That's tough.
Definitely need to take some time to yourself to get your head clear and emotions right. So that when you talk to him again you're in a place to handle it well without it going a direction you don't want.
If it were me in your shoes I'd have several emotions going through me all at once, so I'd imagine I'd have to calm those down and release them.
Best friends since diapers is a big deal. At the same time you have to decide what your relationships/friendships looks like. What he did is not okay.
Even if you were gay he broke a serious boundary and broke your trust in that moment. You didn't get to have a say in what happened and that's wrong.
If I were to have a conversation with a friend about that the main things I would say in the conversation is 1. That wasn't okay and you crossed a boundary. Holding me down and doing something like that was immaculating. I didn't even know how to act because of the shock
2. You have to understand I'm not gay. I accept that you are. You're still my best friend and I want good things for you. But you also need to accept that I'm not gay and that can't happen again
3. We're still friends and I don't want things to be weird between us. I might need some time to myself this week to sort through the weird feelings, but let's chill soon
Also keep in mind. Whatever you are feeling is okay to feel. If you're mad be mad. If you're sad be sad. Just let yourself feel those emotions and let them out so you don't hold onto them.
Because holding onto the emotions will harm you more than anything. Don't judge yourself or what you're feeling. Just allow it to happen
He violated your trust because you wouldn't have been wrestling with him if you knew he was a thirsty gay guy, scheming to get into your shorts.
A guy tried similar on me when I was in High School. I pushed him away and said NO. He backed off and that was the end of it. He never tried anything again. If an adult tried that later in my life they would have gotten a more physical reaction - that they wouldn't like.
If you didn't clearly show him you're not into what he's offering you're sending mixed signals. You laughing was NOT a clear message. He's going to try what he did again.. or go for way more.
You better establish clear boundaries like telling him not to ever go there again or even say he's going to get punched next time. And before all the 'gays are always right' crowd try to attack me, if a man forced a kiss on a woman out of nowhere, when she never showed any romantic interest in him at all you would be telling her to kick him in the nuts and crying for him to lose his job/get locked up and whatnot.
Yes, you can block people out of your life. It's pretty simple, actually. You just stop talking to them. Sometimes by stopping the communication you also make it clear to the other person how serious the issue is. Then you can re-start later or not at all. Up to you.
Maybe figure out how you feel first. Sometimes that's just as confusing. Are you mad? Upset? Feel taken advantage of? Happy? Figure out your feelings first so they are in control when you do talk to him. Then you won't explode or anything.
Talk to him. Is he gay? Was this something that just happened? How is he feeling? Is he okay?
If it was on purpose redirect your feelings towards him. He's your friend. Maybe like a brother. You support him but you can't reciprocate the feelings.
I've had many friend kiss me. I've even had a 3some with my best girl friend. Didn't realize she had feelings for me. Didn't realize I made some friends think there could be more. Sometimes its an accident. Other times it was something you may have portrayed. Either way I hope it works out for you both! It will take time but I don't see why you can't be okay again.
I felt the same way a few months ago when a close girlfriend wanted me to kiss her or she tried to kiss me. I did the same by laughing it off the awkwardness. I still have a lot of love for her but I did felt awk for a while. I think you might just need to give yourself some space and time before you are ready to give him a talk about it. You can tell him how much your friendship means to you and you still have bro love for him, but not romantically… and maybe you guys can have an open discussion of his sexuality and how you guys wanna move forward from it.
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Men can be sexually harassed. If he meant it sexually, he crossed a major line by doing it with you pinned. You seem afraid to confront him, and probably people in general. Its very awkward and I've been in situations like that myself. You have to be honest with yourself first, then you need to be honest with him. Sometimes, guys joke around like that. But gays tend to test waters with other men by innuendos or physical actions that can be played off as something else. Trust your gut over anything else. And yes, you are allowed to cut him out of your life if need be no matter how long youve known someone. If you ask him, leave it up in the air as to whether you're gay/interested or not, otherwise if he's testing the waters he will lie. Gay men who sexually harass other men are the same as straight men who harass women. Very bad news, and it can get worse, especially if he can out wrestle you. No matter how nice you think he is, people can hide their true colors for decades. I've seen Icymike jokingly kiss a guy on one of his streetbeefs fights (youtube him), but i think this wasn't that, as you are uncertain. It would be obvious if he was joking. If you were a girl and a guy friend pinned you down and kissed you without your consent how would you feel? Its the same. Just a different kind of awkward. Getting sexually harassed does not make you less of a man. And its ok to punch him gay or straight if he crossed your boundary. Good luck and be strong.
It think it's fine, the world isn't a black and white, nor straight or gay anymore. We can have all sorts of attraction. Like pansexuals can be attracted to anyone regardless of gender identity, and you can be Demi where you need a deep bond to even trigger sexual feelings with any orientation.
I have a best friend where we actually joked about sleeping with each other. I think he'd might be fine with it actually, probably more so in a 3some. Never a button we pushed because of the friendship and because we were always dating women.
Damn, these comments are hilarious. Anyway, are you sure you're straight? Maybe you're bisexual? because if you were straight, you'd have either kicked him in the balls or punched him or at least did something. You didn't do anything at all? If it was by accident, that's fine, you don't have to worry about your bsf having feelings for you. What's his sexual orientation? Is he straight? Bisexual? Gay? If he's either gay or bi then are you sure that he's attracted to you? Were there any "signs"?
lol, but maybe you didn't do anything cuz you were shocked? I think its because of that. Anyway, I'd recommend you talk to him about this, communication is always good yk? and it'll help you solve your confusion
I am so confused. How and when did he have an opportunity to kiss you? What made him think that was an ok thing to do? He must have feelings for you. You need to talk with him and let him know that you are not attracted to men and that you don't see him as anything more than your closest friend.
My guess would be that the one dude kissed him while he was busy pegging him. PINNING. I meant pinning.
Sounds like a messy case of faggotry I'm afraid.
Relationships wax and wane as we grow older. I guarantee you, that fluctuations in relationships are just as predictable as death and taxes. That being said, your friend must have known you were heterosexual, right? Because of your lackidaisical response, you HAVE to ask yourself if your gay. If you weren' t, then your friend would have immediately been the focus of your wrath. But now he thinks he has the green light. You have a very difficult road ahead. Good luck
I think you should talk to him. Tell him where you stand with him. If you guys are close friends make that clear.
Tell him what are your limits in terms of what's comfortable for you.
Ask him whether he's confused about what this friendship means to him, and if he is maybe its be a good idea to take some time apart, so that he can clear up his thoughts and respect your choices.
Just be honest that you are not sexually attracted to men (if you aren’t) or that because of how long you have been friends, you don’t have those kinds of feelings for him. Tell him you value him as a friend and support his pursuit of any partner who makes him happy.
You need to take some time to yourself & reflect on it. Might I suggest a hike by yourself so you can think about what transpired & react however you need to react without witnesses, or at least not witnesses who know you?
As you've said, he is your best friend since forever, it might do you some good, too, to talk to him once you take the time to yourself.
Best of luck to you hun!
I think he himself is gay, the vast majority of straight men would have reacted violently
@Julielamar2 not every man is going to respond that way, regardless of their sexuality. Especially if it's their best friend.
@Goatmeal she has a point tho, I think if the guy was straight he would at least say "what the hell are you doing" to let him know it's not acceptable... He jus say there n took it like a shy girl as if he wanted more... I don't know any masculine men that would behave like that...
If it was me I would Tell him he's broken boundaries and go away no longer friends. Too awkward and gross, I had a friend from work older than me he got a twin room to save money when we went exploring different parts of the country, I changed in bathroom but he got changed in room with me in it then started tickerling me.. stuff that, I stopped being around him. I know some females are annoying, but I'm a ladieesss man because of the nice ones.
He'll do it again if you don't tell him point blank to stop. And he may do it again anyways. And sorry but if he doesn't listen the 1st time you're gonna have to either cut him off or learn to like it.
Also to the people saying he's gay because he didn't become violent: he clearly stated he was pinned down. And I don't think you'd say a woman wanted it just because she didn't scream, so don't say a man wanted it just because he didn't try to hurt his best friend. Holy cow that's stupid.
Be honest, tell him that you love him, but not in that way. That you like women, you can support his desicion in his sexual orientations, but not by being his love partner.
I dunno. Maybe you are a little bisexual because a straight man would have punched him right in the mouth and then kicked him in the balls. I mean if a girl kissed me I would slap her.
I don’t know of any straight man who wouldn’t recoil and hit the other guy with a hard right on the chin if someone tried that w/o consent. Best friend or not that’s messed up. I would be pissed.
No offense man but I think you are confused about your sexuality. If it bothers you that much seek counseling.
i would sit and have a conversation with him. i wouldn't block him outta your life unless he doesn't take you aren't interested as an answer. just explain why you laughed it off and what you were feeling, hear him out as well.
If you value your friendship with him, I would just politely ask him not to do that again, you aren't into that lifestyle & ask when he experienced this transition in lifestyles (if you are curious).
The way it happened implies that some romantic/sexual chemistry has been going on between the two of you. Observe how he acts for a while and if it happens again confront him about his feelings. At first it will be awkward for sure, but many friends of mine have kissed/have had sex together and are still in great terms. You should not worry about that. If no feelings were involved ( only sexual attraction) you will both move on quickl.
I don't think you need to block him out of your life, just tell him you aren't interested in him that way and would like your friendship to remain as it was
Best thing to do: wash your mouth with soap and eat some raw chili peppers.
Next: check, if your wallet is still there.
Next: look around for NEW friends :)
If you liked the kiss the ball is in your court & you’ll figure out what to do & if you didn’t like it be open & honest with your friend & tell him.
It sounds like he was trying to win at wrestling by any means possible. That’s kind of brilliant on his part. Are you upset he kissed you or just upset that he beat you at wrestling? Because I could understand why you’d be mad about both.
1. Blocking him isn't supposed to be an option.
2. No, of course you can't get back to normal, but you can be civil about it, both of you. He does owe you an apology.
I say it’s good to continue being friends but Probly say to him “ I’m not gay, but let’s just keep this between you and me ONLY “
I wouldn't worry about it if it was a one time thing. Just be firm in saying to him to not do it again if you are straight.
He's not your friend anymore. He wants to be butt pirates now. Ditch him and find better friends.
Omg my fag sexual fantasy coame true. Sorry this is sooo cute. It sounds like a wattpad story that i read when i was in the middle school
I love Wattpad!
girls Aka minors, not women :)
Many minors do that. When we grow up we dont us wattpad Google yaoi :). Why can't women have sexual fantasy sbout gays? You also have lesbian fantasy
Just fuck off idiot. You are fucked up
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? @sensible27 i was not serious man
And there are a few good books on there. Many books have been turned into movies
@sensible27 I wish the asker the best but he seems that he dont mind it being kissed by a guy.
I am sorry for offending anyone
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You need to talk to him and make it clear he can't do that again
looks like you're gana have to find a new best friend. even if you don't have a problem with what he did there is no way he can accept friendship. it will get weird
Well, you should have beat the shit out of him. But since you got pinned by the fag, I'm guessing you can't. Take a bat to his knee, then tell him to fuck off from your life.
I'd just let it go. As you said you've been friends forever why should that change.
Maybe you are gay, nothing wrong with that but a really straight man would react badly
Looks like you're going to have to just keep laughing it off. You'll have to laugh pretty hard to hide the fact you're not ok with it while he's fucking you in the ass. So you may as well just give in and try to enjoy it.
He might have kissed you as a joke to see how you’d react or he may be curious as what it is like to experiment with certain things.
LMAO that’s awkward, you should tell him that you feel for him as a best friend but nothing more
If you're not into that sort of thing, then you're going to have to tell him not to do it.
Don't know 🤷♂️. I've stopped hanging out with guys since it mostly is done by homos anyhow. Girls too - grouping's a waste of time.
Grab a base ball bat and beat him with it until he gets it through his sick fucked up Homosexual's mind that it's not okay to kiss other guys.
You're not gay, you don't want it, make it clear and if you're lucky this will be forgotten soon and you can keep your friend.
Come on man. Suck his dick a little. Who knows maybe it feels like eating a chewy hotdog
Tell him that you liked it or didn't like it. Then go from there. What else could you do?
Tell him to fuck off you're not a fag.
Do we really need to see disgusting pictures of two faggots kissing here?
Post a pic of two hot girls kissing instead! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Comments are both brutal and hilarious. I laughed so much when he was called a thirsty gay 🤣🤣🤣🤣
lol, u ghey nao.
Probably should look into why he did that.
It feels like the story needs more info. How did this even happen? And how did you react?
You can still be friends but let him know how you feel and that you’re not gay
He’s got a disorder. Help him get a treatment.
A male attracted to another male is unnatural.
You probably better rinse with scope, you dont know what he was sucking on earlier...
I've been kissed once too
When when when
Two to three years back by a player friend. Wanted to kiss me on cheek but it turned on the jaw.
Twas a girl
Sounds kind of gay dude
I would simply tell him that I don't like men.
"Sorry dude... I'm not gay."
How? I think you should update this
Men still wrestle past childhood?
That's your question?
Your gay now since you kissed a guy bud.
I told her, let's do more
stay away from that GAY
No pinning down. No more wrestling.
Don't speak to him again and ignore him
I think you’re trolling LMAO
That picture should be banned, it's unacceptable
You have homophobia and friendphobia?
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