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In my scenario, my ex broke up with me after 3 years and is asking me where do we stand. We reached out on a call after one week of no contact. I'm too angry to decide because she went on tinder few days after and kissed a guy which she says she feels uncomfortable. I was disgusted and she says I gave her reason to do that because of emotional abuse or disregard her emotions in the relationship which I'm confident I listen fully and act like a psychologist. Every person recommends I should be a pyschologist of my good advice and listening. However my ex thinks I'm the worst for advice and I should be upset and react exaggeratively about a situation with her whereas I'm calm and optimistic person. I am angry at of our infrequent sex so sometimes I get a bit moody to be honest which wouldn't anybody if constantly rejected? Anyway I am considering coming back and fix everything but she is making everything my fault. But once we talked, she gave me 30+ reasons not a few why I'm horrible person and why she's hurt. And when I try communicate she shuts me off "no excuse". She also considers I need to therapy for my past behaviour. I honestly haven't done anything bad, I'm just like every couple with few arguments and maybe listen 90%. She throws keywords like gaslighting etc. Do you think I'm bad person or she is or are we both messed up?