I know how crazy this sounds and I've already had his mother on my chance but she doesn't understand and he still deserves to be happy like anyone else.
I've grown up on the same street as this guy and we've always been friendly. I'm a massive chat a box so I'll talk to anyone. I think he liked but I didn't care about his autism and would still just talk to him as normal. a lot of the other kids would treat him like a freak but we were really close growing up and I was the only kid on the street that understood him.
When we were 16 we went to the cinemas together and he kissed me. I didn't know how to react and didn't tell anyone. After that when I'd come over he'd hug me and pick me flowers I thought it was super sweet. He signed to me but he loved me and but I was his only ture friend.
His mother noticed his behaviour around me and told me to stop coming over and told me I was leading him on and but a boy like him can't have a normal life with a normal girlfriend. I was really scared and she made me feel really ashamed but I likes him too. I stopped coming over and he thought I'd fallen out with him.
I moved on and found another guy. He wasn't a very nice guy and abused me mentally and physically. Once time we had a fight outside my parents house and my now ex started yelling at me and pulling my hair before I knew it this other guy came out of nowhere and punched him and gave him a nose bleed.
His family got angry at me again over this and blamed me because he got I'm trouble but the police let him off because he was obviously protecting me.
People treat him like he's not capable and but he's retarded but he's just a extremely sweet, kind men from what I've seen. He's actually extremely smart but his mother won't allow him to have a normal life.
He wrote me a letter asking why I won't give him a chance but his mother won't tell him its because of her
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I meannn I get what you're saying but if you do get with him. Be prepared to get a lot of weird looks and be judged everywhere you go.
Cause it'll happen. But I guess as long as you're happy just tell his mom that you genuinely do care about him and how he makes you feel. But also if it doesn't work out... ooooooooo you're gonna not only break that man's heart into a million pieces but you're gonna get soo much heat from his mom🤔😂 the potential problem I'm seeing is, let's say you do get with him right. And whatever reason down the road you don't have the feelings. Would you be willing to leave or just stay in that relationship so you don't break his heart. Then are you really happy 🤔
But then again maybe it won't happen and you will be happy. But whether you wanna admit it or not, it wouldn't be a typical relationship
If you truly do care about him and not just thinking about getting with him because he says nice things and is sweet then fuck it I guess go for it. But befit you do. Ask yourself if it's true feelings that you have and not just you comparing your previous relationship to him cause most guys I would think aren't abusive
That's what I'm scared of he takes rejection badly and doesn't really understand when people are upset. He's just permanently positive and wants everyone to match that energy and if not it really upsets him like when my ex hurt me he couldn't control his emotions and hit him
If it doesn't work out I don't want to break his heart but I feel like we can both look after each other and he's my best friend
See and that's what I'm saying, even if you guys are best friends, you guys don't know if it'll workout. And let's say it doesn't, do you think his mom, who already don't trust you, do you think she'll let you around him?🤔
If it didn't work out, do you think you would be able to keep that friendship?🤔 honestly, if I was in control of what you did, like it was the mu fuckin Sims, I would say no don't date him. Because there's a lot of risk in it. But at the same time if it does work out then you are missing out on being happy. But also, you could say the same for ever relationship ever. I'm just saying risking the friendship may not be worth it. But as I said, if you're really happy with him and want to be with him then fuck it everyone's gotta take risks in their life sooner or later. But if it doesn't work outttt and you lode your best friend and he and his mom hates yo ass... can't say it's my faulttt
Thank you I think I need to talk it out with him and tell him all my concerns.
Firstly, your friend seems like a nice person and I believe he would make a great partner for someone he has known for a while.
I dated an autistic guy for a year but he ended it by cheating on me. Your guy seems like a gem. And since you've known each other since childhood, I have a feeling it might work out.
One of the important things you'll need to have is patience, because there will be a lot of days when you'll need to sit him down and explain things that aren't very obvious to him. I put a lot of energy into my relationship and I don't regret it.
Just know what you're getting into and be honest with him at all times. I wish you all the best.