been told by other people. you know the ignorant ones.

[btbc92]

especially the guys and a few girls that's been messing around. Got told by them too. You'll get those types here on GAG too.

[Aparnam]

Ohh, ok
I think it's totally normal

[CactusJuice]

Mature men will understand this. Some butthurt males will not. hahah

[Aparnam]

😂 so true

[Cosytoasty]

If the decision is hers then well... it’s her decision I guess. Probably wants to find the right guy.

If she’s not single by choice, then she is almost certainly batshit crazy for no guy to want her.

[slatyb]

Here's one who did, singing about the reasons:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3Nq48sHF8M

[Anonymous]

Can’t be bothered with guys and just happens to look really good, or asexual or just waiting for the perfect guy and knows she can be choosey and is in no rush to get tied down while getting all the attention of being attractive. Could also be selfish and just not be the sharing type since relationships are about compromise and sharing

[GrayWhi2]

Maybe She wants a long term relationship and all she is encountering is fuckboys who just lust after her body

[Anonymous]

Exercising and relishing her sexual freedom.

Though I think they often run into the problem of waiting to long to look for a good guy. The peak of sexual desirability should be spent looking for a good partner. Spending that time fucking around and looking for a partner afterward as you're in decline is not a good idea. in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

People have told me I'm good looking. Gorgeous have been used. I stay single because I'm very shy and introverted. And I also don't find myself attracted to anyone my age. More close to 30+, and don't wanna risk getting anyone in prison..

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

http://i.imgur.com/GfYhSOp.jpg

[Tdieseler]

There are many...
but the one I've found is a two-way street...
people see she's gorgeous and believe she's a narcissistic self-follower,,
or they believe she's already in a relationship.