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PROs
- He protects me
- He never shouted at me (I'm the one that shouts and sometimes he talks back but never shouting)
- He was never ever aggressive towards me never hit me and stuff
- He remembers birthdays anniversaries and so on
- He respects my family
- He always tells me where he goes and with who, sometimes he even asks me if he can
- He cares what I think when it comes to decision making
- He cooks when i'm tired and also cleans (not all the time though)
- He surprises me for Vday and Bday
- he tells me he loves me and that he is in love with me
- he kisses me in front of the whole world
- He lets people know that i'm his woman
- He never cheated on me and he lets me use his phone
- He works hard and provides for us. (we both work but he has a higher income and always makes sure that I have everything).
CONs
- He hangs out with his friends and in some cases he even gives them priority (I get pissed and let him know)
- He loves to drink, but he never lost control he actually gets happy, and he does not drink at home unless we have a date night with a glass of wine ( i constantly remind him and even tell him that he is becoming an alcoholic but i know for a fact that he is not becoming one because he always drinks in the evenings never in the morning).
- Sometimes like at least once a month he comes late at home, like 3 -4 am in the morning (I HATE IT) but he always prooves to me where he was and with whom.
- Sex became a one in every 1.5 / 2 weeks thing (we both work a lot especially him + saturdays BUT STILL) he also expects ME TO START IT ugh
- He sometimes hides bad news from me
- Sometimes he just doesn't seem to understand or listen to me
- Sometimes he is narcissistic
- He sleeps A LOT, especially on weekends
- He rarely organizes something for us, it's always me that does it
- In the morning is he is EXTRA GRUMPY and he doesn't talk at all, he even is pissed at times

I have this close guy friend who I know is attracted to me by his body language and how he acts around me. But I feel interactions over text just give me mixed messages. He’s always had this flirty air with me, a year ago I started becoming sexually attracted to him but he had this like long distance girlfriend so I left it alone. Fast forward they broke up (he didn’t seem to have any chemistry with her when they met in person at all) and a few months ago those feelings resurfaced into more.

I feel he generally has a flirty personality in general but on the flip side he’s like really shy too so idek. Plus I’m close friends with him and haven’t really seen any signs of fuckboy with him.

Last week I subtly shoot my shot and offer to see a movie with him, but he had to cancel the night before because he had a film shoot. We’re both film people, it happens, no biggie we were just gonna do it another time. So I hit him up like an hour ago asking if he wants to go again, he hits me back right away with a day and everything and I start to look for showtimes (not available yet for that day I’ll just wait a couple days).

But then he suddenly is like “Do you wanna see if anyone else in the group wants to come?” (We have a large group chat with friends for certain hangouts). This is where I get a little thrown off because it was always gonna be a one on one thing whether platonic or not. And now he’s like wanting to bring people?

I shrug it off and say people probably already saw it and won’t be available on a weekday cuz everyone had already established that they work during the week and it’s on a Tuesday. He’s still like insisting that I mention it and whoever can make it makes it. I just didn’t respond cuz I really don’t want to coordinate a simple movie hangout with 13 people, AND I just want to hangout just the two of us like initially planned. He didn’t take to the chat himself or anything he just asked me if I wanted to bring more people.

I made a new best friend this week and I feel like I’m becoming the kind and caring person I was as a young child, my social isolation turned me into a wrathful misanthrope in my early to mid 20s and I thought religion was the only thing I needed but I find my best friend has helped me a lot, I’ve become far nicer than I was before I met her and I feel like my career has improved too.