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The last time I “dated” someone I was 23, we were in a STR for about 3 months & it ended because to me it felt like settling. Since then, I’ve met up with men from dating apps on and off throughout the years. Maybe 1-3 were kind of sketchy, that was in my early twenties too but since then all the other ones were decent but I just didn’t feel them. And I think it was mutual, sometimes I’d hear back, sometimes I wouldn’t but it was known the feeling was reciprocated. I’m old let’s admit it, I’ve never been in love but intimacy scares me & I don’t really have much of a sex drive at all. Sometimes I have to ask myself if I like men because even though I know I do, I do not like any of these guys in the end. When we communicate on the app it seems fine but when I meet them in person I’m just so bleh towards them. They don’t catfish me, they just don’t live up to my expectations & I’ve learnt to not have any at this point in my life. I don’t like women sexually or romantically, I didn’t meet up with anyone in 2022 & today was the first time I met up with someone from
Hinge. Clearly was meh, should I just toss in the towel? Is it simply a case of just not meeting the ONE? Let me know if you have any follow up questions

For context he sent that first message after we met up yesterday, I liked it bc I didn’t know what to say since I wasn’t interested in meeting a 2nd time. He sent another message today & that was my reply. Final message is his reaction

The last time I “dated” someone I was 23, we were in a STR for about 3 months & it ended because to me it felt like settling. Since then, I’ve met up with men from dating apps on and off throughout the years. Maybe 1-3 were kind of sketchy, that was in my early twenties too but since then all the other ones were decent but I just didn’t feel them. And I think it was mutual, sometimes I’d hear back, sometimes I wouldn’t but it was known the feeling was reciprocated. I’m old let’s admit it, I’ve never been in love but intimacy scares me & I don’t really have much of a sex drive at all. Sometimes I have to ask myself if I like men because even though I know I do, I do not like any of these guys in the end. When we communicate on the app it seems fine but when I meet them in person I’m just so bleh towards them. They don’t catfish me, they just don’t live up to my expectations & I’ve learnt to not have any at this point in my life. I don’t like women sexually or romantically, I didn’t meet up with anyone in 2022 & today was the first time I met up with someone from
Hinge. Clearly was meh, should I just toss in the towel? Is it simply a case of just not meeting the ONE? Let me know if you have any follow up questions

29F, we have been speaking for maybe 2 weeks but haven’t spoken that much, in the sense maybe 1-2 replies a day. And I guess that is somewhat my fault, I only check the app in the evenings & that’s when I send msgs. He gave his # when I asked if he had social media & he doesn’t, that’s when I said I’d prefer to wait a bit longer before sharing my # & he seemed to understand. He asked if I’ve been to this local restaurant because they have great sushi & he thinks I’d like them, we confirmed the time earlier this week. It’s odd because I say I prefer hinge based off the conversations & guys I seemed to “attract” from the app but never actually met up with one in person. I feel like if I decide to meet him tomorrow, I’ll no longer have this higher opinion of the app. And while I know all the apps have good & bad, I’m still kind of wary. At the same time, my expectations of this guy are non existent, when he gave his number I did a quick search on him & no criminal record/no social media found. I just feel like I’m kind of used to speaking to the guy (s) a bit more on daily basis before meeting up, I asked if he wanted to do a call prior & he said he was fine either way.