Me and my girlfriend had been in a relationship for 4 years, we both made each other so happy and really loved each other. We always kinda put off talking about the future partially because we didn’t know what we wanted because we were young. But as we starting talking about it more we realized we want different paths, she wanted to travel and try a bunch of different jobs and I thought it would be better to settle down near our families and both get steady jobs near by. Anyways at the beginning of the summer we had a talk where we started to realize this more and then we decided to push it off because we are young. We spent the summer in different cities because of school and although it wasn’t our first time long distance this one was substantially worse. We talked much less and neither of us put in as much effort as before. She just came back from summer 3 days ago and we had another talk, we talked for 3 hours trying to fully understand what we want, we gave ourselves a day to think it over and the next day I went back to her house and we mutually agreed we can’t move forwards together. We both cried a lot and it was clear neither of us wanted to break up. I genuinely had a feeling this might come and I tried to ease my mind by saying I would be okay without her but these past 2 days have been the hardest thing I’ve ever done, I constantly have the urge to text her and try and figure things out. I constantly have the feeling I need to cry and I rarely ever cry. She leaves back to school in 2 weeks and I don’t know what to do. My brain is telling me to leave it alone and try and move on, but my heart wants to run to her and try and figure things out. She also said she doesn’t want to stop talking to me as we were friends first, she said I should text her when I feel comfortable.
basically my two questions are,
Should I fight for her, or just try and move on?
and, how long should I wait before I text her?
