My boyfriend is currently abroad for a couple of weeks. We try to stay connected as much as possible and I haven't tried long distance before and its my first relationship ever.
I was sceptical if we should continue cause I got scared and cold-feet about being an anxious person especially when we aren't physically together. He called me for 3 days every night after I reached out to him. This was the dynamic of our relationship but when we were physically close it wasn't an issue. I don't mind reaching out cause I'm genuinely interested and I care about him but given he's away and stressed with settling in and writing his thesis it might be overwhelming to call or text again before he replies.
I trust him cause he is the one who said he wants to be with me and asked me to stay together and get through this period. I texted him this morning a picture of myself in bed and he replied with excitement that it made his day. I replied that will be working but can't wait to catch up.
He checked my text later in the night but didn't reply or call me. I know it was his first day back at the office and he was reuniting with his colleagues so its possible he went out after work. I didn't call either cause I want to give him space to do his stuff and connect with me when he has time.
Our relationship is beautiful and before leaving he texted me that he read my letter and feels the same way and that I'm a treasure.
As a pessimistic person I tend to see the negative and I'm struggling to stay positive. I know that when he gets stressed or depressed he withdraws and he knows that I overthink a lot. He asked me to not feed into negative narrative I tell myself and not pay attention to the negative thoughts cause they aren't reality. We are 11 months together and full in love.
I don't want to ruin my relationship because I cannot handle myself when I don't hear from him.
Any advices on how to stay strong and trust my partner? We do have plans to meet in 2 weeks.
I was sceptical if we should continue cause I got scared and cold-feet about being an anxious person especially when we aren't physically together. He called me for 3 days every night after I reached out to him. This was the dynamic of our relationship but when we were physically close it wasn't an issue. I don't mind reaching out cause I'm genuinely interested and I care about him but given he's away and stressed with settling in and writing his thesis it might be overwhelming to call or text again before he replies.
I trust him cause he is the one who said he wants to be with me and asked me to stay together and get through this period. I texted him this morning a picture of myself in bed and he replied with excitement that it made his day. I replied that will be working but can't wait to catch up.
He checked my text later in the night but didn't reply or call me. I know it was his first day back at the office and he was reuniting with his colleagues so its possible he went out after work. I didn't call either cause I want to give him space to do his stuff and connect with me when he has time.
Our relationship is beautiful and before leaving he texted me that he read my letter and feels the same way and that I'm a treasure.
As a pessimistic person I tend to see the negative and I'm struggling to stay positive. I know that when he gets stressed or depressed he withdraws and he knows that I overthink a lot. He asked me to not feed into negative narrative I tell myself and not pay attention to the negative thoughts cause they aren't reality. We are 11 months together and full in love.
I don't want to ruin my relationship because I cannot handle myself when I don't hear from him.
Any advices on how to stay strong and trust my partner? We do have plans to meet in 2 weeks.
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I hate thinking so negatively and being my worst bully. I have the urge to reach out to him and open my heart and say that I dont know how to handle myself and I dont know to stay strong but I dont want to get him worried about my mental health especially cause he's away and will just mess with his own priorities. Its 2am and I really want to let him know that I'm thinking of him but then I realize he knows that I miss him and that I love him and there's no need for me to exaggerate my emotions.
