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My ex and I went through a lot of fights. Regardless, we managed to make it work because of our strong emotions. Just before our breakup, it reached a point to where he was calling me names and bringing up my family, basically no respect left on his part & coming at me for little things like me saying “thanks” instead of “thank you.” I blew up on him eventually & mentally checked out. 1 day we got into a fight and he said he’d block me (something he does when he’s mad). I then accepted some requests from guys- i was really mad-on social media (didn’t message them and deleted them later. He found out and hell broke and also found platonic msgs between a male friend I’ve known for 5 years. Those msgs included funny memes. I stopped being friends w/ this guy for him. He asked to check my phone, I didn’t agree because he should trust me & wouldn’t want him to think it’s ok to check my phone whenever he feels the need in the future. We ended up breaking up. We kinda kept in touch though to reconcile. Weeks turned into months leading up to us meeting in person. As we were chatting, he told me his expectations which included he checks my phone, I agreed. Then he asks to see my male followers to ask how I know them. I told him some are friends (since HS) and he didn’t like that. He said he doesn’t like his girlfriend to have male friends & I should take off whoever he doesn’t like. I had a reaction and didn’t let him check my phone so ofc he had major issues. We never got back together but now we’re surfacing the relationship again he told me of the same expectations. I’m really conflicted and don’t know if getting back with given expectations are normal or not. Is getting back a good idea?

So I have made a question about this before but I'll say it again. My boyfriend has been telling me for the past month that he is 100% going to come to my birthday celebration, I even told him when we would be doing it a couple times. So the week or so leading up to it he told me he was going to talk to his boss.

So time had passed and I wasn't sure what was going on with it, so then my boyfriend told me he asked his boss "since he just found out the finalized plan last minute for (the day we will be celebrating my birthday celebration which was said a month prior) and it was after he got his schedule and it didn't seem promising but he made me seem like he was still coming but not at the same time.

Anyways still not 100% sure what was happening and told me at the time he can't come, he eventually told me he couldn't come. I got upset because he was telling me for quite some time he was coming and knew the day, on top of not knowing what was going on and not realizing he was trying. In my mind I just think if you were to try you'd ask and confirm with me and try to book it off in advanced.

So I told him what he did was very shitty and not to tell someone you're coming when it didn't seem like he wanted to come or trying and that I was pissed. He felt like I was being "ungrateful" which wasn't the case at all because I understand that his work schedule is all over the place, so if he couldn't come i would understand and if he tried I appreciate it but the fact that he told me he was really was annoying. Also the "true colors" comment was me expressing my frustration.

Last summer my i told my guy friend I liked him, because i thought he liked me back (he told me i was fit, pretty, had nice eyes, and "not like other girls"). I did it over text, but he said he wasn't going to stick around for college, and said he didn't want anything too serious. A couple of weeks later, we hung out in person, and even put his arm around my shoulder on a roller coaster. Then while he was driving me back to my house, he wanted to talk about us, and he said "I'm going to ask you right now. Do you like me?" I told him I never liked him and that I was just confused, because I thought that if I admitted that I like him in person he would just reject me again. He said "Yeah, I guess I see you as just a friend, and I didn't want you to think I was leading you on." We didn't speak for months after that. I reached out to his friend a while ago, and even his friend thought that we had something going on. Is it possible that that night in the car, he had regretted rejecting me? Is it possible that he liked me back but was afraid of commitment?