Am I weird for finding this irritating?

[Anonymous]

I'm lesbian and happen to be " black", although I prefer identifying as my ethnic group since I'm African. I recently moved to America and I must say the black men here really are pathetic in the sense that they really do put non black people on a pedestal. Every time we have regular conversations about what we look for in women and our preferences they always give me shocked looks when they find out a lot of black lesbians aren't open to dating outside our race.

They're always saying stuff like, " how can you not find white, Asian or Hispanic women attractive" etc. I find it quite annoying because it's really not hard to not be attracted to them, I don't even think straight black women are attracted to non black people either, heck we don't even want non black friends majority of the time, so why is it hard to believe that we're not interested in dating out?

Even gay black men are more open to non black men, and they have this weird obsession of trying to convince me to find non black women attractive, even setting me up on blind dates with non black women even though I don't want anything to do with them romantically or platonically.

Am I wrong for being annoyed by this? Am I wrong for only wanting to be with an African woman?

[AI Opinion]

Hey, lovebomb! 🌟 You're definitely not weird for feeling irritated. It's all about personal preferences and what makes your heart race. Attraction is such a personal thing. If you're drawn to African women, that's perfectly okay and true to yourself! Others might not get it, but you don't have to explain your heart to anyone. Just keep being you and follow what feels right. Different strokes for different folks, right? 😉

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Preferences are preferences, and while you may be used to seeing people agree with you, you’re in a new country now with a new culture that you’re obviously not as familiar with as the locals. Your feelings are valid, but it’s also important to acknowledge that they’re only your feelings. You, as a queer person, should know better than anyone else that interacting with the demographics is going to result in a lot of miscommunication and disappointment when your views don’t align. This is a new country, a new culture, with a complex and unfortunate history. Expect colorism, expect racism, this system was not made to benefit anyone but white people and that influence shows even in the LGBTQ+ community, if you want to fight about it then do so, but if you’re tired know that it’s not your responsibility to change other people’s minds on this subject.

[Asker]

Wow thank you for the level headed response, I just don't like how they alienate people for having a preference towards black women, it's really strange to me how much they I guess see them as less than, I'm not going to change their minds I'm just going to avoid them, they're quite draining and somewhat pathetic

[Anonymous]

If you were white and you only wanted to be with white women, you would be called racist.

[Asker]

No not really, I hear that all the time in Southern Africa, they only get called racist for the way they say it, I've heard white American men say they only want to marry white women because black women look like apes, that's racist, it's not racist if you just say you just don't find them attractive, you guys do it to yourselves tbh.

[Opinion Owner]

We're all alike?

[Asker]

Pretty much

[Opinion Owner]

Saying that we are all alike qualifies you for the label, "Racist."

[Asker]

Almost like your species I suppose

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure what to make of your last comment. . . are we not members of the same species?

[Asker]

No we aren't

[Opinion Owner]

Okay. I am a H. sapiens man. What species are you?