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Do you agree that you should OWN YOUR POWER! If you love someone then do you really need marriage? If your independent and self sufficient then should you retain that level of security and control over your future? Or do you think love conquers all?

Marriage is about the worst investment any wage earner, regardless of sex can make. Your significant other can rob, cheat, lie and steal from you and your on the hook to loose 50% of everything and still be paying for it financially years after the fact.

The concept of marriage is ruined in the modern age. Love, faith and morality does not hold up in court. The law is not moral or ethical in of it self, and it does not seek or intend to make itself so. Marriage is the only contract a person can make where the other person does not have to fulfill the terms of the agreement, and they still get paid in full! To battle it will cost you 10's of thousands in a court fight.

So as a man I say HELL YES its time for men to take their power back!!! But I am not just talking to men, women as well if you're a wage earner then you need to own your power and take control over your assets.

"I, Joe Doe, take thee, Jane Doe, to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith."

All that means JACK DIDDLY-SQUAT in a court of law... they cheat, lie and steal from you and you're on the hook to pay without any return on the investment. Steer clear of the trap. If you have a strong and powerful relationship, then you have it better than half the married people with all the legal protections of the law. Get married and you lose that protection over your assets and you pay in nothing but loss of happiness and ass pain.

So happy I'm in therapy. I've only been on here about... An hour. Y'all have some deep insecurities and twisted fantasies about relationships. Which is fine. I have mine too. But it's consistently the same problem most of you are dealing with that annoys me. The need for validation and reciprocation from blatantly obvious toxic people, or how to handle childish behavior or borderline sexual harassment. Starting to realize that by staying out of deep relationships has left me able to focus on myself a lot more to now be able to understand what boundaries and communication truly means. I've had so many meaningless relationships and ruined deeply good friendships that now I'm able to look back and learn from my mistakes. Ask yourself, what is it that you truly seek the most in someone else or rather what you want to give and then you'll start to understand what type of relationship you need to build. What is it that you want/give in a (monogamous) relationship?

My female coworker and I have been getting really close over the last few months, talking and flirting with each other, and in that time I developed strong feelings for her feelings I have never felt with any other woman in my life. I also heard from other coworkers who I'm close with that she confided in that she has feelings for me too, but the thing is, she started dating someone else who is also works at the same job.

Long story short, without getting into too much detail, I'm starting to have thoughts of gradually doing things that would get them to break up with each other. I don't see myself doing it in real life because I'm not that type of person to ruin a relationship no matter how I'm feeling, but in my head I'm a totally different person. I literally have a whole plan about what I could do. Am I fucked up person for having these thoughts?