Search Results: the guy who truly cares

The whole thing is a filtering system. If you're dating someone, whether for a month or a year; if you feel truly comfortable and the girl mirrors just as much as interest.. who cares who plans what? You hear from every article on the internet that when the girl plans dates and initiates "that it would kill a guy's interest!" Only the losers would become complacent, sit back, and let the girl take the lead. It doesn't work like that.

It's all about achieving balance.

Girls, don't initiate dates to reassure yourself that he's still interested in you. Plan a date because you want to and you want to spend time with the guy. I believe it's perfectly acceptable to plan a date after a guy has done so... hence, dating is a two-way street. Of course, always make sure he is investing just as much as you.

In the beginning, I feel guys should pursue the girl for a few dates and if things go well, and you're completely comfortable with each other, you should take turns. I'll probably receive comments saying "why should the guy do all the work at the start blah blah" but to be honest, I wouldn't want to be with a guy with that attitude. I like to know they're interested. Yes, dating/courtship has changed a LOT over the decades but it's core rituals are still the same: women DO like being pursued at the beginning and men like the chase. When that "chase" is over, is where things really begin chnage - either better or for worse.

Thoughts?

What I mean by "settle", is that people take what they can get basically.

I overheard some guys talking about girls who they wanna bang at school and it got me thinking... what if people just settle with what they can get but secretly deep down want someone hotter? I am taking about men, women, everyone. If they could get someone who is really hot, despite human morals and desires, would they do so and not settle? Would they chase after that really hot person if they liked them back and forget the person they fell in love with first?

For example if a super hot celebrity wanted to date you, would you take it, or settle with what you think you could get?

I asked my boyfriend what what he thought about this and this is what he said:

"I believe that appearances have nothing to do with true love. Appearances are deceiving after all. Someone that truly cares for you will accept you no matter what. Someone who will always think the other is beautiful. And if someone were to leave over something that shallow, they were never worth the time in the first place"

So are looks more important than I think, or am I overthinking and underestimating people's sense kf
judgement?