We’ve been talking for about 7 months now. We act like we’re together; we see each other almost every day, he calls and texts me all the time, we kiss and he holds me, we have sex a lot and sometimes he acts like he’s making love to me and he always cuddles me when in bed, etc. Aside from that, he tells me that I’m special, that he’s never felt this way, that I’m a beautiful and amazing person, that I’m the most kind person he knows, he loves spending time with me, and that he cares so much for me. He’s very shy about his feelings and doesn’t like to talk about them (he says it’s not masculine and he’s not comfortable) but he has really opened up to me about a lot and we’ve had a lot of really deep conversations. However, I asked him the other day what we were and he said we aren’t officially boyfriend girlfriend yet because he’s not looking for a relationship right now; he wants to focus on school and isn’t ready for the obligations and such that comes with a relationship. We both just got out of bad relationships (they cheated) so on one side I believe him. Even after I was acting sad when he said that, he kept hugging me and kissing me and saying “baby don’t be sad I promise I’m not going to hurt you I really like you and don’t feel like I don’t want to be with you because that’s not it”. I do trust him; he is typically very real and honest with me but I also feel stupid since that is seen as a red flag. I really like him. Am I stupid for waiting a few months? I did tell him I would eventually want more.
The guy I’m seeing said he doesn’t want a relationship right now but we’re exclusive, am I stupid for waiting?
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