How to deal with my relationship anxiety?

[domo0906]

I have been in so many failed relationships where the guy lied to me and cheated on me. Every time I start dating a new guy I get so much anxiety from it and think they are going to do the same to me. I am currently dating a new guy and I really want things to work out with him. Should I tell him about my relationship anxiety or should I keep it to myself? I don't want him to think I am a burden or I'm crazy. He knows that my last relationship really fucked me up and I have trust issues.

[Anonymous]

In order to overcome, relationship anxiety, we must shift our focus inward. We have to look at what’s going on inside us, separate from our partner or the relationship. What critical inner voices are exacerbating our fears? What defenses do we possess that could be creating distance? This process of self-discovery can be a vital step in understanding the feelings that drive our behavior, and ultimately, shape our relationship. By looking into our past, we can gain better insight into where these feelings come from. What caused us to feel insecure or turned on ourselves in relation to love? You can start this journey for yourself by learning more about the fear of intimacy and how to identify and overcome your critical inner voice.

[domo0906]

Thank you that is really good advice. Whenever things are good, there is a little voice inside my head saying something bad is going to happen.

[rebeliouse]

@domo0906

why do the relationships keep failing?

[domo0906]

well guys cheat and lie. But some of my relationships fail because we have different goals in life. The reason I have anxiety is because I'm scared he will end up cheating on me.

[rebeliouse]

@domo0906
ok so first of all make sure you alline your goals with the guy ie find a guy with same goals as you.

why do guys cheat on you are you not very good looking? can you spend some time and improve your image like rebel wilson? it only took her a year and she found love after.

do guys cheat on you as you have low libio and not interested in sex or your too vanilla? if this is the case then you have to look deep inside yourself and decide if your going to change this about you or if you are going to have to look for a guy that also has no libido.

you will find a guy that matches your requirements but first of all you need to work out what you want and then put out your requirements to find the guy you want. do you like to hike then you need to put that out do you hate the outdoors then you need to put that out.

when you get a match then the guy won't cheat as you will be a match

[rebeliouse]

@domo0906
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[Daniela1982]

Obviously, you have bad tastes in men. Maybe you just need to take a time out to reflect on these short relationships and try to figure out what red flags you missed and how you could be more successful in the future. And no, don't tell him about your trust issues. That would start you out on the wrong foot to begin with.

[domo0906]

He asked me about my past relationships and how they ended.

[Daniela1982]

You don't need to explain in detail. You just have to say "It didn't work out so I'll leave it at that." and move on to another subject.

[domo0906]

ok but that still does not help me with how I can overcome my relationship anxiety. I thought it was sweet that he wanted to know the details though