Infact, my experience is just the opposite of yours. I've come across more number of pretty gals having boyfriend as to less pretty ones. I guess this is how the law of nature works too. High maintenance, as is generally thought to be an attribute of the pretty ones, is a myth. Infact, it's mostly the attribute of gals who are more used to high life or kinda aspire for it. In nutshell, pretty ones stand higher chance of getting into relationship, unless there is some with their traits. Cheers. 😇💕
Corrected version (sincere apologies): Infact, my experience is just the opposite of yours. I've come across more number of pretty gals having boyfriends as compared to less pretty ones. I guess this is how the law of nature works too. High maintenance, as is generally thought to be an attribute of the pretty ones, is a myth. Infact, it's mostly the attribute of gals (or even guys) who are more used to high life or kinda aspire for it. In nutshell, pretty gals stand higher chance of getting into relationships, unless there are some issues with their traits. Cheers 😇 💕
I think the answers on here are a bit harsh. But I think it's because 1 guys think you're taken. And 2 because they're probably intimidated.
Also if you're looking for guys to be your boyfriends, don't look. Instead don't focus on trying to find a boyfriend but do something that you like to do (hike, sports, paint etc.) or focus on your career and by doing that you'll find someone who'll have the same interests as you.
for one, your post doesn't add up to you asking a question about yourself, but it could be. most people can figure out why they are single and when asked why they are single they have logical reasons as to why they are single, some don't know, some don't care. if you live on planet Earth you'd probably notice at some point in time models, sports players, celebrities, hot ass regular people date and get married and also the same varieties are single, and the same varieties that are considered ugly are also single or dating/married. attractive people and ugly people of all types are single and are in relationships.
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My mom always said it was because guys were afraid of approaching beautiful women in fears of being rejected, and how that's why guys opt for less appealing girls because those girls have lower expectations of guys. My Dad always said it was because less appealing girls tend to be more the marriage type, and are more likely better are cooking, cleaning, etc. and they have more personality, and how the prettier ones don't feel the need to try to have one since they think their appearance makes up for it.
But it really could just be that you sound like an arrogant little bitch.
Of course I can't tell you exactly why u aren't in a relationship b/c I don't know you, but one thing that those girls might be doing that you are not is separating themselves from their friends and making themselves actually approachable to guys. It's hard enough for a guy to go up to a hot girl, it's near impossible to do that when she is also surrounded by hot friends. Not sure if this applies to you, but since you said "me and my friends" I thought I'd mention this common mistake women dating have. Plus those women who you seem to think are uglier than you are probably overly outgoing and friendly, which naturally puts them in a place to date a lot of guys.
I just wanted to add on to my post, and say that I've noticed you've gotten a lot of hate for your question, and I feel sorry for you because you probably didn't mean to come off as rude. However, my problem is not that you said you and your friends are pretty attractive and down to earth, what puts me off is the fact that you went on to say other girls where uglier than you guys. Putting yourself in a objective position saying you are prettier than other girls is a big turn off and immature. However, saying you believe you and your friends are beautiful without comparing yourselves to others shows maturity and self confidence in one's unique beauty.
I wasn't trying to make myself sound superior. That's why I didn't use words like "uglier" but instead chose to say "less attractive." but I know when it comes down to my friends, friends who I've met from various points in my life and kept in contact with throughout the years, I'm always shocked to find out that they're still single. they're all educated, take good care of themselves and are all around kind of girls. But it never fails. They'll tell me about some guy they like, and then for one reason or another, that guy will stop talking to them, become more distant, etc. then turn around and he's with some other chick who, and I'm probably biased, has literally nothing on my friends, whether that be with looks, personality, the way they carry themselves, etc. So basically I was wondering why this is a pattern for us. Why does it seem like guys prefer those kind of girls over girls like my friends who are attractive, level-headed and educated.
My guy friends are more attracted with girls who can go without makeup, yet use makeup to dress up for a night out. Most of the time the guys who see woman that are attractive are more high management (more so on the wallet)
In times like today, most guys I know feel at ease with woman who can live without vanity. (Unlike the woman in the photo) Confidence with no makeup grabs the guys for sure in my group of friends.
Also try not to compare yourself with other woman, it's not attractive.
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Almost every single pretty girl that I've met, once I got beyond her looks, all I found was an empty vessel with no real personality. Sometimes I desperately tried to find something, almost wishing it was there, but there was nothing.
I know a pretty Asian girl right now, lovely looking, cute as hell... but talking to her. Have you any idea how tough it was to get a decent conversation going? She wants to talk about her favorite pen, or her new trainers...
So let me ask you this, are you and your pretty attractive friends interesting?
"Every single pretty girl I've met had a empty vessel with no personality" lmao being pretty or ugly has nothing to do with having a good personality and everyone has a personality (whether a good one or a bad one)
@Distants The point is that girls who focus primarily on their looks neglect developing an interesting personality that is attractive to guys, or men for that matter.
Ok based on attraction, maybe y'all aren't attractive to the guys you typically are around... like I personally think that myself and most of my friends are pretty attractive but if I ask some guys they completely disagree and do not find us attractive at all... so the whole if y'all are pretty or not just really depends- but I'm sure you guys are, I've never really seen a girl who is really bad looking... also with the down to earth personalities I see the same thing where I am so that's really annoying and I can't figure it out either... but like I said, it's really subjective so what one person thinks is gorgeous and down to earth another might think is hideous and high maintenance...
I think the fact that you are calling other girls less "quality" plays a huge role in why you are single. Sounds like you have either an inflated ego, too high of standards, or a combination of the two.
doesn't need to be ladies! is it not possible that a girl is just selfconfident and knows herself well? or that the same traits would be interpreted in men as confidence and dominance? probably she is just straight here on this app but in real life not at all comparing... what do you think?
Chances are you're not as pretty or "down to earth" as you think you are. Or you're raging bitches.
It usually can be boiled down to one of several things.
1) Unattractive/ugly. This includes fat, unless you can find one of those sickos that likes fat women or a complete simp that will settle for a fat girl since it's all he believes he can get. 2) Other man's/men's kids. 3) Entitlement attitude. 4) Generally unpleasant to be around for any length of time. A bitch.
Because guys dont really care about how you look in the long run. We might see a girl and be like "daaammnnn" but she won't be the girl we fall for. Usually the girls men pick are those who are good people, nice, funny, (nerds are a huge turn on) etc. Im not saying you and your friends are bad people but if you are as attractive as you state then a guy might be turned off by that (not sexually) and won't originally want a relationship. I have multiple female friends with that exact problem. What they do is try to show of their more geeky and stupid sides instead of their attractive exterior.
Yeah, I've also noticed this too 😅. The main issue can be that the men are just worried about rejection and don't think you'd want to date them. That's probably 90% of the reason why. Maybe even 100%.
I've been asking the same question for long. Some guys won't understand your question at all. I am the same type of women as yourself, and I have been single for most of my life, with very few dates here and there. I have seen far less attractive girls with handsome guys, and this defies logic, lol.
it's because to a certain extent, looks dont matter. Does she have to be pleasing yeah. for example, if she has a eyepatch, a wooden leg and a hook for a hand (a pirate) then its out of the question. If she has a decent face, nice hair, ok body etc.. and a great personality then things will be ok for her. A pretty girl who only thinks in looks and abandons her personality gets kind of... boring.
@FreedomByChoice I agree. I never exclude personality, but how are these guys-many of whom are super attractive-get attracted to a woman who is not attractive by all standards? I mean in the first place: how can a guy know she has a ' good personality'?
well Im really attractive (or most people will tell me) yet I dont have a girlfriend. It has more to do with how they put themselves out there. How approachable they look which again, goes to your personality or something at first glance that makes you seem like you have negative traits. Sometimes we have a hunch of who is a good person and who isn't. For example, who is more friendly at first glance, The lady reading a book with a smile on her face at the park (not in the creepy way) or a lady on her phone with the resting b! tch face? or maybe, just maybe your standard of what you find attractive is not their preference
@FreedomByChoice yeah, it makes sense. But of course it's coincidence too: it depends on how the guy (in the park for instance) would see the woman with the book.
a couple of things, one probably guys dont want to be competing with other guys to stay with you. for example thinking that you will eventually find someone better than them. 2 you guys do not see each other like other people do. i am often told i look pissed off all the time, when i am just deep in thought. 3 im not trying to be mean just saying things i often notice about attractive women, you guys probably really dont have a good personality. again not trying to be mean just answering a question. sorry if i offended anybody
OK here are the points:- 1. Some guys think you already have boyfriend. 2. Other guys think you are egoists and would reject them. 3. you are lesbians. 4. Some guys don't like your personality. 5. Some guys are just shy. 6. Some guys are gay 7. Some guys think you are (beauty is in the eye of the beholder) ugly. 8. Some guys like you but try to play mind games with you and nothing actually proceeds even it has potential. 9. Some guys feel that you don't deserve them.
1. High Expectations simply because you think of urself as "better" than other girls. 2. Looks aren't everything. Maybe those girls take efforts for guys and u all just wait there for the guys to text/call/etc first. 3. Being Single is a choice. You want someone who looks cute and friendzone everyone who doesn't, this means u r directly removing 90% guys from ur targeted interest and choosing to stay single 9/10 times unknowingly. Hope, after reading this, u will give ur "friendzoned" friend a chance. Especially the Not Cute one.
The facts state most guys won't confront a beautiful girl solely because they say in their minds there's no way she's single... Epically if you and your friends are in groups a lot in public that also hinders a guy from wanting to come up to you. Girls that aren't attractive doesn't mean they don't have a good personality or that they don't deserve a boyfriend. My motto is looks fade but food doesn't.
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Infact, my experience is just the opposite of yours. I've come across more number of pretty gals having boyfriend as to less pretty ones. I guess this is how the law of nature works too. High maintenance, as is generally thought to be an attribute of the pretty ones, is a myth. Infact, it's mostly the attribute of gals who are more used to high life or kinda aspire for it. In nutshell, pretty ones stand higher chance of getting into relationship, unless there is some with their traits. Cheers. 😇💕
Corrected version (sincere apologies):
Infact, my experience is just the opposite of yours. I've come across more number of pretty gals having boyfriends as compared to less pretty ones. I guess this is how the law of nature works too. High maintenance, as is generally thought to be an attribute of the pretty ones, is a myth. Infact, it's mostly the attribute of gals (or even guys) who are more used to high life or kinda aspire for it. In nutshell, pretty gals stand higher chance of getting into relationships, unless there are some issues with their traits. Cheers 😇 💕
I think the answers on here are a bit harsh. But I think it's because 1 guys think you're taken. And 2 because they're probably intimidated.
Also if you're looking for guys to be your boyfriends, don't look. Instead don't focus on trying to find a boyfriend but do something that you like to do (hike, sports, paint etc.) or focus on your career and by doing that you'll find someone who'll have the same interests as you.
for one, your post doesn't add up to you asking a question about yourself, but it could be.
most people can figure out why they are single and when asked why they are single they have logical reasons as to why they are single, some don't know, some don't care.
if you live on planet Earth you'd probably notice at some point in time models, sports players, celebrities, hot ass regular people date and get married and also the same varieties are single, and the same varieties that are considered ugly are also single or dating/married.
attractive people and ugly people of all types are single and are in relationships.
My mom always said it was because guys were afraid of approaching beautiful women in fears of being rejected, and how that's why guys opt for less appealing girls because those girls have lower expectations of guys. My Dad always said it was because less appealing girls tend to be more the marriage type, and are more likely better are cooking, cleaning, etc. and they have more personality, and how the prettier ones don't feel the need to try to have one since they think their appearance makes up for it.
But it really could just be that you sound like an arrogant little bitch.
Imma leave this here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NF5XU-k2Vk
did you just say the b word?
Of course I can't tell you exactly why u aren't in a relationship b/c I don't know you, but one thing that those girls might be doing that you are not is separating themselves from their friends and making themselves actually approachable to guys. It's hard enough for a guy to go up to a hot girl, it's near impossible to do that when she is also surrounded by hot friends. Not sure if this applies to you, but since you said "me and my friends" I thought I'd mention this common mistake women dating have. Plus those women who you seem to think are uglier than you are probably overly outgoing and friendly, which naturally puts them in a place to date a lot of guys.
I agree with this
I just wanted to add on to my post, and say that I've noticed you've gotten a lot of hate for your question, and I feel sorry for you because you probably didn't mean to come off as rude. However, my problem is not that you said you and your friends are pretty attractive and down to earth, what puts me off is the fact that you went on to say other girls where uglier than you guys. Putting yourself in a objective position saying you are prettier than other girls is a big turn off and immature. However, saying you believe you and your friends are beautiful without comparing yourselves to others shows maturity and self confidence in one's unique beauty.
I wasn't trying to make myself sound superior. That's why I didn't use words like "uglier" but instead chose to say "less attractive." but I know when it comes down to my friends, friends who I've met from various points in my life and kept in contact with throughout the years, I'm always shocked to find out that they're still single. they're all educated, take good care of themselves and are all around kind of girls. But it never fails. They'll tell me about some guy they like, and then for one reason or another, that guy will stop talking to them, become more distant, etc. then turn around and he's with some other chick who, and I'm probably biased, has literally nothing on my friends, whether that be with looks, personality, the way they carry themselves, etc. So basically I was wondering why this is a pattern for us. Why does it seem like guys prefer those kind of girls over girls like my friends who are attractive, level-headed and educated.
My guy friends are more attracted with girls who can go without makeup, yet use makeup to dress up for a night out.
Most of the time the guys who see woman that are attractive are more high management (more so on the wallet)
In times like today, most guys I know feel at ease with woman who can live without vanity.
(Unlike the woman in the photo)
Confidence with no makeup grabs the guys for sure in my group of friends.
Also try not to compare yourself with other woman, it's not attractive.
Almost every single pretty girl that I've met, once I got beyond her looks, all I found was an empty vessel with no real personality. Sometimes I desperately tried to find something, almost wishing it was there, but there was nothing.
I know a pretty Asian girl right now, lovely looking, cute as hell... but talking to her. Have you any idea how tough it was to get a decent conversation going? She wants to talk about her favorite pen, or her new trainers...
So let me ask you this, are you and your pretty attractive friends interesting?
"Every single pretty girl I've met had a empty vessel with no personality" lmao being pretty or ugly has nothing to do with having a good personality and everyone has a personality (whether a good one or a bad one)
@Distants he said no "real" personality.
@Distants The point is that girls who focus primarily on their looks neglect developing an interesting personality that is attractive to guys, or men for that matter.
Ok based on attraction, maybe y'all aren't attractive to the guys you typically are around... like I personally think that myself and most of my friends are pretty attractive but if I ask some guys they completely disagree and do not find us attractive at all... so the whole if y'all are pretty or not just really depends- but I'm sure you guys are, I've never really seen a girl who is really bad looking... also with the down to earth personalities I see the same thing where I am so that's really annoying and I can't figure it out either... but like I said, it's really subjective so what one person thinks is gorgeous and down to earth another might think is hideous and high maintenance...
Your really pretty!
@zxcded thank you!! :)))
I think the fact that you are calling other girls less "quality" plays a huge role in why you are single. Sounds like you have either an inflated ego, too high of standards, or a combination of the two.
^ This
I agreee !
OMG yes
lol thanks ladies 😊
doesn't need to be ladies!
is it not possible that a girl is just selfconfident and knows herself well? or that the same traits would be interpreted in men as confidence and dominance?
probably she is just straight here on this app but in real life not at all comparing...
what do you think?
@philipph she is saying that married woman are less attractive and she sees herself as being a higher quality of woman.
@goodwifie
so you would appreciate more respect and eye-level-talk?
Chances are you're not as pretty or "down to earth" as you think you are. Or you're raging bitches.
It usually can be boiled down to one of several things.
1) Unattractive/ugly. This includes fat, unless you can find one of those sickos that likes fat women or a complete simp that will settle for a fat girl since it's all he believes he can get.
2) Other man's/men's kids.
3) Entitlement attitude.
4) Generally unpleasant to be around for any length of time. A bitch.
And yes, it's basically that simple.
Because guys dont really care about how you look in the long run. We might see a girl and be like "daaammnnn" but she won't be the girl we fall for. Usually the girls men pick are those who are good people, nice, funny, (nerds are a huge turn on) etc. Im not saying you and your friends are bad people but if you are as attractive as you state then a guy might be turned off by that (not sexually) and won't originally want a relationship. I have multiple female friends with that exact problem. What they do is try to show of their more geeky and stupid sides instead of their attractive exterior.
Yeah, I've also noticed this too 😅. The main issue can be that the men are just worried about rejection and don't think you'd want to date them. That's probably 90% of the reason why. Maybe even 100%.
I've been asking the same question for long. Some guys won't understand your question at all. I am the same type of women as yourself, and I have been single for most of my life, with very few dates here and there. I have seen far less attractive girls with handsome guys, and this defies logic, lol.
it's because to a certain extent, looks dont matter. Does she have to be pleasing yeah. for example, if she has a eyepatch, a wooden leg and a hook for a hand (a pirate) then its out of the question. If she has a decent face, nice hair, ok body etc.. and a great personality then things will be ok for her. A pretty girl who only thinks in looks and abandons her personality gets kind of... boring.
@FreedomByChoice I agree. I never exclude personality, but how are these guys-many of whom are super attractive-get attracted to a woman who is not attractive by all standards? I mean in the first place: how can a guy know she has a
' good personality'?
well Im really attractive (or most people will tell me) yet I dont have a girlfriend. It has more to do with how they put themselves out there. How approachable they look which again, goes to your personality or something at first glance that makes you seem like you have negative traits. Sometimes we have a hunch of who is a good person and who isn't. For example, who is more friendly at first glance, The lady reading a book with a smile on her face at the park (not in the creepy way) or a lady on her phone with the resting b! tch face? or maybe, just maybe your standard of what you find attractive is not their preference
@FreedomByChoice yeah, it makes sense. But of course it's coincidence too: it depends on how the guy (in the park for instance) would see the woman with the book.
Maybe they want to be. Maybe they don't think they're pretty. Maybe people assume you're not available because you don't put yourself out there.
Though tbqh, I was literally on a date and got approached by an idiot who wouldn't leave me alone. So.
a couple of things, one probably guys dont want to be competing with other guys to stay with you. for example thinking that you will eventually find someone better than them. 2 you guys do not see each other like other people do. i am often told i look pissed off all the time, when i am just deep in thought. 3 im not trying to be mean just saying things i often notice about attractive women, you guys probably really dont have a good personality. again not trying to be mean just answering a question. sorry if i offended anybody
TRUTH BE TOLD lol 🤣
OK here are the points:-
1. Some guys think you already have boyfriend.
2. Other guys think you are egoists and would reject them.
3. you are lesbians.
4. Some guys don't like your personality.
5. Some guys are just shy.
6. Some guys are gay
7. Some guys think you are (beauty is in the eye of the beholder) ugly.
8. Some guys like you but try to play mind games with you and nothing actually proceeds even it has potential.
9. Some guys feel that you don't deserve them.
This is what I can think of now.
1. High Expectations simply because you think of urself as "better" than other girls.
2. Looks aren't everything. Maybe those girls take efforts for guys and u all just wait there for the guys to text/call/etc first.
3. Being Single is a choice. You want someone who looks cute and friendzone everyone who doesn't, this means u r directly removing 90% guys from ur targeted interest and choosing to stay single 9/10 times unknowingly.
Hope, after reading this, u will give ur "friendzoned" friend a chance. Especially the Not Cute one.
Lmao I'm crying laughing. You just said "are all pretty attractive" and "down to earth" in the same sentence. Exactly why your single. Shut up.
Couple of possibilities:
1. You're not as pretty as you think you are
2. You're not as "Down to earth" as you think you are.
and what do you mean less "quality"? looks?
This x1,000,000
boom yeah 👏
The facts state most guys won't confront a beautiful girl solely because they say in their minds there's no way she's single... Epically if you and your friends are in groups a lot in public that also hinders a guy from wanting to come up to you. Girls that aren't attractive doesn't mean they don't have a good personality or that they don't deserve a boyfriend. My motto is looks fade but food doesn't.