They're pickier because they're forced to be. They have guys throwing themselves at them who have really poor manners or are uninventive in their approach - something that really smacks of insincerity or sloppiness. They've dealt with crap that not even guys would accept. Then, quite often, they have guys that come up to them and have the sheer audacity expect the girl to throw themselves at him. Then when the girl doesn't respond like they want, they have this self-entitlement crap going on like, hey, you get approached by douchebags all the time and when you finally meet a super nice guy like me how come you don't appreciate it? They're really condescending about it and make remarks that would make your eyebrows go? Seriously, I wish guys could be on the receiving end of some of this stuff. It really makes the girl hesitant to pick anyone, because you don't know who can be trusted or who's really worth pursuing. Nothing good comes easy, and it's like sorting through cheesy smiling salesmen and scammers.
Also, people are intimidate by their looks and stereotype that the hotter you are the worse of a person you must be (unless you're smiling 100% of the time and giving in to all sloppy advances. Yeah she's awesome she'll never say no to anything, hehe). They fear the pain of falling on their ego from a rejection of that height.
The hot girls can't hide their inner emotions and insecurities - Lots of guys (i. e. the majority) that approach confidently often have nothing to lose. It's a bet. It's a laugh. If it doesn't work just give her the finger or call her some name. This constant barrage of treatment causes the girls to put off a subconscious negativity, their moods showing through on their face, especially on a day when they're not feeling so confident and drop gorgeous like everyone assumes. i. e. not smiling. This makes them look even less approachable. Sometimes it's just a defensive mechanism because people gawk rudely at you, i public
They have negative images projected on them - they're obviously really flirty, flaky and slutty and men don't feel like dealing with a Kardashian, high maintenance chick. When it comes to show some courage and initiative in approaching the guys give themselves these excuses, overthinking it, completely condemning the girl mentally before they bother approaching.
Attractive girls are told they deserve better so many hold off as long as they can, but many just give up and pick anything to stave off the loneliness.
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I kind of understand this. I have been told that i'm really pretty and have a great personality. I was feeling frustrated that I was single for so long even though all my friends (guys and girls) constantly tell me i'm a catch and have a great personality and assume i can have whatever guy I want. But its not true. I have so much trouble approaching boys and being myself, because most of the time i feel intimidated. But what I'm slowly coming to realise is that I am just extremely picky and have very high standards (not just looks, and def not about money) because I only want to date quality humans who I am also sexually attracted to. Not one or the other. That is really the reason i've been single for so long because i'm sometimes feel like i'm chasing after unicorns. But at the same time, I would be disrespectful to myself to lower my standards. The few times I have, I did not feel so great afterwards.
by the way I really hate all the responses some of the others have posted, that automatically assume you are an up-yourself bitch with no personality. I think you can be confident in yourself and know you are pretty or have other great qualities, while still being down to earth and grounded in reality. It's just having a good level of self esteem, and doesn't automatically mean you're arrogant.
Damn everyone is giving you a hard time. You don't have to call yourself a dumb fuck to be not arrogant. A person can recognize she/he's attractive without being arrogant. I also know I'm a little bit more attractive for most people than Honey Boo boo's mom and she's also married.
Okay so, maybe you don't interact enough with guys. You might not be approachable. Some people think that "I just walked in the park and a guy asked me out and we got married now" is a situation that happens often. It doesn't. Most people get together through mixed friend groups, sports etc. So just being pretty and a nice person isn't enough, because guys are super scared to ask girls out and don't do that to every person they just find attractive. There has to be a bond or a situation.
Maybe guys don't see you or your friends as girlfriend material. Here comes the approachable part again. You have to slightly flirt, but not too much and have some special qualities.
Maybe you never ask a guy out. If you really want something. You should go over there like a real powerwoman and get it.
I hope I helped you slightly.
Really,? Maybe it's just perspective. The people I see and know that are attractive usually have a boy friend or several guy friends. Everyone is pretty though and has several attractive points that their significant other likes wether it really be how " pretty " they are or not. Personality can override beauty at times, so overall I say it depends or it's how you view things. Just because you're pretty and single doesn't mean that that's a bad thing. If you're talking solely about you and your group of friends it's maybe that just they + you haven't found the right one yet, or haven't really looked into dating etc. Sorry I don't know how to explain lel. The people you surround yourself w/ can influence what you think as well. Maybe it's just a coincidence that you and your friends have been single for awhile. Are you also thinking for example that like " Why are ugly girls taken? " because that's not true either? It's so hard to answer this and i don't know why. Hope this kind of helps
12. She’s Content with Herself.
These days it’s pretty easy for girls to get an education, make their own money, and stay independent, so often times a man isn’t needed. A girl who makes her own money, has a great family, and some awesome friends to spend time with is happy with herself and her surroundings and isn’t interested in wasting time with a man. Independent girls often scare guys because meeting someone so well put together often gets them thinking about commitment and boys (not men) don’t like to commit.
11. She Wants Something Meaningful.
Nowadays women have “no strings attached” intimacy almost as often as men do, and why not, it is perfectly normal -as long as they are being safe. Pretty girls are constantly being hit on so they have options and can be choosy. They’re perfectly happy being single and enjoying random hookups, that is until the right one comes along.
10. She’s Not Interested in Wasting Time.
Pretty girls aren’t interested in meaningless dating because often times they don’t have the time for someone they can’t see themselves with long-term. They are picky and would rather spend that time pampering and bettering themselves rather than being out on some mediocre date. Of course if she finds a keeper she’s more than willing to make time for him in her life.
9. Personality for Days.
Pretty girls often come with kick-ass personalities and self-assurance, both qualities men usually find threatening. They’re not the type that are going to sit back and let a man handle things, and this can make some guys feel inadequate. A self-assured woman knows what she wants and isn’t going to shy away from speaking her mind and telling her man what she deserves.
8. Friends Come First.
Pretty girls don’t require the time of a man because they’re constantly surrounded by guys who want to spend time with them. Since there’s never a shortage of men wanting their attention these girls aren’t so keen on spending all their free time with the first guy that comes along. They’re dedicated to their friends and the men in their lives will just have to wait patiently for their turn.
7. Not the Desperate Type.
With men constantly offering pretty girls anything their little hearts desire these girls know they can be picky. They aren’t desperate to find a man to spend their time with and have the luxury of options on their side. They don’t mind staying single and waiting for the right one to come along.
Have you done anything to rectify that? I mean not knowing what you and your friends look like, you might not actually be that attractive. But assuming you are attractive, that would also mean that the average guy is going to be less willing to approach you, because he might think you are out of his league, lack the courage or simply assume that he'd fail, so he doesn't do it. This means that the amount of guys who approach you will be lower than for the less attractive girls. This is increased if you tend to stick to being in a group with your friends, do something that makes you look busy like being on your phone or otherwise seem unfriendly or occupied. And only after all that which has probably dropped a lot guys already, we got to the point where the guy who approaches you has to be up to your standards, which depending on what they are, might also drop a lot of guys off. Assuming high standards here, that would mean only the confident and attractive guys and few of the average guys who manage to rally the courage to approach you have a chance. But since confident and attractive guys have a lot of choices other than you and your friends already, on account of being generally desirable for most women, that means that the number of guys in the pool you and your friends can pick from is going to be a lot smaller than for a girl who might be less attractive, but is more open and welcoming in her behavior and looks. Especially more so if she is willing to be the one making the approach aswell.
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Maybe guys view your attitude about yourself as arrogant or pretentious; maybe they don;t see you as being as "down to earth" as you believe you are.
Here's the honest truth, and I am not saying you are like this, so please DON'T take offense.
Without trying to sound like some sort of player, I will say that I have dated a bunch of different women. I currently have a girlfriend, however, before her, I would go on a date with a new girl every single week. I did that for about a year.
I had no problem meeting women, but I did have a problem keeping them around. Honestly, I was not the problem... the women were the problem.
Pretty women are very choosy and superficial. I am 5'10' and a majority of the women I met were between 5'3" to 5'5". When they would ask my height on the date, I would tell me them I am 5'10". Women would tell me that I was a nice guy and it was a nice date, but they want men who are 6 feet or taller.
Pretty women expect way more out of men. Last year, I had a rough patch. My job got closed down, so I was out of work for a couple months and moved back home temporarily. When I would tell women my situation, they would instantly shut me down. They didn't want to date a guy who lived at home (even though I moved out 2 months later). I had everything else minus my own place. It's not like the girl is going to come home with me after a couple dates, so it really shouldn't have mattered.
Pretty women always blame men for everything. I cannot tell you how many times on social media I see women blaming men for everything and talking shit about men. They constantly say men are lame, men are not real men, men don't know what they want, men this... men that... men, men, men, men, men. Fact of the matter is, if you are single, it's because you make yourself single.
Here's a video that basically demonstrates how pretty women act today: Ignore the title of this video... this video describes a lot of pretty women these days:
www.worldstarhiphop.com/.../video.phpMany many reasons.
1. It could be that you hang out with the 'popular' crowd. That means that the pool of people who will ask you out are from the popular crowd. This is because if a guy thinks that your friends will reject him, then you'd have to choose between your friends and him, who you barely know.
Same goes for activities. If you like to go out and party, then you will only have the party guys to choose from.
2. You want something serious. Ties in to #1 also. Party and popular guys usually don't want something serious (at that stage of their life, if at all.) So, if that's the pool of applicants, you won't find anyone.
Also, if you push for something serious too fast, it can come off as clingy to normal guys. They may be willing to be serious, but not yet. Age also factors into that. Being religious will make guys assume you are looking for something serious, even if you aren't.
3. You don't go out and only hang with your friends. Well, you are never going to find anyone unless you put yourself in a position to be approached.
4. You sit back and wait for guys to come to you.
Think about this, the handsome eligible guys will have girls, usually average, hitting on them. This is because average girls assume they have to to compete with you.
But you don't flirt. Why would the guy stop his nice conversation with an average girl to flirt with a hot one? (Unless he was only interested in sex, of course.)
So, you need to approach and flirt also. Again, though, approach the ones that look like they want a girlfriend.
5. Attractiveness is subjective.
6. See 5.I've read the most voted answer and besides that one, there are some other things I would like to point as possible options:
-guys that you might like, see you as out of their league and don't even try.
-some guys try, but since you don't like them back, you turn them down.
-plus, you assume that a good looking girl with great friendly attitude already has someone.
Listen to people speaking to you (when you go to the grocery store, when you see the dentist, when you go to the hairdresser, so on), they will say things that imply they believe you have someone.
-usually better looking, more confidence for the most part, easy going and friendly in general, having ease in talking with people. So though you might try to show interest in a guy and you think you are flirting, he might simply see you as being friendly just like you are with the rest of the people.
Noticed that a lot of girls that are "hotties" and not at all "divas" when it comes to behaviour are single, so it might have something to do with them being too good looking for their own sake.
This girl was hitting on me for months and though I liked her, I was thinking she has someone. Until a few months later, where I simply had a revelation, one of those moments where you smack yourself over the face when you realize. :)There are so many possibilities. I'll list a few. Please bear in mind that guys are not girls. Our VALUES are different than yours.
1 you may be over estimating your attractiveness. Our family and friends often praise us in an attempt to bolster our self esteem. This gives us an inaccurate view of our attractiveness.
2 you may be over estimating the value of your attractiveness. You may be exactly as attractive as you think you are, but fail to realize that attractiveness is not quite as important as you think it is.
3 you may be fooled into thinking that your grooming, by which I mean clothes, hairstyles, makeup, etc. Have increased your attractiveness. Most men can see through these things and have very little attraction to the facade.
4 your estimation of the VALUE of your *quality* may be off. While having an educated wife is nice, very few men place a high value on it in terms of relationships.
5 you may be underestimating the value of the girls you feel are of lower quality than you.The fact that you view other girls as less "quality" is probably a reason why you're still single.
Although to answer your question, a lot of times, very pretty women are stereotyped to be quite dumb because a lot of the time they focus so much on their makeup, their fashion, their body shape etc. They spend so much time on those things they don't spend time learning about how to be interesting. A guy will see a pretty girl and that makes him instantly attracted (obviously) however unless you're actually interesting and knowledgable about things where you can have deep conversations, he will just view you as a piece of meat.
"Nice guys" would rather be with someone who is interesting and fun instead of a beautiful but boring Girl.
So if you want my advice, become more interesting! Learn how to get into a really deep conversation, develop some opinions that you can debate about with the guy. Develop hobbies/ projects (not gym) that you can do with the guy you're seeing 😊 Make sure you make the guy know that you're not just a pretty face, otherwise he will only see you as thatA lot of girls describe themselves as "attractive" because of all the positive attention they get through society whereas you'll notice a lot of guys will describe themselves as "average" or "I look OK, I guess" and this is one of the differences between men and women. Men tend to be more modest about themselves and are put off by women who also lack that modesty.
Girls who are conventionally attractive have been catered to and pampered her entire life most likely, so when guys see a girl who is attractive they most likely assume she is either already in a relationship or that she will be too much work. Guys don't really have much to offer an attractive female that other people have or already tried to. The only reason an attractive girl would be single is because she wants to be, as if you probably approached men yourself, you would find yourself dating or would find that you aren't as "down to earth" as you actually think you are. The dating scene is stressful for those of us who have to approach, so mostly men, and you wouldn't really understand the difficulty in approaching somebody really attractive until you've had to do it yourself. Put yourself in a guy's shoes and you'll figure it out.Because men in general have low self-esteem. the things that we want in life most of us don't really go after. It's funny because as soon as you do as long you realize that you have the power and ability to obtain anything it is that you want. attractive women don't get picked up on more because of two things. one being that they're hard to approach as a man with low self-esteem or a man who feels like they have nothing to offer them and two they feel as if these women are extremely experienced with all sorts of men and that they can possibly measure up to all of them so there would have to be somebody out there that was better than them which may or may not be true. at the end of the day the reason why you and your friends are actually single is not because of the men in their low self-esteem but because of the fact that there is a pack of you guys and it makes it hard for any man to approach anyone of you because of the fear that all of your friends will tear him down and you probably would because that's generally how women react to Amanda pressuring one of their friends in a group setting.
I don't think it has anything to do with how attractive you are. It's just becoming harder and harder to find people who aren't too emotionally damaged or caught up on someone else even if they're bad or toxic for them. Also , just because you see a girl as not as attractive to you, does not make her of any less quality. Having a negative outlook on other women is an ugly trait personality wise and will not be attractive to a decent guy. The other girl may very well not be as pretty as you. Maybe in her boyfriend's eyes, she's the most beautiful girl in the world. Relationships don't get by on looks. Looks fade eventually. There naturally has to be a physical attraction of some sort, but sometimes certain things are overlooked when someone possesses everything the other person is looking for within a partner. Personality is a big factor in how far a relationship will go with someone. Most men of decent nature do not want a shallow girl with a negativity towards others. You should never compare yourself with others either. This is a bad habit most people have. Just do your best to be a good person and one day , the right guy will take notice of you.
I have many male friends that used to model with me and still model and I can tell you that it isn't because people of great Beauty are narcissistic in any way I believe that it is that some people in this world are looking for someone that they can love but they know for Guarantee will not ditch them when they start acting up or start being themselves. there for a guy with low self-esteem may choose not to be with you because he'll know that you'll soon ditches ass because he's not believing in himself to be of enough worth for you. I found that I have also seen the mirror of this theory in women where I have dated beautiful women and my relationship worked well but I've dated unattractive women that I thought we're beautiful on the inside and they were constantly suspicious or jealous that I was cheating on them because they had no self-esteem or didn't feel that they could keep me. Keeping me has nothing to do with somebody else's actions I am trustworthy and sometimes even prude because I have morals
Greetings to you. Thanks for the question. From my own perceptive the understanding of beauty and what you find attractive to most men is of essence cos people see it as a criteria to end up in a better/serious relationship. Beauty has to do with a physical appearance which can be altered (Undergo Change). That is to say every man has what he looks our from a woman and if a relationship is beauty based what happens when the beauty is lost, would there be a need for the relationship. So to say most men don't really lookout for the most beautiful in appearance but most beautiful in heart and character (Importantly). You don't need to be Ugly to be that only be of your real self and groom your character to be of a nice one. You can go a long way as just a relationship than more time being wasted on Making up the beauty. The question should be what really attracts this men to this women you see yourself better than? And note and be advised that all woman are equal but have there different uniqueness. so try to know your uniqueness and how well does it seem to a man and how better you can be. The watched word here is " Be Yourself and Work on you inward self" You would always end up in a good relationship. Thanks for reading through and always feel free to contact me for me guide. Cheers!
The simple fact that you judge you and your friends superior to these “…less attractive or less "quality"..” women that are attached in relationships tells it all. Guys that are serious enough to get attached, just don’t want to put up with that kind of bullshit associated with narcissism, self-absorbed, high maintenance. You will have to get over the love affair with yourself before you can have one with a man.
Maybe there's something about your personality that turns guys off. Most quality men are able to see past looks. I think I'm pretty, and I know that the main reasons why I'm single are because I'm a homebody and I have no clue when I'm being flirted with.
For one, being attractive or "quality" doesn't entitle you to a boyfriend. It almost like when guys ask, "Why do assholes get all the girls, but I don't? I'm a nice guy." So what if your attractive? Yeah, you might meet some guy's basic criteria for dating, but you say nothing as to whether or not you treat people well, are easy to get along with, approachable, and the endless list of other traits guys are looking for. For all we know, you have the temperament of a wet cat and have nothing interesting to say. Also, you seem to imply that you and your group of friends deserve to be in relationships more than these "less "quality"" people, while basing that solely on looks. That is far from the "down to earth" personality you claim to have, and actually comes off as pretentious.
Pretty girls want to have a pretty guy, now find a pretty guy which still hasn't got a relationship or is an arsehole. Because usually, guys who know they're pretty have a very high ego and think they can have every girl on this planet. In 90% of cases they are fuckboys. And: many guys see prettiness as something unreachable, they think they can't come near you because they're gonna get rejected, but they forget that pretty isn't everything and don't even try out of fear. I'm friends with some guys who are attractive but just too shy to ask a pretty girl out and I think it's bad that many men nowadays just can't handle taking the first step towards a girl anymore.
None of us know you, so we can't answer this question, why you girls "personally" can't get into relationships. But, generally speaking, science says that attractive men and women have it tough to an extent, because people are afraid of getting rejected by them... people value beauty very highly, so much so, they'd rather date someone who presents a less risky chance of being cheated on... made feel insecure about their looks... that being said... you are still in the same boat as everyone else, in that you're not special nor entitled to your dream relationship. It's up to you to take control of your life, so if you want to get into your ideal relationship, get out there, be open to new opportunities and try.
Oftentimes pretty girls tend to rate themselves as being way more pretty than they actually are. No offense. Also "down to earth" and "friendly" might come across as true among your female friends but you might be completely crass with males.
Lastly and I think the biggest one is that my friend who is really pretty overvalues herself. She honestly doesn't have all that much to offer but expects a rich guy to commit to her just because she's pretty. She has never had a relationship longer than 5 months and she's 27... soMost of pretty girls I know are already taken. And I've got impression that they never were single more than 24 hours, there was always some guy around them. But they are funny and interesting, intelligent girls, beauty is not everything they have to offer its just a bonus to their great personalities.
I do know some pretty single girls, but they a are quite shallow, arrogant and focus on themselves. They think they deserve best (read - expensive), because they better than everyone. They can't built a steady relationship cuz they are not able to love truly anybody else than themselves.1. Men are intimidating by beautiful women and they think they will become instantly rejected cause they feel like they are not on the same level as her. So they go for average looking women cause they feel she's a lot safer to approach and that rejection won't happen as much or feel as harsh.
2. People assume that attractive women are stuck up, That they are so beautiful and can choose any kind of man that is out there that's not them. They see confidence in yourself as being conceited and not just loving yourself.it could be your standards are way too high. Maybe your unaproachable? what do the guys your attracted to look like? how high does looks rate? very important or not so much? if I tried to strike up a conversation with you, would you talk to me and give me a chance? also looks ate not everything.
I have dated knock outs ten plus.
but there personalities were ugly or like the one girl. she came on to me. we went to a party and all she did was talk about herself. she was saying , look those people keep looking over here. I bet they think I'm a model. she just kept stroking her own ego. it did not matter how how she was. she wanted to screw that night. I took her straight home after the party.
so, are you or any of your hot friends any of the above?
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