Hey, so I have this crazy ex boyfriend that abused me during our relationship. I broke up with him nearly 11 months ago. I blocked his number and I have blocked him from all social media but about 5 months ago, he somehow found my email and has been messaging me on there ever since November 2020. I been ignoring him The best that I can but no matter how much I ignore his stupid emails, he just constantly talks to me.
Now I’m going to be honest, last night he texted me off of a fake number saying that he had a heart problem and some other made up bullshit and that text message really really pissed me the fuck off. I don’t know why I thought responding would be a good idea, it was dumb I know but last night, I emailed him back and basically just insulted him. I think I said something along the lines like “I know where you live, don’t forget that.” And then he asked me if I was going to go there to cause harm and I told him no and that he wasn’t even worth any of my time.
I think last night I had deleted my email because I was tired of him emailing me and even tho it’s in my spam I was just tired of seeing the shit. Yesterday I think I said one thing like “Stop fucking with me, I’ll slit your throat.” I didn’t go into details. I just said that one thing Which yes I shouldn’t have said but I just said it hoping he would leave me alone and then I told him to leave me alone and to stop fucking with me. I blocked him number again, then just like 25 minutes ago he texted me making more threats.
I need help? I have already called the cops but I’m scared I could get in trouble too? My ex keeps harassing me and he sent me this?
What can you do to completely cut him out of your life?
Might be worth changing your email address and making other changes in your life. Know you shouldn't have to. But honestly, ridding yourself in whatever way possible of this fruitloop is probably worth every single sacrifice.
Obviously responding and threatening isn't helping, and I'm not sure on the legality of it. But I had this issue before happen to me and the impression I got was that the police look at patterns of behaviour and also the degree of perceived risk. I don't think you could be perceived to be a risk to him, unless I'm missing something? You were exasperated for their (presumed) lack of help. Where as this guy has been stalking you for 11 months. You need to do something decisive here to get this sorted.
And yes, from the way this guy writes, I'd be surprised if this guy's IQ extends to over 80. Not to make you feel bad, but I'm always shocked by women's dating choices.
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I’m shocked myself that I even dated him and him acting like this is really making me regret my regret my decision. I have contacted the police before and they were completely useless and they told me that “He’s not doing anything wrong. He’s just upset. We can’t do anything ma’am because your apartment is private property.” I don’t live at that apartment complex anymore but I did make an entire new email last night but I feel useless
Which country are you in? I'm fairly sure threatening to kill someone is a criminal offense. It's their responsibility to deal with it. Brush up on the law, escalate it if needs be, get legal advice. In short, kick up a stink. You can't rest as it's a matter of grave importance. Empower yourself.
Do you have a record of the 11 months of abuse and his death threats?
I know you're concerned about how you reciprocated but I'm fairly sure they also take into consideration, as I say, patterns and persistence, and also, how realistic threats are. I think there's a good case that yours weren't realistic threats and were a consequence of fear and being exhausted.
And my idiot was a colleague's fiance. The guy was a jealous idiot, but thankfully, seemingly only drunk. I give him the benefit of the doubt since he was apparently apologetic and realised the errors of his ways. I would have reported it if the abuse continued.
I mean, this is one of those, damned if you do, damned if you don't, type situations. Since it may just rile him up more. You have to assess what is right for your circumstances.
By the way, I called 311 and filed a police report on him. I also gave them his address so I have hope that will finally leave him alone. The guy sounds delusional. Today he called me and I answered and I asked him “what do you want.” And he started ranting about utter nonsense about how he still cares about me and how he has cancer and respiratory disease. I cursed him tf out and told him that he was a pathetic bitch and then I told him that he needs to leave me alone and I basically told him to fuck off and then I blocked that number as well. I’m on my way rn to changing my cell number. He also said if I called the cops on him and have him arrest I would be making matters worse and I told him that continuing to contact me is making it worse for him.
Find the local magistrate where you live. Go out to them and file harassment against him also keep any form of communication from him. They will send a summons to him on grounds of harassment by communications. If found guilty he could face fines and 3-6 months in jail most likely he will plead guilty and get off with paying on a fine unless he wants a hearing then he would need to contact an attorney to represent him in court but like I say keep any form of communication he has that pertains to harassment where you live the County the court house might help you to find where you file harassment charges against a citizen who keeps harassing you
sounds to me like he is bluffing, real talk if he had that much power he wouldn't feel the nees to threaten, not to mention he is moving in such a stupid way, telling someone before he does it, he's either bluffing and cappin through his teeth or he is a very stupid criminal that would eventually end up dead or locked up, he's not moving smart thats for sure
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I think he’s just trying to scare me too. The guy doesn’t even have a car and none of what he even emails me have anything to do with me. I’m just getting tired of him fucking with me and I feel like the cops are being too lenient about the whole situation. I’m getting my number changed. I’ve already changed my email address.
I already called 311 and I have a case against him. I gave him his address and everything and I curse him out real good and block that number too. Now I am on my way to getting a new phone number so everything will be over with.
Second he threatened to have someone kill you. Thats absolutely a crime. At the very least you can get a restraining order.
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I did call and I made a case. I also notified my parents and my sister about the issue. I have tried and tried again for all these months for him to leave me alone. I’ve been blocking and ignoring but I think I said I’ll slit his throat one time last night and he replied but I deleted the messages but I never did threatened to kill him. He has been harassing me for all this time and has also came to my job too. I just wonder if I will get in trouble because I said that I would slit his throat…
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