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I have an Anxious Preocuppied Attachment style and he is a fearful avoidant, both 28. We had been together for 3 years before he broke up with me almost a month ago while celebrating our anniversary / my birthday. The month prior, he had moved to a new city due to being transferred at his job, so new workplace as well. His company gave him 2 weeks to move his whole life over there and he had to do the move while still going to work so he was highly stressed. The city is about 1.5hrs away by train from where I am (and he also was) and I have plans to go there next year for work, so we were thinking of going there together. So a long distance relationship would have been temporary and we would have seen each other once a month in person. He reassured me that everything would be okay and that we would absolutely make it work.

When he came back to our city a week after moving/starting his new job (for the celebration), he looked very stressed. His work week was hectic and he’d get home at around 9pm every day and go straight to sleep (about one message a day). At the hotel, where we were celebrated, he seemed to be in a terrible mood so I asked him what was wrong a bunch of times and also mentioned our future (moving in together eventually, which we’ve talked about before) and he said he didn’t know and couldn’t give me the answer that I wanted. He then came up with a bunch of excuses about needing to focus on himself and his career and not having the bandwidth to be in a relationship anymore. That he couldn’t cherish me. There was no changing his mind. I left the hotel and went back home.

The next day I called to make up and talk again but he was firm in his decision so we each apologized and thanked each other and that was it. He deleted me from IG and hasn’t reached out since. I have been in NC. I’m extremely hurt and am wondering if this is temporary or permanent? He broke up with me once before but came back after 20 mins apologizing. What should I do?

for some context:

This has been an issue since before the wildfires. The tourism industry does not directly help anybody of Native Hawaiian descent.
Some points to be made are that
1) some tourists disrespect the environment.

the increase in tourism has resulted in problems such as overcrowding, littering, an overextension of our rescue and emergency resources & damage to the fragile ecosystem. some native Hawaiians may feel that tourists do not show enough respect for the environment.

2) disrespect for the locals.

many visitors act rudely and entitled on their “expensive vacation” towards locals which can be seen as blatant disrespect to the culture and the residents. they step on sacred burial grounds to get a better view of a sunset & steal the lava rocks when they leave. they take the wrong way on illegal hikes - putting local first responders in danger & wasting already strained resources by needing to get rescued. they spray non-reef safe aerosol sunscreen all over the beach.
*granted- this is not every tourist but its enough to the point where they no longer want visitors.

3) economic disparities

some native hawaiians believe that the tourism industry has benefited more than the locals themselves. more and more natives are getting priced out of their homes from foreign or out of state investors and corporations. i think it is a common misconception that tourists believe they are helping the economy by spending lots of money but in reality the profits go to those corporations and not the natives.

and i just want to conclude this by saying while tourism in itself is a prevalent industry all over the world, it’s important to recognize the impact it causes on certain communities. There are other options out there!!!