So here's the thing. We hit off a few months ago, and he's always had casual flings. And when he it it off, he said he wanyed us to work towards a relationship. We were already exclusive.
At the beginning of the month, he asked for a break because he needed to focus on a lot he had to deal with. He currently deals with depression and anxiety, as well as family and his work place, and understandably everything is taking a toll on him.
We had set the conditions, including no flings, and gave ourselves two months before we reconnected, but there were still some things I kept bugging him about.
And because of the bugging, recently he decided call off the whole thing, explaining that he wasn't in the right headspace and wouldn't be able to give me what I wanted.
But he also said he really wants to be with me but needs to deal with his issues first. And he's not stopping me from seeing anyone, but he really hopes we reconnect when the time is right and we are both healed, because I myself have a lot to unpack.
Although I understood, but I was quite worried about the potential casual flings he would have. When I asked him about it, he said he would make no promises. I felt hurt, because I thought he would still want to remain exclusive to me. I mean, he had already mentioned that he just needed to handle his issue. And he didn't even say when it was going to be over. Even I don't expect him to know when, given he's dealing with anxiety and depression and a toxic family.
But does that mean he has the right to have flings with other people? He didn't say outrightly that he would be quick to do it, but he said he can't promise. We follow each other on social media, and the last thing I want to see is him being playful with other women. I don't want to be rude and block him either, but it's quite hurtful to know that he'd be open to casual sex with other people.
I don't know if I'd be able to get past him sleeping with other people just because we're not together.
