I’ve been speaking to a guy for a few weeks. The conversation flows but at times I get a vibe he’s a bit moody or there’s a hidden red flag. Just a gut feeling that he’s not as nice as he appears. I’m doing a marathon for charity in memory of a loved one and I’m quite slow. It’s not terrible, but I’m getting better at speed.
I mainly weight lift but I started focusing on running mainly last month so I will seem slow. But it’s been improving, I feel less tired when between rests, time is improving and I’ve been increasing the mileage. I posted my time on Instagram and this guy messaged me saying “100 calories every 10 minutes”, I just said “yeah aha” because I dint know what else he expects me to say. I just got off the phone from my friend and saw he replied a few hours ago saying “can do that walking”. But not as a joke, just very blunt, I know think he’s got a bad side to him, my ex was abusive and that’s exactly how he spoke to me when he first started showing signs of his real nature. He also seemed annoyed at meeting me tomorrow, I picked a place that’s half way for both of us, I don’t know where he lives so I just based it from his town and so it was half way but he’s actually an extra 20 mins away, he got really blunt about it etc but I picked the cafe last week so he could have checked the route and said something.
I wanted to ask on here because I don’t know if I’m just being too cautious/self protective or he does sound off?
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'Just a gut feeling that he’s not as nice as he appears. '
Never ignore your gut...
'my ex was abusive and that’s exactly how he spoke to me when he first started showing signs of his real nature. '
You just said that's exactly how your ex used to speak to you. This is how you break the cycle and learn from your mistakes. Listen to your gut.
I don’t really mind the comment he made, might be a bit passive aggressive or he meant it as a joke but it didn’t come across well but I’ll let it slide. But the thing about him getting annoyed at the date location thing tho… you’re absolutely right, he could’ve said something beforehand.
He sounds like he is a prick.
Confirmed. He said to me “why are you being so negative” when I asked if he was joking or being serious and then proceeded to say it was “only a suggestion”. Such a classic gaslighting tactic. A suggestion wouldn’t be that blunt and random
@Magosmall06. I would pass on the date.
Always trust your gut instinct.
Thank you. Will go and see my friends instead