Search Results: he finds me attractive but that's it

30F and I wonder if most women get where I’m coming from. I’ve never been in a real relationship, saw someone very briefly in my early twenties. Haven’t had sex either since then and don’t feel the need to, masturbating doesn’t do anything for me. Also doesn’t help that I’m not the friendliest, the only way I’ve met up with guys over the years were on dating apps. I get attention on them but it just feels off in a way, I’ve always felt like I am going to end up alone. I don’t want kids but like the idea of getting married, over the years people have justified my single status to being picky or shy etc. Those are excuses or cop outs, I feel like compared to the average woman though I likely get less attention from guys in person.

Literally the only attention I’ve gotten from guys I find attractive are on dating apps, in person maybe someone I was outside with would tell me that this guy looked at me etc (on and off throughout the years). But they never make it known to me directly, it makes me second guess things. It’s like I always wonder why I never have a boyfriend if I’m told I’m attractive, I also hear about a lot of introverted/socially awkward women that are in long term relationships. I really wonder if finding the right person is the answer to all my issues, I’ve spoken to guys in the past and tend to find ways to get out of it before I determine if they’re a good fit or not. Something about guys has always felt…different. Since I was in my teens, never got the craze with being boy crazy etc.

Which would be the better option if you were approaching 40 and want to just start a family asap.

you have a part time job online and No time to meet others to get to know them, you have to just jump now or lose your only chance

None of these are ideal of course but that’s life we have to work with what we get.

which is the better option?

Person 1: is attractive, tall (182cm), fit, lives with his mom, poor, trying to find a job but doesn’t have one yet. He feels depressed and has anxiety because can’t find a job and doesn’t know how to get out of that situation fast. He wants a family but feels he can’t because of his situation.

Person 2: not so attractive but not super ugly, he’s overweight with big stomach, short (175cm) not rich but has his own flat, has a job, has mouth herpes, (you will have it too if you choose this one) and if you have children with this person likely your children will have it too he said. This person is not depressed but feels pressure and sadness that he has not found a partner yet to build a family.

if you’re a man imagine it was your situation it as if they are the women and you have to choose.

One is attractive, in face and body but poor and depressed about it.

the other one is not so attractive, overweight, has a job, own flat but has mouth herpes.

which would you choose if you just had no more time to meet others.